I Don't Think I Want to Be a Mother, and That Should Be Acceptable

[prasad1]

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I came across this blog by Beth Leipholtz, a similar opinion was expressed by one of my young relative. Her mother was rather embarrassed by her daughter's opinion. We assume that all women want to be mothers, it may not be true. Again it should be her choice.

I absolutely adore children. Or rather, I adore them as long as I can escape from them at the end of the day. And I think that is perfectly OK. Yet, each time I inform people that I don't have a burning desire to have my own children someday, that I lack that deep-rooted maternal craving, they look stunned -- as if that is what every 20-something woman should be waiting for, working towards.


The response is usually one of the following:


"But you work with kids, you're so good with them. You have four younger siblings!"


Or,


"Oh, someday you'll change your mind."


The first response I can tolerate, because it is true. I do work with them, I am good with them and I do have four younger siblings.


It's the second response that irks me to no end. Yes, maybe I will change my mind. Maybe I will fall in love and want to give that man a child. Maybe I will become pregnant unexpectedly and take that leap of faith. I have no doubt I would love a child if I had one. But for someone to simply tell me what will happen, that I will definitely change my mind because women give birth and that is just how it always has been and always will be... that doesn't sit well.

I Don't Think I Want to Be a Mother, and That Should Be Acceptable | Beth Leipholtz

 

[renuka]

Actually if you ask me now..I also wonder 'what made me want to be a mother?"

My honest answer is "I really dont know!"

May be it was just the continuation of species instinct that makes us do so.

But whatever said and done..One child is enough..not willing to go thru motherhood again.

So I guess may be the continuation of species instinct over took my mind and I had a baby!LOL

Actually I love to play with kids and babies..babies too like me..wherever I go children like to touch me and hold me..once a child in an aeroplane wanted to sit with me and was crying to get to me..so for a while I was baby sitting that child in the plane.

I have even had little kids who dont know me come up to kiss me in restaurants!

may be I was a pediatrician in my previous birth and these were all my patients!LOL

But somehow motherhood is not about playing with kids..kids are nice to play..nice to hold and its stops there!

 

[krish44]

many married ladies are under pressure from their peer groups and older generation regarding having children. in many cases it is not a choice open to ladies whether they should have children.in fact the are treated as untouchables if they do not have children after a few years of marriage. some marriages also fail on this account.I pity the ladies . they are made to believe that their prime job is to have children.
men are not held guilty if they do not have kids. the lady of the house is made guilty many times for no fault of theirs