dear raji,
i think web 'friendship' should be taken in the light of the environment. let us take this forum, for a change.
all of us are anonymous, in the sense, we present a moniker here, which may or may not be our true self. which is not so, with 'skin touch and pinch' friendship. for the latter, there are more facets of the friendship, and there are more filters.
whereas, here in the forum, we go selectively, from topic to topic, and go whether it is applicable, and whether we should bypass, and what 'avatar' we should adopt for the same.
also, we are provided the benefits of instant reaction, and removing any misunderstandings. you might notice, how are, are posts, requesting clarifications. most of them, are almost, immediate reactions, and if found wanting even 1% agreeement, the default tendency is to jump on the person poster, and rarely on the topic itself.
for every point that you say, that you have been betrayed, could there be occassions, that you too have betrayed, belittled or insulted someone here, without knowing ofcourse, and who has not had the courage or the inclination to point it out? would that person not be surprised, when all of sudden, the last straw drops on the camel's back, and up comes a flare up, completely out of proportion?
my own inclination is not to point out insults, most of the time. with people whom i react more often, and some with whom, i exchange pr msgs, i am more forthright. others, i just stop reacting, and responding, because to me it is a pain, to maintain an interest in a person/posting, if that person, ever 'insults' me. and that is my perception of 'insult', because, we all write in english, and much depends on the tone in which it is read.
one needs to be very careful and gentle when nurturing web friendships. one should never mock or sound mocking. to me that would be a death blow to any inclination to proceed. and damage control would be extensive.
hope you dont mind my thoughts on this post of yours. i suspect you feel someone has hurt you. maybe you need to ask them for clarification, and clear the air? to me, if i really cared, that is what i would do.
btw, many a times, to be frank, when i read two sentence cryptic posts, i am at a loss, to distinguish between catty remarks, one upmanship, pure humour, repartees and plain simple answers. add to the confusion is all those animated electronic caricatures - for example someone blowing a whistle..what does that imply? all these are simply above and beyond me - only to prove, that web communication is not as simple as talking to someone face to face.
haveagooddaygoodlady!
ps. as a rule, i never meet my web friendships. for i have heard, that whenever that happens, it is a huge disappointment. a one dimension 'friendship' in a forum, may not, i think, transfer successfully, to flesh and blood.
pps. i have found that any feedback, including this one, sounds harsh. i dont know if you got the same impression, but if you did, i request you to discount the harshness, and substitute your usual soft gentle tone in reading this. that is all this post is meant to be. no more. no less. thank you. 
