Normally, Aupasana starts on two occasions. On the Avani Avittam
day, a bachelor is permitted to perform aupasana. For a person, at
the time of wedding, Aupasana plays an important role. That is why,
these days, Sastrigals do not permit the visitors to hand shake with
the newly wedded couple, until the Aupasana is complete.
Hence, from that day onwards, a person is permitted to do Aupasana
until he turns into a Sanyasi or untill his/her demise. The sacred fire is
the Witness to the wedding and it is clearly explained in Vedic
rules too. However, you may like to read the following for further
clarifications.
Aupasana and Women from the Chapter "Grhasthasrama", in Hindu Dharma : kamakoti.org:
Balasubramanian
Normally, Aupasana starts on two occasions. On the Avani Avittam
day, a bachelor is permitted to perform aupasana. For a person, at
the time of wedding, Aupasana plays an important role. That is why,
these days, Sastrigals do not permit the visitors to hand shake with
the newly wedded couple, until the Aupasana is complete.
Hence, from that day onwards, a person is permitted to do Aupasana
until he turns into a Sanyasi or untill his/her demise. The sacred fire is
the Witness to the wedding and it is clearly explained in Vedic
rules too. However, you may like to read the following for further
clarifications.
Aupasana and Women from the Chapter "Grhasthasrama", in Hindu Dharma : kamakoti.org:
Balasubramanian
I said [in an earlier talk ] that members of all castes must perform aupasana. The husband and the wife must do it together. Even when the husband is away the wife must perform it by offering unbroken rice grains in the sacrificial fire. The Vedas themselves have given women such a right.
Aupasana is the only Vedic right that a woman is entitled to perform on her own. Of course, there are so many pauranic vratas and pujas that she can perform according to the sastras, but these belong to a different category. Besides, she has naturally a share in all the works of her husband. Apart from caring for the household, she does not have to perform any rite (other than aupasana). Even if she does, it will not yield any fruit, for such is the rule according to the Vedic dharmasastras.
Mr. Sangom, i have read a lot of your posts and feel privileged that you responded along with so many other respected people...
I should have mentioned i am married and perform sandhyavandhanam. But interested to know how aupasanam can be done. I see many have responded on who to do and when, but is it too much to ask (as a simple question in the forum) for a reference for how to do Aupasanam? Meaning, is there a link or a book i can buy to learn that..Much appreciate all your patience..