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Kadaisila Partha Kadhal: Must for every young couple.

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sangom said:
That fellow should go hang himself instead of tolerating such an idiotic and troublesome, argumentative wife.
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Dear Sangom ji,

I did not see the movie yet but from your comments I guess it must be all about fights with husband and wife.

But why should anyone commit suicide(hang himself) if his wife is trouble some..he can always have a Chinna Veedu....suicide should never be advised!LOL

Or he can get some other man to woo his wife..once a person is given some "new" attention they usually become less bothersome and less argumentative cos they will be having the high feeling of a new relationship.

So you see there are many forms of escapism from a bad marriage.
 
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renuka said:
Dear Sangom ji,

I did not see the movie yet but from your comments I guess it must be all about fights with husband and wife.

But why should anyone commit suicide(hang himself) if his wife is trouble some..he can always have a Chinna Veedu....suicide should never be advised!LOL

Or he can get some other man to woo his wife..once a person is given some "new" attention they usually become less bothersome and less argumentative cos they will be having the high feeling of a new relationship.

So you see there are many forms of escapism from a bad marriage.
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Smt. Renuka,

So you agree that it is an example of a "bad marriage". Even if it is bad, why have such a marriage by mutual cheating? Is this what many extol as kaadal? sad.
 

I recommend this movie even to the oldies who fight every day!

Actually in most of the cases the fights demand uninterrupted attention!

Only today I wrote about a 60 +gentleman (??) who threatens to give divorce notice to his wife.

Here it is:

கனவிலும் நினைக்காதே, கணவனே!

என் நெருங்கிய தோழிக்கு 'படுத்தும்' கணவன் அமைந்தான். எத்தனை வேலை செய்தாலும்,

செய்யாத ஒன்றைச் சுட்டிக் காட்டி வைதிடுவான்! அடிக்கடி அவன் சொல்லும் வசனம் இது:

'நான் உன்னை டைவர்ஸ் செய்துவிடுவேன்!' சின்ன வயதில் மிகவும் வருத்தப்படுவாள் தோழி.

என்னால் முடிந்த அளவு நான் அவளைச் சமாதானப்படுத்துவேன்.


அந்தக் கணவனோ அறுபது வயதைத் தாண்டிய பின்னும் 'அந்த' வசனத்தை விடுவதாக இல்லை!

இந்த முறை, 'நான் சொல்லுவதைக் கேட்காவிட்டால், வக்கீல் நோட்டீஸ் வரும்!' என்று மிரட்டியதாகச்

சொல்லி வருந்தினாள். 'நீ வக்கீல் நோட்டீஸ் அனுப்பினாலும், அதில் நான் கையெழுத்துப் போடுவதாக

இல்லை! அதனால், இந்த ஜன்மத்தில் வேறு பெண்ணைத் திருமணம் செய்யலாம் என்று கனவிலும்

நினைக்காதே, கணவனே!' என்று பதில் கூறச் சொன்னேன்! :sleep:


இத்தனை ஆண்டு தாம்பத்தியத்திற்குப் பின்னும், கீறல் விழுந்த L P Record போலச் சொன்னதையே

சொல்லும் மஹானுபாவர்களை, எப்படித்தான் சமாளிப்பது? :boink:
 
dear raji,

please ensure this old guy has not written a will, giving off all his money to someone else. does the wife know his financial status? it is very important especially in the golden years, for the wife to know of ALL finances of the hubby.

case in point: i had a colleague here, chinese. two daughters both in their forties; father around 70+; mother same age, from hong kong, housewife all her life, and not much into the technicalities of finance. and deliberately kept ignorant by the husband.

anyway, the husband had a cancer surgery. there he fell in love with a nurse (also chinese in her forties); came back home discharged and kicked the wife out. since all the money he earned was his own; and many transactions the wife did not know, she is at the mercy of her two daughters, instead of a upper class retiree in terms of comfort and wealth.

no amount of talking to the old man helped. he said that he hated his wife all along, and now he found out the love of his love.

another case: though much younger. happened in bangalore a few years ago. tambram couple, son late teens died in a flying class air crash. the couple unconsolable; husband fell sick enough to be admitted in hospital; fell in love with a nurse (malayali); moved out of the house on return (leaving wife, daughter and mother). wife very smart, and being already a 50% partner, managed to get more money as support for herself daughter and mother in law (who now does not speak to the son).

moral of the story: get to know your spouse's finances.
 
Raji Madam

Well said, appreciate.
Yes many old couple even after living 20-25 years together prefer to live separately and this trend is more among well to do families where mother is supported by her daughters/Sons.
Divorce among young couple especially among well earning couple after 2-3 years is also on rise because of EGO problem .
This is because they love each other before marriage and after marriage realize the mistake of ending up in marriage.
The age difference nowadays is almost NIL or few months between girl and boy and both call them by name or VADA ,PODA like that which was never is the case in our era.
More than 40 years of my married life, my wife never called me by my name, i never called her by her name, i used to call her, inge paru ma, like that; She says ' neenga" never she calls me by my name.
 
I think the discussions are veering off from the short film into different directions. Why not we discuss this film alone first? Why take up some 60+ guy? That way, I read sometime ago in a Tamil weekly that a 60+ couple, apparently both tabras applying for divorce by mutual consent. But that is not the point in this video, I feel.
 
i just saw the movie.

i think it is a good movie. these guys reflect the reality of life in many ways. how many of us, have gone through a few days with snit behaviour towards our partner? for no reason on the surface. it is called moods and mood swings.

part of any married life. i think.
 
sangom said:
I think the discussions are veering off from the short film into different directions. Why not we discuss this film alone first? Why take up some 60+ guy? That way, I read sometime ago in a Tamil weekly that a 60+ couple, apparently both tabras applying for divorce by mutual consent. But that is not the point in this video, I feel.
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You missed the point I wished to give in my post, Sir!

The non stop fights by some couple is due to the possessive nature!

So they should see this movie and know that the fights are a form of love!! :thumb:
 
Raji Ram said:
Dear Kunjuppu Sir,

I thought the moral of these stories: Nurses are the potential 'chakkaLaththis'! :D
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RAJI Madam

Why women are always suspicious ? Nurse job is noble madam~~Her touch cures!!
But whenever and wherever i went to any hospital for check up, i saw only Fat nurses:Cry:
 
P.J. said:
......... Why women are always suspicious ? Nurse job is noble madam~~Her touch cures!!
But whenever and wherever i went to any hospital for check up, i saw only Fat nurses ...
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Not suspicious Sir!

See, in both the stories a nurse is the 'villi'!! :heh:

I am happy that you get to see ONLY fat nurses! MAmi is safe! ;)
 
P.J. said:
Short film " Kadaisila Partha Kadhal" - Kalaignar TV - Nalaiya Iyakunar
Movie won "Best film of the week", "Best Technician - Editing", "Best Performanc

Must for every young Couple
Kadaisila Partha Kadhal (KPK) TAMIL SHORT FILM Kalaignar TV - Nalaiya Iyakunar season 4 - YouTube
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hi sir,
now a days ...EVERY LADIES HAVE NEW ASTRAM....ESPECIALLY NEWLY MARRIED....EITHER LOVE/ARRANGED MARRIAGE....

THREATENING WITH DIVORCE.....SUPPORTED BY GIRL'S PARENTS....so poor guys have no alternative...just go with the wind....

or against with daily threatening......எல்லாம் ஆசை அறுபது நாள்....மோகம் முப்பது நாள்......
 
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Raji Ram said:
Not suspicious Sir!

See, in both the stories a nurse is the 'villi'!! :heh:

I am happy that you get to see ONLY fat nurses! MAmi is safe! ;)
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Raji Madam

Some of them look like School headmistress and roam around with very big injections; they scare me all the time!!
 
sangom said:
Smt. Renuka,

So you agree that it is an example of a "bad marriage". Even if it is bad, why have such a marriage by mutual cheating? Is this what many extol as kaadal? sad.
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Dear Sangom ji,

Who is cheating?? Falling in love again is not cheating.

There is no written rule that one can only fall in love once and that too with only one person.

Love is like oxygen..it is all around us..we can take either a short breath or a deep breath depending on the activity we are engaged in....when breathing itself changes according to one momentary needs why love alone should be static?

Everything is the world changes..nothing remains the same.

You see the lack of options make a person take marriage for granted and misbehave with spouse..if there is more options in the market spouses "behave" better cos they know they can get the boot anytime.

That's why I like what Sonu Nigam said.."Marriage should have an expiry date with a renewal option"
 
renuka said:
.............. 1/ You see the lack of options make a person take marriage for granted and misbehave with spouse..if there is more options in the market spouses "behave" better cos they know they can get the boot anytime.

2. That's why I like what Sonu Nigam said.."Marriage should have an expiry date with a renewal option"
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Dear Renu,

I beg to differ!

1. If a person has more options, he / she is sure to misbehave. They will ALWAYS be in search of a better

option and ready to boot the present partner with ease! Even with the unsaid rule of 'oruvanukku oruththi',

there are so many 'set ups' we find everywhere. If it is no so, imagine how the world would be!! :dizzy:

2. I don't think Sonu Nigam is so great to follow! :nono:
 
Raji Ram said:


2. I don't think Sonu Nigam is so great to follow! :nono:
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Dear RR ji,

I am not following Sonu Nigam but I am wondering how come he thinks like me!LOL

Cos long back in I wrote in forum that "Marriage should be like a Annual Practicing Certificate which one needs to get it renewed on yearly basis"

This I said in Forum long back before Sonu Nigam said his "Marriage should have an expiry date with a renewal option".
 
Raji Ram said:
Dear Renu,

I beg to differ!

1. If a person has more options, he / she is sure to misbehave. They will ALWAYS be in search of a better

option and ready to boot the present partner with ease! Even with the unsaid rule of 'oruvanukku oruththi',

there are so many 'set ups' we find everywhere. If it is no so, imagine how the world would be!! :dizzy:

2. I don't think Sonu Nigam is so great to follow! :nono:
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hi RR madam,

when i was in elementary school....we had prayer......like ALL INDIANS ARE MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS....then can't marry

an indian gal.....becoz alll gals my sisters....then i have to marry an american/british or national gals only....i told my mother

also.....i had a promise to my country ...i can't marry any indian.....lol
 

We too had that 'pledge' TBS Sir!

Once, one S S L C boy told a junior girl that he loves her!

She retorted, 'unakku akkA thangachiyE illaiyA?' :blah:

He replied, 'O! irukkA. unnaiyum thangahchiyA nenachchA,

enakku kAdhal kalyANam nadakkumO?' :confused:
 
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