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One more comment I would like to add. In a number of cases, in the past four decades, I have seen people who have married out of their castes being totally ignored by their relatives. It is painful and really hurts but there is nothing you can do about it. Even if your parents are invited there is a lot of simpering and snide remarks about how they have failed to "inculcate or instil the right values in their children". That means you are treated as an outcast no matter how unsavoury it may sound. No invitation by relatives to marriage or any other auspicious functions. Not even a casual visit for a chit chat and a cup of filter coffee. All this is absolutely hateful and I do not support it by any means but this does exist and you cannot wish it away. There has been a lot of valuable inputs by some experienced and esteemed members of this Forum and it would be in your best interests to consider all factors before you arrive at a decision.

<blockquote data-quote="Balacs" data-source="post: 442426" data-attributes="member: 54758"><p>One more comment I would like to add.&nbsp; In a number of cases, in the past four decades, I have seen people who have married out of their castes being totally ignored by their relatives.&nbsp; It is painful and really hurts but there is nothing you can do about it.&nbsp; Even if your parents are invited there is a lot of simpering and snide remarks about how they have failed to &quot;inculcate or instil the right values in their children&quot;. That means you are treated as an outcast no matter how unsavoury it may sound.&nbsp; No invitation by relatives to marriage or any other auspicious functions.&nbsp; Not even a casual visit for a chit chat and a cup of filter coffee.&nbsp; All this is absolutely hateful and I do not support it by any means but this does exist and you cannot wish it away. There has been a lot of valuable inputs by some experienced and esteemed members of this Forum and it would be in your best interests to consider all factors before you arrive at a decision.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Balacs, post: 442426, member: 54758"] One more comment I would like to add. In a number of cases, in the past four decades, I have seen people who have married out of their castes being totally ignored by their relatives. It is painful and really hurts but there is nothing you can do about it. Even if your parents are invited there is a lot of simpering and snide remarks about how they have failed to "inculcate or instil the right values in their children". That means you are treated as an outcast no matter how unsavoury it may sound. No invitation by relatives to marriage or any other auspicious functions. Not even a casual visit for a chit chat and a cup of filter coffee. All this is absolutely hateful and I do not support it by any means but this does exist and you cannot wish it away. There has been a lot of valuable inputs by some experienced and esteemed members of this Forum and it would be in your best interests to consider all factors before you arrive at a decision. [/QUOTE]

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