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Nice 'emotion based' speech P J Sir. But must have been a few decades ago! Now a days, it is very easy to cook Indian food

in the U S of A, if either the husband or wife like cooking! So, those NRIs don't miss the 'ammA kai maNam'! In Sing. Chennai

also, the son when married opts for 'thani kudiththanam' in the same city! If settled in another city in India, the meeting will

not be frequent. And...... Just for doing the 'funeral rites' on time, it is not fair to ask the children not to go abroad!!

There is no gain without loss! The NRI's lose domestic help but gain the freedom which is most wanted by the youngsters! :peace:
 
Raji Madam

Even though we are Accustomed to live here, we also feel the missing of MAN VASANAI.
You are all planning to meet in December 2013, how much i wish to be a part of that meeting, only i Know.

We miss so many Family functions and relatives when we are here in US.

Most of the Boys/ Girls who have moved to foreign lands feel how much they miss their native place.

Even though this Pattimandram took place a few years back only, probably about 5 years ( not decades as Kalyana Malai Pattimadram itself started only a few years back ) it is still relevant to all those who live abroad.
 
One of the Best Speech i ever heard in a Patti Mandram

Probably Sri.sangom Sir will agree with the most of the points in the speech.

I wish more NRI/ Parents who are in India/ abroad see this thread!!

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Dear Shri PJ,

I think I have failed to give you a correct impression about myself.

I do not agree with most of the points in this overly emotional Pattimanram. Our boys and girls going abroad are well aware of the difficulties and privations which they may have to face in foreign lands. They usually go there mentally fully prepared and have no complaints. In this Pattimanram, things are very much twisted, according to me.

My difference with some of the overseas Indian citizens (OCIs) is when they start thinking that the foreign country is the "promised land" and their home country, India, has ever so many warts and scars without removal of which, a "civilized life" for them is impossible in India. அரசனை நம்பி புருஷனைக் கை விடுவது போல் is what I am reminded off.
 
The contents in the video just doesn't sync, at least for me.

The good lady has taken pains to elaborate the emotions/nostalgia that might be compromised for greener pastures, but that such experiences are emotional moments (in the mind) gives away the fact that they are not No. 1 on the priority list...

Moreover, there is a tendency among NRIs (probably even among those who have no gone abroad), once they are well settled, to reflect back on the little "big" things that were apparently missed out in their quest for wealth. They long to become the Roja who had so many "chinna chinna aasai" ignoring the fact that they very well could have savoured them earlier.

Well if all these emotional moments are true, why does not every NRI, who thinks so, return to India?

Patti mandram is to rake up people emotionally and in the process, time passes as well.
 
Auh Sir

Many NRI after getting US citizenship return to India working in the same company , receiving almost same salary in Indian Rupees; most boys/ girls wish to be with their aged parents instead of putting them in Paid Old age homes.


Many American Companies have their Branches also in India, and if an NRI wishes to opt to go over to India, they can easily do it..


[FONT=&quot] It is it the case of distance making the heart grow fonder? [/FONT][FONT=&quot]The need to reconnect with home make these guys move to their country?[/FONT]
 
Auh Sir

Many NRI after getting US citizenship return to India working in the same company , receiving almost same salary in Indian Rupees; most boys/ girls wish to be with their aged parents instead of putting them in Paid Old age homes.


Many American Companies have their Branches also in India, and if an NRI wishes to opt to go over to India, they can easily do it..


It is it the case of distance making the heart grow fonder? The need to reconnect with home make these guys move to their country?

Dear PJ,

I don't think it is "many NRI"; only some do so. Again, it is correct that they ensure that they have become US citizens and that they get the rupee equivalent in Indian Rupees here in India, because that will enable them to live as the uppermost crests of the indian society, invest here in land and other ways and make a sizeable fortune. Such people also put their aged and infirm parents in rented/purchased haouses and appoint one or more nurses, servants, cooks etc., to look after. I understand that Pondicherry is somehow preferred for this.

It is not a case of distance making the heart grow fonder (there may be some exceptions) but the shrewd calculations learned from Uncle Sam's way of life.
 
One of the Best Speech i ever heard in a Patti Mandram

Probably Sri.sangom Sir will agree with the most of the points in the speech.

I wish more NRI/ Parents who are in India/ abroad see this thread!!

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hi paddhu sir,

i saw this pattimanram many years back..i dont deny some factors...i have both experiences very well..i lived and served

my country during KARGIL WAR...now im in USA as a permanent resident....this speach more emotional and sentimental

like our tamil mega serial CHITHHI....but in reality ....who really respect humanity in india?......i had bitter experiences

with relatives/friends in india.... IF I HAVE ENOUGH MONEY....THEN THE SOCIETY/COMMUNITY RESPECTS MONEY....

now i have dollars...so all are welcoming me in india.....its sad part...i agree ..we miss a lot in USA....still im happy in USA....
 
tbs Sir

I have great respect for you since you underwent Gurukula Vasam and also served in Army!!

I have seen pain in the eyes of boys who fly from US to India on hearing the death news their beloved parents,

seeing them in ice box make their heart cry.

I was working in Calcutta when my father died and i could not make it to Chennai immediately, and that pain is still with me.

Yes, i agree with you that sometime relatives can be indifferent, but it is because of their own family problem.

Nowadays in every Brahmin home ( in most cases ) a boy or a Girl is working in foreign land and earning well.

Indian companies also pay well, so money can not be a factor when relatives behave differently.
 
tbs Sir

I have great respect for you since you underwent Gurukula Vasam and also served in Army!!

I have seen pain in the eyes of boys who fly from US to India on hearing the death news their beloved parents,

seeing them in ice box make their heart cry.

I was working in Calcutta when my father died and i could not make it to Chennai immediately, and that pain is still with me.

Yes, i agree with you that sometime relatives can be indifferent, but it is because of their own family problem.

Nowadays in every Brahmin home ( in most cases ) a boy or a Girl is working in foreign land and earning well.

Indian companies also pay well, so money can not be a factor when relatives behave differently.
hi sir,

just info...im the ONLY SON........no bro/sis.......my age old mother is in chennai now.....every year i visit her...i talk to her

everyday from USA......i had bitter experiences in veda patashala.......served army......away from home even in india.....

more than 25 yrs away from home in india.........now more than 2 decades in USA....still away from home/homeland....

these feelings are very common...still we need THICK SKIN.....
 
Dear P J Sir,

I know that the speech was recent. What I meant was, this speech would have been better if given a few decades back, when

cooking Indian food was difficult in the U S of A. Now there are many Indian stores which sell the stuff needed. I remember to

have seen even 'ilai adai', one of the favorite dishes made with 'chakkai vaRatti', coconut and rice flour, kept for sale in a store.

People don't miss much as far as food is concerned.

As long as the dollar has this value, people settled abroad will not feel sorry for the shift. We have to lose something to gain

something. The freedom and wealth weigh more than sentiments for the youngsters, imho.

BTW, I don't think any student will be crazy enough to wake up the teacher and request to call 'maganE' or to ask what she

prepared for lunch that day, in the unearthly hours in India!! :dizzy:

These speeches are to get :clap2: from the audience and make a few oldies :Cry:!
 
Raji Madam

Yes, I agree with you that some exaggeration is there in the speech!!

It is not about food or freedom , it is about missing out when they are needed most by the side of their parents.

Many Indians miss the last moments of their dying parents, and that should linger in their mind there after.
Regarding freedom, even in India, many families set up separately just to enable both side parents to visit them as and when they wish; it is more in well to do families.
 
.......... Regarding freedom, even in India, many families set up separately just to enable both side parents to visit them as and when they wish; it is more in well to do families.
Girls today have taken the role of boys of previous generations! They want to live either with their parents are near their parents, in a

different house. They seldom relocate from the city they live, if the match is within India. Rarely they live with the parents in law!!
 
Raji Madam

Girls opting to live near their parents is understandable because in most cases they are the first one to rush to their daughter's place in case of some emergency.

Even if the father of the girl is working, mothers used to rush to her daughter's place whenever she is needed; but the same thing is not happening with boy's side!!

In this thread the point is how far the NRI miss out the nearness of their parents and how it affects them when they lose one of their parents.

In my case, even though i was working in Calcutta, i could not see my my father's face when he died in 1971.


This is always in my mind; later on when there was an offer for me to relocate to Chennai , I accepted it.
 
Girls today have taken the role of boys of previous generations! They want to live either with their parents are near their parents, in a

different house. They seldom relocate from the city they live, if the match is within India. Rarely they live with the parents in law!!

Yes spot on .This trend is clearly visible at least in Brahmin Circles .
 
Dear Sir,
Experience talks! We are on the look out for suitable brides for two guys in our family circle! :fish2:

Whatever may be their qualifications I suggest they have extra qualifications like - know cooking , know washing / ironing the clothes , know cleaning the house and cleaning the toilets .know cleaning the utensils and any other house hold work . If they mention these extra qualifications also in their Bio data+ willing to also satisfy the ones mentioned by you ( i.e Girls prefer to stay closer to their parents /away from inlaws etc ) then I am sure those 2 guys in your family will get brides very quickly .:pray2:
 
I do not dispute but I have a suspicion that this is the case with technology and management related boys and girls. I am sure the boy and the girl will do cost benefit analysis before making a decision.

All personally known cases.

1. Both are doctors, boy from chennai working in madurai. Girl from bangalore, shifted to madurai and started work in a hospital. Now both have moved to chennai, with two children in tow, working in different hospitals.
2. Girl from chennai, a CA married and moved to a B town in karnataka where the husband, CA, had a practice. Now the couple have set up their own practice.

I can quote a few more cases, but the trend is the same.

I think if the girl is certain of finding a good job in her professional area, relocation may not be in the negative list. IIT/SW/HW/engineers specialists may find it difficult to relocate.

Girls today have taken the role of boys of previous generations! They want to live either with their parents are near their parents, in a

different house. They seldom relocate from the city they live, if the match is within India. Rarely they live with the parents in law!!
 
Whatever may be their qualifications I suggest they have extra qualifications like - know cooking , know washing / ironing the clothes , know cleaning the house and cleaning the toilets .know cleaning the utensils and any other house hold work . If they mention these extra qualifications also in their Bio data+ willing to also satisfy the ones mentioned by you ( i.e Girls prefer to stay closer to their parents /away from inlaws etc ) then I am sure those 2 guys in your family will get brides very quickly .:pray2:
This boils down to the guys saying, 'I am NOT your rajaa but your goojaa' to their respective brides!! :hail:
 
......... I think if the girl is certain of finding a good job in her professional area, relocation may not be in the negative list. IIT/SW/HW/engineers specialists may find it difficult to relocate.
The relocation is disliked by those who work in MNC!
 
Now that many MNCs are paying in plenty, girls do not wish to go abroad and suffer doing household chores! :ballchain:
The only condition is that the groom should earn roughly one lakh per month. :popcorn:
 
Dear Sir,
Experience talks! We are on the look out for suitable brides for two guys in our family circle! :fish2:

My brother in law is in search of brides for two of his sons since last 10 years!!

the elder is now about 44, younger is 38; Pity these guys are not able to find any suitable girl in their office itself!!
They are also not love making guys!!
 
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