FROM MBCT:
to Deal with Future MoodsThe advantages of awareness, acceptance, and mindfully responding to situations rather
than immediately running off preprogrammed, “automatic” reactions has been a recurring
theme throughout this course.
Acceptance may often be the springboard to some form of skillful action directed
at achieving change in participants’ inner or outer worlds. However, there are
also situations and feelings that it may be very difficult, or actually impossible, to
change. In this situation, there is the danger that, by carrying on, trying to solve an insoluble
problem, or by refusing to accept the reality of the situation one is in, one may
end up “banging one’s head on a brick wall,” exhausting oneself, and actually increasing
one’s sense of helplessness and depression. In these situations, you can still retain some
sense of dignity and control by making a conscious, mindful, decision not to attempt to exert
control and to accept the situation as it is, if possible, with a kindly attitude to the situation
and your reactions to it. Choosing not to act is much less likely to increase depression
than being forced to give up attempts at control after repeated failures.
In the so-called “Serenity Prayer,” we ask for the grace to accept with serenity the
things that cannot be changed, the courage to change the things that should be changed,
and the wisdom to distinguish one from the other.
Where do we find this grace, this courage, this wisdom? At some level, we already
have all of these qualities—our task is to realize them (make them real), and our
way is none other than moment-by-moment mindful awareness.
THE FUTURE
Remember Jon Kabat-Zinn’s advice to weave your parachute every day, rather than
leave it to the time you have to jump from the plane!
Decide, right now, what your regular pattern of practice will be over the next weeks,
until we meet again, and stick to it as best you can throughout this period. Note any difficulties
that you have, so that we can discuss them next time.
Also, remember that the regular breathing space practice provides a way of “checking
in with yourself ” a few times a day. Let it also be your first response in times of difficulty,
stress, or unhappiness—KEEP BREATHING!