I was about to respond in the thread "inter caste marriages".Nowever the original initiator of the thread wanted that thread to be closed and a new thread started.So I start this.
For people who dont believe in castes, the word 'inter caste' itself is offensive.When two consenting adults want to enter into a relationship, that is the end of matter.Nobody has anything else to say here.Caste, religion etc, etc all become superficial here.
But castes do exist in mind of casteists and they do make a hue and cry about intra human marriages.While ascertaining that "it is the individual right of two people to get married,they still somehow dont agree that female members of their group should not marry people whom they disapprove eg:maran, chidambaram"
Karthik chidambaram was one of the most eligible bachelors in TN during his time and he married a woman of his choice.Period.
Same was the case with maran. Period.
same was the case with sadhasivam iyer who married MS subbulakshmi. Period.
What is there to argue in this? I certainly do not understand.Maran and chidambaram are called as 'thieves'.That certainly is your perception and you are welcome to have it. These girls did not share the perception.Law doesn not share your perception. Simple,end of matter.
Arranged marriages themselves are a type of violence perpetuated on women. This system is the mother of all evils like dowry and female foeticide.
Like a gang of robbers groom's family will visit the bride's house, will behave like terrorists and torture the poor girl's father and mother.Usually for many girls, this will be a horrific and shameful experience.Many girls will be terribly afraid and shiver to death when they are ragged by this gang."Do you know to sing?, sing a song, turn and walk,show me your teeth"...are some of the questions asked by this gang when they 'inspect' the female to be 'bought'.In pollachi market buyers will inspect cattle in this method only.
Then this gang of robbers will extract a handsome dowry and will often force the girl's father to beg,borrow or steal.
Nothing of this sort exists in love marriages.Two people love and get married. It is good if their parents and relatives ostracize them.The girl will live happily without the torture of inlaws. A life freed from casteism, dowry, female foeticide, inlaws,.wow...
I cannot understand why some people want to retain a system which is full of evils like dowry, male chavunism, casteism, female foeticide , torture of inlaws and forced marriages.
For people who dont believe in castes, the word 'inter caste' itself is offensive.When two consenting adults want to enter into a relationship, that is the end of matter.Nobody has anything else to say here.Caste, religion etc, etc all become superficial here.
But castes do exist in mind of casteists and they do make a hue and cry about intra human marriages.While ascertaining that "it is the individual right of two people to get married,they still somehow dont agree that female members of their group should not marry people whom they disapprove eg:maran, chidambaram"
Karthik chidambaram was one of the most eligible bachelors in TN during his time and he married a woman of his choice.Period.
Same was the case with maran. Period.
same was the case with sadhasivam iyer who married MS subbulakshmi. Period.
What is there to argue in this? I certainly do not understand.Maran and chidambaram are called as 'thieves'.That certainly is your perception and you are welcome to have it. These girls did not share the perception.Law doesn not share your perception. Simple,end of matter.
Arranged marriages themselves are a type of violence perpetuated on women. This system is the mother of all evils like dowry and female foeticide.
Like a gang of robbers groom's family will visit the bride's house, will behave like terrorists and torture the poor girl's father and mother.Usually for many girls, this will be a horrific and shameful experience.Many girls will be terribly afraid and shiver to death when they are ragged by this gang."Do you know to sing?, sing a song, turn and walk,show me your teeth"...are some of the questions asked by this gang when they 'inspect' the female to be 'bought'.In pollachi market buyers will inspect cattle in this method only.
Then this gang of robbers will extract a handsome dowry and will often force the girl's father to beg,borrow or steal.
Nothing of this sort exists in love marriages.Two people love and get married. It is good if their parents and relatives ostracize them.The girl will live happily without the torture of inlaws. A life freed from casteism, dowry, female foeticide, inlaws,.wow...
I cannot understand why some people want to retain a system which is full of evils like dowry, male chavunism, casteism, female foeticide , torture of inlaws and forced marriages.
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