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Dining in darkness

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Dining in darkness

Here is an incident found in a Tamizh google group:
(posted by shrI AKV Rajan)

PLEASE DO READ TILL END

I am sharing this wonderful experience, I recently had in Singapore.

I was invited to one Friday evening event by one of MNC Vendor organization who had organized the event to raise funds for the visually handicapped people in a center for blind people.

As usual, since it was a Friday evening, I first thought to skip the event considering it could be a bit boring and rather spend the evening relaxing by some other means.

But being alone and sometimes finding it difficult to kill time, I thought to accept the invitation and registered on line for booking.

Moreover it was free :) which was another motivation to go to the event.

I was looking at the event to pass some time, meet few people and nothing else.

When I went there, there were approx 40 people from various industries invited for that event. I found some Indians and naturally talked to them about how life is in Singapore etc etc. Initially we were shown a video about the visually handicapped center. What are their activities, how are they helping blind people in Singapore to lead a more fulfilling life, etc . It was a short 15 minute video and quite inspiring that how people from different walks of life spend time in helping these blind people without expecting anything in return.

They shared the satisfaction and fulfilment they get by helping them.

After the video, we all were gathered in a hall and were briefed about next event. The theme of the next event was "Dining in the Dark".

And this is the event which turned out to be inspiring and worth sharing.

What is meant was that we all 40+ people were going to have Dinner in a pitch Dark room !!!! The next 2 hours were completely planned, organized , directed and executed by three blind youths.

One was a girl ( Leader ) and other two boys were assistant to her forming a team of three blind volunteers.

The blind leader first gave us tips for dining (These were ACTUAL STANDARDS THE BLIND PEOPLE FOLLOW IN ORDER TO MAKE THERE LIFE EASIER)

1. When you sit at your table the things will be placed as follows :
at 3 o clock of your dish : You will find a spoon.
at 9 o clock : Fork;
at 12 o clock : spoon.

at 2 o clock : Empty Glass Dish at the center with Paper napkin tucked at 6 o clock.

2. There will be two large Jugs circulated to you. The Jug with plain walls will have water and the Jug with curved wall will have orange juice.

3. When you get your Jug based on your choice you have to pour it in your glass. You have to dip your forefinger in the glass so that when you fill it and the liquid touches your finger, you have to stop pouring.

She asked whether everyone has understood.

All said yes but everyone was confused and trying to remember what she said and confirming with each other. Next 1 1/2 hours we spent were full of fun and learning. In completely pitch dark room where we could not see ANYTHING we were enjoying various delicious food without seeing it.

We all 40 people were taken in groups in the dark hall.

Each one was directed by blind person till he/she sits on a chair (We were finding it awkward because actually we are supposed to guide blind people to their destination and help them).

We were Served full five course dinner by this team of three blind people-Welcome drinks, appetizers, starters , main course and desserts.

The amazing thing was that the team of three blind people were serving exactly vegetarian dishes to vegetarian people who were sitting randomly in the room!

While registering on line we were asked question to choose from "Vegetarian" or "Non vegetarian". I obviously chose Vegetarian, being one. We were so nicely hosted that we did not have to wait in between serves . As we were ending finishing one dish, we were served with next without any delays.

After approx 1 and half hours of Dining in the dark , the leader asked whether everyone has finished eating. After confirmation she switched on the lights of the dining room.

We left the Dining room with tears in our eyes.

We realized how lucky we are and how we have been gifted with beautiful eyes to see the beautiful world. We realized how difficult lives of blind people are ( and other handicapped) without being able to see.

We realized how uncomfortable we were for just two hours without being able to see anything and how they must be living their lives.

We realized how unfortunate we are , that we do not value such simple things in life we have and cry (sometime louder, sometime within ourselves) and run after what we don't have... for whole of our lives without having time to adore for the things we have.

Be cheerful.
Adore whatever you have in life.

You may try for whatever you don’t have but never feel sad about it.
You need to experience it, something like I had experienced, to believe this philosophy of life.

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We realized how lucky we are and how we have been gifted with beautiful eyes to see the beautiful world. We realized how difficult lives of blind people are ( and other handicapped) without being able to see.

We realized how uncomfortable we were for just two hours without being able to see anything and how they must be living their lives.


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dear Saidevo ji,

As much as I like you post I still have to disagree with this verse.

No one is lucky or unlucky.

It is just that situations differ.

The person found it hard to imagine how life without sight would be becos he are sighted and cant imagine how hard life would be without sight.

That is becos of our own attachment to our sense organ and its function.

That does not make the sighted people any lucky..its just shows attachment.

After many years of being a doctor I have come to realize that those with different needs are no different from us.

The visually challenged person who has never seen the light of day would not really miss it..in fact he depends more on his keen sense of hearing and touch and if he loses that(hearing and touch)..he would feel totally lost..just as lost as the person felt in the dark room.

Technically our senses adapt and make the best use of what we still have.

So I wont feel fortunate that I am sighted cos that would only translate as another being unfortunate to be without sight.

The better feeling is each human is unique with different needs.

After all Surdas refused sight.
 
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Sure, Renu! Here is my translation and hope it is fine.

அரிது அரிது மானிடராய்ப் பிறத்தல் அரிது.
It is very rare be be born as a human being.

மானிடராய்ப் பிறப்பினும் கூன், குருடு,
செவிடு, பேடு நீங்கிப் பிறத்தல் அரிது.


Even if born as a human, it is rare to be born without shortcomings like
hunch back and inabilities to see or hear or talk.

கூன், குருடு, செவிடு, பேடு நீங்கிப் பிறந்த காலையும்
ஞானமும் கல்வியும் நயத்தல் அரிது.


Even if born without any short comings, it is rare to appreciate (and seek) wisdom and education.

ஞானமும் கல்வியும் நயந்த காலையும்

தானமும் தவமும் தான் இயற்றல் அரிது.

Even if wisdom and education are sought, it is rare to give donations and do penance.

தானமும் தவமும் தான் இயற்றியகாலை
வானவர் நாடு வழி திறந்திடுமே.
If one donates and does penance, the way to reach Heaven will be open. :peace:

P.S:
Corrections, if any, are welcome from friends. :)
 
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Sure, Renu! Here is my translation and hope it is fine.

அரிது அரிது மானிடராய்ப் பிறத்தல் அரிது.
It is very rare be be born as a human being.

மானிடராய்ப் பிறப்பினும் கூன், குருடு,
செவிடு, பேடு நீங்கிப் பிறத்தல் அரிது.


Even if born as a human, it is rare to be born without shortcomings like
hunch back and inabilities to see or hear or talk.

கூன், குருடு, செவிடு, பேடு நீங்கிப் பிறந்த காலையும்
ஞானமும் கல்வியும் நயத்தல் அரிது.


Even if born without any short comings, it is rare to appreciate (and seek) wisdom and education.

ஞானமும் கல்வியும் நயந்த காலையும்

தானமும் தவமும் தான் இயற்றல் அரிது.

Even if wisdom and education are sought, it is rare to give donations and do penance.

தானமும் தவமும் தான் இயற்றியகாலை
வானவர் நாடு வழி திறந்திடுமே.
If one donates and does penance, the way to reach Heaven will be open. :peace:

P.S:
Corrections, if any, are welcome from friends. :)


Dear RR ji,

Thanks...here She explains about rare situations but no where She says that we have to "feel" that we are more "fortunate" than anyone else.

She is a Saint and totally neutral in Her words.

BTW for most of us when we see disabled people we only feel pity and some feel fortunate for ourselves to not be in their situation and it stops there.

Feeling of being fortunate of being normal at times can make us not really want to help anyone else.

I have a doctor friend who has helped many blind people in getting their sight back..he sponsors free surgery etc.....he said he only helps those who want to have sight..for those who are happy to be blind he does not force them to do surgery cos he said if a person is contented with what he is may be he wanted to be shut off from the world of senses.


So you see..this is what I am trying to get at..that we need to understand that each creation of God is unique and being so called "Normal" is not always fortunate and being so called "Disabled" is not always unfortunate.

I have had the opportunity to talk to many people with different needs and believe me many of them are contented with life and are well balanced individuals. They know life in ways familiar to them.They do not feel they are suffering too.

Usually those who are bitter and feel they are suffering are those who were normal and became disabled after some accident.But even then most of them eventually adapt to new needs of life as the human mind adapts eventually.

We have no idea how the law of cause and effect works..so going by that we really do not even know who is fortunate and who is not.






 
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Dear Renu,

I am unable to accept all your views! Those who are able to see, hear and talk normally, never feel that God has been kind

to them. Most of them tend to grumble about what they don't possess - good education / riches / beauty / nice voice and

so on. Those who are challenged in their sight, hearing or speaking are surely unfortunate, though most of them cope up with

normal life. For example, the visually challenged persons will not be able to spot a worm or insect which is in the food served

to them. Those who are not able to hear can never enjoy music like others do. And those who can't speak will have difficulty in

expressing their feelings like others do.

I agree that we should never pity them and treat them as one among us but I can never agree that they are also fortunate! :sad:
 

I agree that we should never pity them and treat them as one among us but I can never agree that they are also fortunate! :sad:


Dear RR ji,

I had written in my earlier posts :

We have no idea how the law of cause and effect works..so going by that we really do not even know who is fortunate and who is not.

The movie Mozhi gave a good insight on how a person who cant hear views life.

Remember the scene where Jyothika gets mad with Prithviraj for imagining her to have a voice?

A hearing challenged person does not need to "hear" music to enjoy it..they "see" music and "feel" music.

Remember the scene where she looks at a lady cutting cucumber and can make out that there is rhythm in that?

So they view the world in a totally different way from us who are supposedly "normal"

Now coming to a visually challenged person..he/she is able to appreciate the world through their keen sense or hearing and touch and smell.

Some of us have the faintest idea how sensitive their hearings/smell are.

I know a patient who can know what food is being served to him just by putting the plate near him..by the sound of the plate on the table he can know how much food was put and by the smell of the food he can tell you what types of dishes are there in perfect precision and also who put the food cos he knows who walked to him just by the foot steps.

2 years ago Master Chef USA was won by a visually challenged person Christina Ha who was not born blind but gradually lost her eye sight.

What I liked about the whole contest that no special preference was given to her becos she was visually challenged..she was treated as any other contestant.

BTW you said that a blind person might not be able to see a worm or insect in their food but believe me they can hear the insect or the worm..their hearing is super sensitive.
 
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........... BTW you said that a blind person might not be able to see a worm or insect in their food but believe me they can hear the insect or the worm..their hearing is super sensitive.
Dear Renu,

Very well analyzed post. Thanks. But you might have added, 'They can smell the insect of worm' because

once cooked they can't make a noise!

And........ there exists the story of the blind men and an elephant. :sad:

P.S: I know that the story has a deeper meaning too.

Blind.JPG


Source: Blind men and an elephant - Wikipedia
 
Just sharing my experience!

About ten years back, Ram and I had to visit Bangalore. That time we did not have any relative to stay with. We chose a

brahmin hotel and ordered for idlis. They served two in each plate. W
hen I was about to start, I noticed a tiny black spot

in one idli and thought of removing it. But when I dug the spot with a spoon, the black thing extended deep inside and

revealed the leg of a black beetle! :dizzy: . . . :yuck:
 
Dear Renu,

Very well analyzed post. Thanks. But you might have added, 'They can smell the insect of worm' because

once cooked they can't make a noise!


Yes I forgot smell...they can really smell lots of things that we dont even realize.

BTW let me give you a good example.

I just edited my post No 2 cos when I read it yesterday I thought it was SaiDevo Ji who had gone to Singapore but only today when I re read it it seems that its another person who went to S'pore and SaiDevo Ji copied and pasted the post from another site.

So you see I am sighted..yet I did NOT see that cos my mind assumed that its Saidevo's experience.I was the classical example of Pashyannapi Na Pashyanti Mudho(Sighted but yet can not see)

So dear RR ji..at the end of the day..its the mind that matters...its finally we "see" ,"hear" and "feel" and experience life with our mind.

The visually challenged, hearing challenged are still able minded.
 
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Dear Renu,

There is a lot of difference between seeing and observing! I knew that the O P was a C P from another site! :cool:

P.S: See........ Sravna Sir did not know that there are two siblings in our forum! Just kidding! :becky:
 
Saidevo,

With due credit to the noble aim of the story,

If a blind person read this article he would say " interesting".

A blind person has more sense of smell and sense of hearing ( if not deaf). Even the touching would be more detailed than we do.

I have seen so many blind persons go about their business as if they are not blind at all. I know one blind person who used to work in a factory, performing shift work.

When i was learning karate, it was the norm to spar multiple attackers while blind folded. Most of the persons would block the blows just by instinct only.
 
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