7 Reasons Not To Marry An Indian Woman

[prasad1]

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In a country of 1.2 billion people and with 48.2% of them being women, we know better than to generalise. But, Indian women are absolutely exceptional, and we’ve listed the top 7 reasons for you not to marry an Indian Woman. Even if you happen to be an Indian man.
1) She’s gorgeous. Yes, we’ve said it. With her kajal and dusky skin and gorgeous hair, it is hard not to get distracted. And, she’s going to be better looking than you. Just saying.
2) She’s too colourful. And by that, we don’t mean that she loves Holi or that she just likes colour in her life. She LOVES colour in her life. With everything that she does, her life will never stop being colourful. In the clothes she wears, in the way she does up her home, and in the way she lives her life.
3) She loves her family. You marry an Indian woman, you marry her family. And, while tradition dictates that she leaves her house when she marries you, she’s not really left them behind. Her family is her life.
4) She’s probably stronger than you. We don’t mean that in the physical sense, although, of course, there may be some women stronger than you. But, when you’ve spent almost every hour of your life fighting against a male chauvinistic society; when from the moment you step out of your house, you’re fighting a battle; you’re battling eve teasers, creeps in public transport, men who think you’re a horrible driver just because you’re a woman and much more; when you battle all of these every day, you’re going to emerge a strong person. One that is definitely stronger and braver than you.
5) She’s independent. The modern Indian woman is more educated and well travelled and well read than her peer from perhaps 30 years ago. You were probably expecting a submissive Indian lady who has no other interest than to stay at home and cook and clean for you.
6) She’s busy building a career. And chances are that she's earning just as much as you are.
7) She’s passionate. Having grown up on a daily diet of Indian dramas, you’ll find that she’s passionate beyond a daily recommended dose.

So, there you have it. Don’t tell us we didn’t warn you. If you have any more reasons why you shouldn’t marry an Indian woman, we’d love to hear it in the comments below!

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I am happily married to an Indian women, this post is in Chit Chat section for a reason. I also do not have any sons. LOL

 

[JR]

She may dig your eyes out, if they have been roving: Indian women have Kannagi, Sita, et al for their role model and are the most chaste women, who expect equal loyalty from their husbands. So if it is a man with roving eyes, or one who likes to admire movie stars, public women, etc, or simply have a taste for admiring other women, then better not marry an Indian woman!

 

[renuka]

She may dig your eyes out, if they have been roving: Indian women have Kannagi, Sita, et al for their role model and are the most chaste women, who expect equal loyalty from their husbands. So if it is a man with roving eyes, or one who likes to admire movie stars, public women, etc, or simply have a taste for admiring other women, then better not marry an Indian woman!

Dear JR,

LOL! digging out eyes?

But why do we always assume that its a man who will not stay faithful? Dont we Indian females have the capability too? Why underestimate ourselves by making us sound as if we have no seductive value?

Never underestimate any woman...the power of seduction is always in the hands of a female..even Maya is a feminine principle...we females..Deluding is our name! We are fully capable of shooting anyone thru their heart and giving Love a BAD name.

Frankly speaking I do not admire Kannagi or Sita..Kannagi is an arsonist! She burned down a city just for the sake of a good for nothing husband.

Sita is not as meek or as all suffering as portrayed....she is a strong willed woman who never needed a male in her life...she made sure Ravan got killed and she finally "divorced" Lord Rama left Him and went back into the earth. She ditched both the R's.. Rama and Ravan...poor guys!LOL

If I were in Seeta's position I am pretty sure I would have developed Stockholm's syndrome and fallen in love with Ravan!LOL

 

[JR]

Dear Renuka,

I think I wrote it because the topic indirectly said, "Don't mess with Indian women". I would have played the devil's advocate (by supporting men) if the topic said similarly ;-).

My own views on Kannagi and Sita differ from yours. In our stories and mythology, always the ruler suffers if any of his people err (as in the ruler of the place getting cursed when the simple cowherd axes down Srinivasa), or the people suffer when the ruler errs (as in Sri Hanuman setting fire to Lanka, Kannagi setting fire to Madurai, etc). Can be viewed that the said people have so much spiritual prowess and their agenda is an important one that they were able to do that.

 

[sarang]

Sp indian men can marry an italian or someone from a progressive country like usa. And then settle in USA as the prospective maidens (if any) from such countries are free from the 7 bewitching qualities. If americans and italians are not careful, indians may snatch their virgins!

 

[renuka]

Dear JR,

Actually if we women follow Kannagi ideals than we should not gauge out the eyes of husbands that have a rowing eye!LOL

Cos Kannagi was very supportive of her husbands extra marital liaison with Madhavi to the extent that she even carried him in a basket when he was unwell and left him at the door step of Madhavi's house.

So what say you?

 

[JR]

Dear JR,

Actually if we women follow Kannagi ideals than we should not gauge out the eyes of husbands that have a rowing eye!LOL

Cos Kannagi was very supportive of her husbands extra marital liaison with Madhavi to the extent that she even carried him in a basket when he was unwell and left him at the door step of Madhavi's house.

So what say you?

Good one! I am at a loss for words... (and thoughts) on this one! I welcome forum seniors with good imagination to answer this query!!

"Is adhering to husband's ill-formed wishes as in case of Kannagi the duty of a chaste woman?".

 

[prasad1]

No progressive Indian women is going to put up with Kannagi or Sita situation in modern life. Even those narrations were by men writing about women. So it was a man's view of ideal women.

 

[sarang]

Seems men know more about women than women themselves and define conditions for progressive behaviour and traits. Women beware!

 

[sarang]

Who one should consider as relevant? Indira Nooyi or Kochar or Shobha de?

Or Nityashree, Visaka Hari, or countless such successful women?

 

[renuka]

Who one should consider as relevant? Indira Nooyi or Kochar or Shobha de?

Or Nityashree, Visaka Hari, or countless such successful women?

I feel the most relevant is ourselves. I do not have any role model even though I might admire some people for various reasons..for example I consider Sunny Leone a successful women.

 

[JR]

I too admire women of all walks of life for their unique contribution to society. In that perspective, anyone living out their true wishes and desires does not automatically become a sinner... I'm speaking of Sunny Leone or Silk smitha! Sinning comes into the picture when it involves a 3rd person who maybe, in any way, be the recipient of undue betrayal... in case there is no such thing, people can be said to just act out their swadharma and thus can be viewed in a positive light no matter what they did.

Coming to Kannagi, I think that her dedication to her own love to her spouse deserves commendation and emphasis... to the current society and current 'kaala', her actions might not make much sense. But when considering the kaala of Kannagi's time, it might. She was a dependent person, in whose idea her hubby is still a good man. So she decided to go her husband's way! Shows the extent of her love and dedication to spouse.

 

[sarang]

Unless we judge kannagi with what ilango wrote, we will be trivializing her character, intentions and deeds. Why kovalan came back to her and what he said to her as expiation of his bad action.

 

[renuka]

Coming to Kannagi, I think that her dedication to her own love to her spouse deserves commendation and emphasis... to the current society and current 'kaala', her actions might not make much sense. But when considering the kaala of Kannagi's time, it might. She was a dependent person, in whose idea her hubby is still a good man. So she decided to go her husband's way! Shows the extent of her love and dedication to spouse.

Well I guess the same scenario can happen in present times too but with a twist..for example if a woman gets a husband like Kovalan..she can still be supportive of him provided he allows the concept of an open marriage so that she gets her "freedom of expression" too.

Its still chaste cos its with consent of purushan!LOL

 

[JR]

In case of Kannagi and Sita, there is a 'take home' message. It is important we do not miss it!

Though all their actions might not be making sense from the angle of women's empowerment, the take home message is that they had such a fierce love for their husband that they could and had the spiritual power to burn out an entire city or wipe out the entire Asura clan! Therefore in my view, they deserve to be seen as role models because they had the power of fierce love, loyalty and dedication!

 

[Naina_Marbus]

... to the current society and current 'kaala', her actions might not make much sense. But when considering the kaala of Kannagi's time, it might. She was a dependent person, in whose idea her hubby is still a good man. So she decided to go her husband's way! Shows the extent of her love and dedication to spouse.

Even in the current 'kaala', there is Hillary Clinton, who is not a dependent person, yet she stood solidly behind her husband in spite of his extra-marital affair with an assistant!.

 

[vgane]

Are the points in OP strengths or weakness....I would call them strengths...A man marry's a woman for building a family..Not for competing with her

 

[renuka]

Even in the current 'kaala', there is Hillary Clinton, who is not a dependent person, yet she stood solidly behind her husband in spite of his extra-marital affair with an assistant!.

If we read about Bill Clinton and Hillary's relationship from their young days..it was not really a Husband-Wife relationship.
Both sort of needed each other to be in power as Hilliary was always more intelligent than Bill Clinton...and Hillary always had the ambition to be the first female President of US.
She has always been the pillar of strength for Bill Clinton partly becos she was using him as launching pad for her own future career and he was well aware of this too..in fact there is a rumour that these 2 got into a marriage of political convenience for their own respective future.

So in such relationships...each other affairs are not really a big deal..and both will make sure that their goal will not be derailed just for some Lewinsky and cigars!LOL

 

[JR]

Maybe Hillary has, as her role model for chastity, one of our own... Smt.Ravana! (Mandodari). The poor woman stuck to Ravana even if he had a million 'other connections'!

 

[renuka]

Is chastity a virtue? I feel chastity or promiscuity is just personal choice..neither is a virtue or a sin.

After all eating, drinking and even sex are merely desires driven be the senses....just say a person eats too little or eats too much..no one is ever going to call him a sinner for eating too much or virtuous for eating too little likewise..since sex is also a sensed based desire..why should promiscuity alone be viewed as a major flaw and chastity as a virtue?

Doesnt make sense right? Isnt the body our own and what we do with it our personal choice?

 

[Vaagmi]

Is chastity a virtue? I feel chastity or promiscuity is just personal choice..neither is a virtue or a sin.
After all eating, drinking and even sex are merely desires driven be the senses....just say a person eats too little or eats too much..no one is ever going to call him a sinner for eating too much or virtuous for eating too little likewise..since sex is also a sensed based desire..why should promiscuity alone be viewed as a major flaw and chastity as a virtue?
Doesnt make sense right? Isnt the body our own and what we do with it our personal choice?

Virtue and sin are ideas which we have invented for a certain amount of discipline in living. Otherwise it would be chaos and the world will be topsy-turvy. No need to elaborate this to a doctor who knows gene expressions well.

When I eat or drink it is for me and I am the only one involved. I don't drink a glass of water and materialise another glass full of water from no where. LOL.

similarly I do not eat a biryani and get another plate materialising from no where.

These are desires which are satisfied and still I remain what I am and the world remains just the same.

Sex too is sense based. But it is a different ball game.

I need another human being to enjoy/fulfill this desire and reach satiation. Without virtue and sin to influence my decisions, the world may become a highly chaotic place because of incest, as the desire needs just another cooperating human being. Nothing more nothing less. The regressive gene expressions will be the order of the day and the society will have serious problems to handle.

I may end up getting another third being free for nothing at the end of the process if I do not take precautions.

and this desire needs a lot of mental metrics and processes before and after the satiation. A whole industry will come to a grinding halt if virtue and sin are not there leaving sex free. The industry spins tales involving yearning for the forbidden fruit and poets have made immortal epics on that.

and finally the pleasure of transgression will not be available for the few who are oriented to that if sin, virtue, chastity, loyalty etc., lose their meaning or are trashed.

LOL.

 

[renuka]

Virtue and sin are ideas which we have invented for a certain amount of discipline in living..

Exactly!

Its just for maintaining some order in society.

But the fact remains that chastity is not a virtue and neither is promiscuity a sin.

So we humans need not brag that we are chaste or be ashamed that we are promiscuous.

 

[Vaagmi]

Okay leave virtue and its opposite. Call it x and y. x is good for the society and y being obnoxious is bad for the society. I follow x to avoid chaos in the society and live for the maximum good of the society and me. If I adopt y it will be the opposite of this. Relating my x to virtue and y to sin is not difficult for me. But may be difficult for some.
I can be proud of my x for obvious reasons.

 

[renuka]

Relating my x to virtue and y to sin is not difficult for me. But may be difficult for some.
I can be proud of my x for obvious reasons.

Lets autosum this x,y z story.

To compensate for a lack of opportunity sometimes pride helps!LOL

 

[Vaagmi]

Lets autosum this x,y z story.

To compensate for a lack of opportunity sometimes pride helps!LOL

For every sin opportunities are plenty. But many human beings consciously avoid the sins because they are harmful to the body, soul and the society.

Problem is with autosumming up. Just sum up. dont autosummup. autosumming up is just the sum of the parts. While the result of summing up is the parts, the sum and the happiness that the result gives. LOL.

Human beings do not ever become the slaves of just the hormones and pheromones because they also have a mind.
Computer throws up just the sum. Depending on the underlying algorithm it may add up all the numbers presented even if they are negative integers. Humans are not computers. LOL.

Regretting missed opportunities when combined with lack of pride about the discipline is a dangerous concoction. It can turn lethal at the next first opportunity. LOL.