Are men meant to be monogamous?

[P.J.]

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Are men meant to be monogamous?

There are two schools of thought when it comes to men and monogamy. One says men are meant to stay with a single partner for life, and the other says that men are biologically predetermined to spread their seed as widely as possible.




Followers of the second theory explain the predominance of monogamous relationships - marriage, cohabiting, settling down and so on - in modern society as a consequence of religion and social convention rather than evolution. Men aren’t meant to be monogamous, they say, but are forced to be so by prevailing societal norms.
Now new research challenges that view, and suggests monogamy may have been part of human evolution after all. But can it really answer that thorny old question: are men meant to stay with the same partner for life?



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Are men meant to be monogamous?

 

[biswa]

The latter.

Blame Manu for the current state of affairs!

 

[renuka]

Hey what is this?

This is not fair!

What about women?

I feel both men and women are not made for monogamy and monoandry respectively!

 

[P.J.]

renukaji

did you not know " matran thottathu Malligai" gives more sweet scent than ones own????

of course there are exceptions...


Here is the song


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gH_ATGp5As0

 

[renuka]

renukaji

did you not know " matran thottathu Malligai" gives more sweet scent than ones own????

Dear PJ sir,

What is the meaning of " matran thottathu Malligai"


Anyway I am not fond of jasmine flower..its smell is just too overpowering and can trigger a headache.

 

[krish44]

Dear PJ sir,

What is the meaning of " matran thottathu Malligai"


Anyway I am not fond of jasmine flower..its smell is just too overpowering and can trigger a headache.

Aeyo Raji amma konjam renuka ji kku tamil solli kodungalen. rombha kashtam tamizh theriavittal.LOL

 

[krish44]

Are men meant to be monogamous?

There are two schools of thought when it comes to men and monogamy. One says men are meant to stay with a single partner for life, and the other says that men are biologically predetermined to spread their seed as widely as possible.




Followers of the second theory explain the predominance of monogamous relationships - marriage, cohabiting, settling down and so on - in modern society as a consequence of religion and social convention rather than evolution. Men aren’t meant to be monogamous, they say, but are forced to be so by prevailing societal norms.
Now new research challenges that view, and suggests monogamy may have been part of human evolution after all. But can it really answer that thorny old question: are men meant to stay with the same partner for life?



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Are men meant to be monogamous?

it appears men are monogamous due to societal pressures alone . some have the capacity and the urge to have more than one relationship which transforms into one monogmous for society and a few extra marital escapades

 

[tbs]

Aeyo Raji amma konjam renuka ji kku tamil solli kodungalen. rombha kashtam tamizh theriavittal.LOL

hi

renuka vu ku tamil therium...but she makes it litteral meaning...not like kavundamani double meaning tamizh....

 

[renuka]

hi

renuka vu ku tamil therium...but she makes it litteral meaning...not like kavundamani double meaning tamizh....

TBS Garu,

I know Tamil fairly well but not that well..what I dont know I will ask..but why is no one telling me the meaning so far.

The best is I will ask my father.

 

[renuka]

Ok guys I just called my dad he said that " matran thottathu Malligai" that the Jasmine in another's garden is also fragrant...and he added that the full saying is " matran thottathu Malligaikkum mannum undu"


So now I know what PJ sir meant!LOL

 

[P.J.]

renukaji

i won't get head ache from "matran thottathu Malligai"

 

[prasad1]

Every research has a bias. If you have a position on any topic, you can skew the research to that point of view.
Philip Morris the giant tobacco firms used to fund so called "third Party" researches. If the research results are negative towards tobacco they will buy the research and put it away in a safe place. If the results were favorable towards tobacco they will publish it.

Similarly there are monogamous and polygamous males, it depends on who is asking the question.

“A happy man marries the girl he loves; a happier man loves the girl he marries.” – anonymous quote
“Marriage is not a ritual or an end. It is a long, intricate, intimate dance together and nothing matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner.” – Amy Bloom

“Sexiness wears thin after a while and beauty fades, but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that’s a real treat.” – Joanne Woodward

“A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush,” also sometimes given as, “A bird in the hand is better than two in the bush,” is a proverb saying that it is better to stick with something you already have, rather than pursuing something you may never get. This proverb is a very popular warning, widely used in many English-speaking countries.

 

[prasad1]

Evolutionary psychologists have suggested that men are more likely to have extramarital sex, partially due to the male urge to "spread genes" by broadcasting sperm. Both males and females, these scientists say, try to up their evolutionary progress by seeking out high-quality mates, albeit in different ways.

"The human species has evolved to make commitments between males and females in regards to raising their offspring, so this is a bond," said Jane Lancaster, an evolutionary anthropologist at the University of New Mexico. "However that bond can fit into all kinds of marriage patterns – polygyny, single parenthood, monogamy."


The human species is somewhat unique amongst mammals in that fathers do invest in raising children .

"We do know that in humans we do have this pretty strong pair bond, and there's more paternal investment than in most other primates," said Daniel Kruger, a social and evolutionary psychologist at the University of Michigan's School of Public Health. "We're special in this regard, but at the same time like most mammals, we are a polygynous species." Kruger said humans are considered "mildly polygynous," in which a male mates with more than one female.


Whether or not the married or otherwise committed individuals stray for sex depends on the costs and benefits.


"There is plenty of evidence that males have less to lose than females by having extramarital sex," Lancaster said. "Having less to lose, it's easier for them to do it."


Women, however, could lose "dad's" resources when it comes to raising their kids. "For women, the well-being of their children is not improved by promiscuity," Lancaster told LiveScience.


Some scientists view both social and sexual monogamy in humans as a societal structure rather than a natural state.


"I don't think we are a monogamous animal," said Pepper Schwartz, a professor of sociology at the University of Washington in Seattle. "A really monogamous animal is a goose - which never mates again even if its mate is killed."


She added, "Monogamy is invented for order and investment - but not necessarily because it's 'natural.'"

Are Humans Meant to Be Monogamous?
http://anthropologist.livejournal.com/1205353.html

 

[P.J.]

prasadji

please take it easy, you have lot of issues to argue in General Section,

Sometime we require fun too.. just for diversion and relaxation..

 

[prasad1]

prasadji

please take it easy, you have lot of issues to argue in General Section,

Sometime we require fun too.. just for diversion and relaxation..

I did not understand your admonition. My comment on this post were mostly the research others have done on the subject, and to that subject alone. Please point me to my comments that made you write this post#14.