I am a mother

[suraju06]

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This is a forwarded post received in my email inbox from a friend/mother. A great view point indeed to look at a mother:

I Am A Mother

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The Officer At The Driving License Counter Asked The Lady​

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" What is Your Occupation ? "

The Woman Seeking Renewal Of Her License Seemed To Be Puzzled.​

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So The Officer Said​

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" Ma'am, Are You Employed,​

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Have Your Own Business Or........

The Woman Replied​

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" Oh, Yes !!​

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I Have A Full Time Occupation.​

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I Am A Mother "

Officer : " We Don't Have ' Mother ' As An Option For Occupation.​

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I Will Write it Down As ' Housewife '.​

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That Takes Care Of All Questions."

This Had Happened Long Ago,​

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And Was Forgotten.Years Later When I Went To Get My License,The Public Relations Officer Was A Somewhat Pompous. Woman.

" Your Occupation ? "​

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She Asked in A Rather Authoritative Tone.

I Just Had An inspiration And Replied​

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" I Am A Researcher in The Field Of Child Development, Nutrition And Inter-Personal Relationships "

The Lady Officer Stared At Me in Amazement.​

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I Calmly Repeated My Statement And She Wrote it Down Verbatim.​

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Then, Unable To Conceal Her Curiosity,​

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She Politely Asked​

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" What Exactly Do You Do in Your Profession, Ma'am ? "

I Was Feeling Good About Having Described My Occupation So Calmly And Confidently.​

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So I Replied​

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" My Research Projects Have Been Going On For A Number Of Years​

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( Mothers Never Retire !! ).​

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My Research is Conducted in The Laboratory As Well As in The Field.​

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I Have Two Bosses.​

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(One is God and the other is my entire family).​

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I Have Received Two Honours in This Field.​

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(A son and a daughter) ​

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My Topic is Considered To Be The Most Difficult Part Of Sociology.​

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( All Moms will Agree!! ).​

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I Have To Work More Than 14 Hours Every Day.​

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Sometimes Even 24 Hours Are Not Enough And The Challenges Are Tougher Than Many Other Professions.​

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My Compensation is in Terms Of Mental Satisfaction Rather Than Money "

I Could See That The Officer Was Thoroughly impressed.
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After Completing The Licensing Formalities,
She Came To The Door To See Me Off.

This New Viewpoint About My Occupation Made Me Feel Much Better On My Way Back Home.

I Was Welcomed By My 5 Year Old Research Assistant At The Door.
My New Project (My 6 Month old Baby) Was Energetically Practicing Her ' Music '.

I Had Earned A Small Victory Over The Governmental Red Tape Today.
I Was No Longer ' Merely A Mother ',
instead I Was Now A Highly Placed
Functionary in A Service Vital For Mankind -Motherhood !!

' Mother ' - Isn't it A Great Title.
Fit To Be Added To The Nameplate On The Door !!

By This Standard, Grandmothers Deserve To Be Called Senior Research Officers,And Great Grandmothers Qualify As ' Research Directors '.
Aunts And Other Ladies Of That Age Group Can Be Called ' Research Facilitators '

Please Share This With All Mothers, Grandmothers, Great Grandmothers,
All Ladies Currently Holding Posts Like
Didi - Tai - Chachi - Mami - Mausi - Bua ......
They Will All Shower You With Blessings And Life Will Be Happier.

All Husbands, Fathers, Please Note.
They Must Read !!!!

 

[prasad1]

Mr. Raju,
I did read as per your advice, but I knew it. LOL

 

[C RAVI]

All Husbands, Fathers, Please Note. They Must Read !!!!

Very True!!! Husbands, Fathers, Brothers & Male friends should let the females read the above motivational story that makes realistic sense without any refutal.

 

[Subhalakshmi]

This email so good, and has been in circulation for some time, I believe even women who do not think themselves as all that, will have a sense of belonging and pride as to what they do

 

[renuka]

I read that email long back.....surprisingly men are the ones who go GOO GOO GAA GAA over this email!LOL

Most probably a guy must have written this email.
I somehow never trust a man who praises woman too much for no reason at all(he could be a closet chauvinist who covers up his tracks well)

Mothers are not prefect beings as these sorts of emails make them to be.

The only thing I agree about this email that Motherhood is a JOB.

So just like any other job, employees can have good performance and also bad performance so do not expect perfection.

But one drawback of this profession(Motherhood).. it does not come with Sick Leave,Annual Leave,Employees Provident Fund(EPF).

In other professions..employees are allowed to send in resignation letter with 1 months notice..here no such resignation letter is accepted.

The employee is never fired from the job cos it is not easy to find a replacement.

The only way for a employee to resign is to run away from home!LOL

 

[Raghy]

Greetings.

I am a father.

I have a lot of respect to the mother who are home makers and shape up the children.

As a father, I support and empower the mother, be there for the mother and children.

Personally speaking, as a mother, my wife contributed more than I did; so, I would give much more room for her. Would consider her more than equal.

How ever, even if it is less than equal, as a father I have my share too. Thanks.

Cheers!

 

[Amirtha]

In the OP message, they forget add husband as one of the children. Every married woman look after her husband as her first child through out her life. I do not know about others, I do look after my husband.

 

[renuka]

In the OP message, they forget add husband as one of the children. Every married woman look after her husband as her first child through out her life. I do not know about others, I do look after my husband.

Dear Amirtha,

Even though you have a valid point but somehow equating a husband with a child makes me a bit uncomfortable.
The relationship is totally different.

I don't know about the looking after husband part but I feel husband and wife relationship is more of mutual respect and co dependence.So it is a situation where both cater to the needs of each other.

 

[tks]

Parental role when executed with right attitude is a blessing for a child and to a society. In some families both parents have to earn a salary. In some families the roles are more traditional - one parent earning salary while the other does home related activities. When a family is not dysfunctional and everyone's role is duly understood and respected then there is no reason in my view to call attention to a mother's home role only.

In some houses one parent (usually father) earns salary but the other parent makes 80% of spending decisions. The advertisers know this fact very well and target their messages appropriately.

Human beings are insecure to begin with. The modern world creates more insecurity and feeds on that insecurity. It then becomes opportunity for card makers (which is a million dollar industry) to assure a mother that she is equally important if not more in the society even if she is not earning a salary.

 

[C RAVI]

In the OP message, they forget add husband as one of the children. Every married woman look after her husband as her first child through out her life. I do not know about others, I do look after my husband.

Ms.Amritha,

What you said is very much true, as far as I could understand so far. Majority of women care their husband more than the way the husbands care themselves. Off course, this happens only when the wife have true love and care towards her husband who deserves her warmth.

There are husbands who even go to the extent of showing reluctance to some minor things ONLY to allow wife to have a chance to express her love, care and concern towards her husband. This makes both the parties feel the pleasure of love, care and contentment.

In all, a mother as a Home Maker, nurturing her children with her love and care and showing true concern towards her husband with all her love and care, is indeed a highly skilled professional / higly skilled family welfare activist, who deals with human psychology and inter-personality skills, every day-in and day-out.


Without such a mother, a husband can not expect to have a happy and sweet home, effortlessly.

 

[Anand Manohar]

Hi All

Just got back from one of those jaunts. Oh! I hate travelling - especially international travel.

I think "Mothering" is more of a process that ladies very easily slip into. I don't think "Mothering"
is just limited to giving physical birth. There is much more to it. I have known many men "Mothering"
kids - from feeding them to changing their nappies to potty training to singing lullabies, and I don't think
that they were just 'sticking-in' for the woman-folk. Some of them were so over cautious and gentle, to the
extent that even the handling of kids by ladies might have seemed rough.

Guruvethunai

After all didn't we have Lord Shiva Himself manifest as " Thayumaanavar " ?

Yay Yem

 

[Anand Manohar]

Dear All

I am sure many would've read this already - it goes something like this:

A little conversation between a Soul & God,[as the soul is about to be allotted a worldly assignment]

Soul : " God, I am so scared, the world is so full of disease, hunger, poverty, violence, corruption, hatred
jealousy, ignorance and crime - what can I do all alone there ? ".

God : " The world is not perfect, I know, but your task lies ahead ".

Soul : " God, I am so scared, will you come with me ?"

God : " Don't worry, I have already sent an Angel to protect and take care of you ".

Soul : " God, Thank you so much, what is her name ?"

God : " The name does not matter, you will just call her MOTHER ".

Guruvethunai

Yay Yem

 

[Raji Ram]

........ After all didn't we have Lord Shiva Himself manifest as " Thayumaanavar " ? ........

தாயுமானவர்கள்!

தன் மகள் தாய்மைப் பேறு பெறும்போது,
தன் உதவிக கரம் கொடுக்க விழைபவள்,

அருமையாக வளர்த்த தாய்தான்! இந்தப்
பெருமை கிடைப்பதும் நம் நாட்டில்தான்!

கடல் கடந்து சென்று, பணியில் அமர்ந்து,
கடலென அன்பு காட்டும் தாயைப் பிரிந்து,

தாய்மைப் பேறு பெறுகின்ற சில பெண்கள்,
தாயின் உதவியைப் பெறுவதில்லையே!

இந்திய தேசத்தில், குழந்தை பெற்ற பின்,
ஐந்து மாதங்கள் வரை, சொந்த பந்தங்கள்

விருந்தாக வந்து போக, தன் தாய் வீட்டின்
விருந்தோம்பலில் மகிழ்வாள் அன்பு மகள்.

தன் கணவன் உடனிருக்க, பிள்ளை பெற்று,
அவன் உதவிகளை மட்டுமே தான் பெற்று,

தன் சேயை வளர்ப்பாள், அமெரிக்க நாட்டில்
தன் வாழ்வை அமைத்துக்கொண்ட மகள்!

தாயின் அரவணைப்பைத் துணைக்குத் தந்து,
சேயின் வளர்ப்பை எளிதாக்குவன் கணவன்!

தாயும் தந்தையும் யாவும் நீயே என, இந்தத்
தாயும் ஆகும் தந்தைகளை வாழ்த்துவோம்!


வாழ்க தாயுமானவர்கள்! :thumb: . . . :high5:

 

[Raji Ram]

.........
God : " Don't worry, I have already sent an Angel to protect and take care of you ".

Soul : " God, Thank you so much, what is her name ?".......

So, the :angel:s are always females! :thumb:

 

[Raji Ram]

Google search gave me this link 'Are angels male or female?' where I found this Q and A:


Question: "Are angels male or female?"

Answer: There is no doubt that every reference to angels in Scripture refers to them in the masculine gender.

The Greek word for “angel” in the New Testament, angelos, is in the masculine form. In fact, the feminine form

of angelos does not exist. There are three genders in grammar—masculine (he, him, his), feminine (she, her, hers),

and neuter (it, its). Angels are never referred to in any gender other than masculine. In the many appearances of

angels in the Bible, never is an angel referred to as “she” or “it.” Furthermore, when angels did appear, they always

appeared dressed as human males.

 

[Anand Manohar]

Tmt RR


Slight correction - All mothers are Angels -that doesn't necessarily include all "females".

Right from the days when she kept the cave fires burning, tending to and protecting her flock from
predators [ while he ran for miles through the jungles, over bush and rock, streams and slush to
hunt down his prey so that his clan could eat ], I think the roles were pretty-much well defined.

That is why I said, Mothering is a process into which ladies slip into, naturally with ease. Men
need to acquire these 'skills'.

I know, Genes, Hormones, DNA all have been discussed and given as plausible explanations, but
right from the days when we lived in caves to today's metropolises, the art of Mothering has
more-or-less remained intact.

Yay Yem

 

[renuka]

Hey why would anyone want to be an angel??

Angels are boring.

I am also a mother but I don't think I am an angel!LOL

 

[Anand Manohar]

Dear Tmt RR

I don't intend splitting hairs on whether an angel was a He or She or It. The little narration
of the Soul-God conversation, also doesn't proceed to describe whether the soul manifested in the world
as as a He or She or It.

You are correct - Angel Gabriel [in Christianity] and Farishta Jibrail [in Islam] are referred to with the male gender
One was supposed to have guided Jesus and the other Prophet Muhammed [ notice the phonetic similarity in the
names ]

Yay Yem

 

[renuka]

The art of Mothering sometimes = Smothering!

Some mothers are Jaganmatha sorts..the ones who love to Smother everyone with motherly love even when we do not need it!

I have noted that females of the Cancer Zodiac tend to claim that Motherliness is their middle name!LOL

 

[Anand Manohar]

Dear Renu

Line 1 of my post # 16

' Slight correction - All mothers are Angels -that doesn't necessarily include all "females". '

So you agree / don't agree ? Yeah, I agree husbands will consider them boring if they flap
their wings and fly away to yonder world, leaving him pondering and cursing himself
- for having made her a Mother !

Yay Yem

 

[renuka]

Dear Tmt RR

I don't intend splitting hairs on whether an angel was a He or She or It. The little narration
of the Soul-God conversation, also doesn't proceed to describe whether the soul manifested in the world
as as a He or She or It.

You are correct - Angel Gabriel [in Christianity] and Farishta Jibrail [in Islam] are referred to with the male gender
One was supposed to have guided Jesus and the other Prophet Muhammed [ notice the phonetic similarity in the
names ]

Yay Yem

Dear AM ji,

God made angels male cos they were always jumping from cloud to cloud(no bathroom facilities) and it is easier being male cos all an angel needs to do is start watering down and we call it rain!LOL

BTW Gabriel and Jibrail are the same.

 

[renuka]

Dear Renu

Line 1 of my post # 16

' Slight correction - All mothers are Angels -that doesn't necessarily include all "females". '

So you agree / don't agree ? Yeah, I agree husbands will consider them boring if they flap
their wings and fly away to yonder world, leaving him pondering and cursing himself
- for having made her a Mother !

Yay Yem

Dear AM ji,

Since it is agreed upon the Motherhood is a Profession.. and since the profession is no more gender biased men too can apply.

Yes I have seen men who are better Mothers than women.

Yes being good 24/7 is boring..Good Girls Go To Heaven and Bad Girls Go Everywhere.

Men??...they all go to hell! Ha Ha Ha

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Renu,

I like to get wet in rain...... But now!!!! :dizzy:

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear A M Sir,

I was just wondering whether angel could be only female because of this Q!!

'Soul : " God, Thank you so much, what is her name ?"

Let angels be angels and let mothers be mothers! eace:

BTW, could you read my write-up titled "ThAyumAnavargaL"?? I guess you could not!

 

[C RAVI]

Dear All,


What Angels do? What is expected of an Angel?


Angels are considered to be the messengers of God. Thy are considered to be linking communication between the heavenly body and the humans on the Earth, guiding them and protecting them.


Angels are always depicted in Human forms when are appeared in front of a human to interact OR just appear as a flash of light, without any form and speak in the language, the human can understand.


An angel is expected to love, care, protect, guide, sooth and show a way to a human who is left alone, stranded, distressed and helpless. To be totally reliable and compassionate such that a human right from his/her total dependency is well taken care and nurtured and continue to be supportive, without selfishness.

I personally would consider an Angel as a devine entity that can apear both in male and female forms, as the need be.


As per the Soul-God conversation in post no.12 is concerned, the soul is about to be allotted with wordly assignment by taking birth on Earth, starting from the scratch.

As such, the Soul expresses the concern as how to mange with this cruel and deadly world of humans, where in the soul has to take birth, grow and fulfill the assignments.

For this, the soul gets assurances from the GOD that, an Angel as a Mother would protect the soul right from the time the soul starts living in her womb, would nuture the soul with all her love, care and warmth and would ever continue to whole heartedly guide and wish the best for the Soul, with all her blessings, untill the Angel herself vanishes (dies) or the Soul completes the assignment and gets out of the world (dies).


A child needs the love and care of both the parents. The mother's and that of the father's. And both the parents have their major role in fulfilling the child's need of Love.

A child if happen to be illfortunate and gets a wrong father, can still be happy, contented and satisfied with the sense of emotional security and reliability, if the Mother does her best with her motherliness. The other way round would leave a deep rooted wound in the heart of the child, that would never be overcomed.


Considering the positive female species as a Mother, a mother is truely an angel, whom every child would yearn for. A child who has lost his/her mother may get motherly love as well from his/her father. BUT, that still can not be equated with the level of emotional satisfaction that the presence of mother can give.