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You are too young (21) to fall in real love and in all probability it is infatuation. In general the maturity level of Indian kids (I was one in my previous life though God forced me to be very independent by 14 by snatching away my dad and leaving an agraharam raised mom and five small kids almost on the streets) of this age is below par as our lives have been decided by parents (go to this college, get this degree, who your friends are, take this job etc.) and their dependency on elders is high (I am not saying good or bad).

Most US born and raised kids of Indian origin do not think about love, marriage as most other American friends of them do (and get married and so on) until 26 (goal to finish BS, M.D., MBA etc. and to attain certain level of maturity) and when in residency, job etc. wait more saying the divorce rate is too high when you are in a high stressed jobs. And I know there are many marriages that are on ropes even in India now.

In my opinion, the reason we went for early childhood marriage etc. before are that the kick in the hormone is much higher and starts earlier than the maturity level and chances for mistakes are higher. And perhaps starting as arranged partners much younger lets them grow and bond together. But in practice, most ended up as child-parents . And it is a story repeated throughout the world though the marriage may be by so called love and not arranged. Women are the ones paying the price when things go wrong. After all, men gives just microscopic sperms and can, and mostly will, walk away. But women have to carry the child to 38 weeks and need to care for them too. Sure abortion is there but it's effect lingers on women for ever.

Spend a year or two without seeing or chat etc. and see if the love is still there or moves to some one else. Good luck.

<blockquote data-quote="paramamoorthy" data-source="post: 442467" data-attributes="member: 61738">You are too young (21) to fall in real love and in all probability it is infatuation. In general the maturity level of Indian kids (I was one in my previous life though God forced me to be very independent by 14 by snatching away my dad and leaving an agraharam raised mom and five small kids almost on the streets) of this age is below par as our lives have been decided by parents (go to this college, get this degree, who your friends are, take this job etc.) and their dependency on elders is high (I am not saying good or bad). Most US born and raised kids of Indian origin do not think about love, marriage as most other American friends of them do (and get married and so on) until 26 (goal to finish BS, M.D., MBA etc. and to attain certain level of maturity) and when in residency, job etc. wait more saying the divorce rate is too high when you are in a high stressed jobs. And I know there are many marriages that are on ropes even in India now.In my opinion, the reason we went for early childhood marriage etc. before are that the kick in the hormone is much higher and starts earlier than the maturity level and chances for mistakes are higher. And perhaps starting as arranged partners much younger lets them grow and bond together. But in practice, most ended up as child-parents <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile&nbsp; &nbsp; :)"&nbsp; data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />. And it is a story repeated throughout the world though the marriage may be by so called love and not arranged. Women are the ones paying the price when things go wrong. After all, men gives just microscopic sperms and can, and mostly will, walk away. But women have to carry the child to 38 weeks and need to care for them too. Sure abortion is there but it&#039;s effect lingers on women for ever.Spend a year or two without seeing or chat etc. and see if the love is still there or moves to some one else. Good luck.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="paramamoorthy, post: 442467, member: 61738"] You are too young (21) to fall in real love and in all probability it is infatuation. In general the maturity level of Indian kids (I was one in my previous life though God forced me to be very independent by 14 by snatching away my dad and leaving an agraharam raised mom and five small kids almost on the streets) of this age is below par as our lives have been decided by parents (go to this college, get this degree, who your friends are, take this job etc.) and their dependency on elders is high (I am not saying good or bad). Most US born and raised kids of Indian origin do not think about love, marriage as most other American friends of them do (and get married and so on) until 26 (goal to finish BS, M.D., MBA etc. and to attain certain level of maturity) and when in residency, job etc. wait more saying the divorce rate is too high when you are in a high stressed jobs. And I know there are many marriages that are on ropes even in India now. In my opinion, the reason we went for early childhood marriage etc. before are that the kick in the hormone is much higher and starts earlier than the maturity level and chances for mistakes are higher. And perhaps starting as arranged partners much younger lets them grow and bond together. But in practice, most ended up as child-parents :). And it is a story repeated throughout the world though the marriage may be by so called love and not arranged. Women are the ones paying the price when things go wrong. After all, men gives just microscopic sperms and can, and mostly will, walk away. But women have to carry the child to 38 weeks and need to care for them too. Sure abortion is there but it's effect lingers on women for ever. Spend a year or two without seeing or chat etc. and see if the love is still there or moves to some one else. Good luck. [/QUOTE]

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