Namaskaram

[Nishniv]

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Whether manni can do namaskaram to husband's younger sister (manni is younger to sister)?

 

[sangom]

Whether manni can do namaskaram to husband's younger sister (manni is younger to sister)?

No, not at all. Manni is like mother to the younger siblings. The husband's sister can and should do namaskaram to the anna & manni together, but ego may not allow the sister to do namaskaram to manni alone on some occasions like nonpu, thaivelli, aadicchevvai, kanu (day next to pongal when women here, go around doing namaskaram to elders, etc., and then perform perform காக்கைக்குச் சாதம் வைக்கிறது before taking bath, in the early morning), etc. Wherever possible the elder brother is also called to avoid such ego-hurt.

You know, among the sankaracharyas of Sringeri, once the son becomes a sanyasi and ascends the peetham, his father does not meet him at all, because the father is required to do namaskaram to his son as lokaguru, which is wrong because usually father is the guru who gives gayatri upadesam to the son. Because of this problem of guru vs loka guru, this ban is observed. But mother can go in front of the acarya and he is required to do namaskaram to her. Usually the mother does not do this and cause embarassment and observes/listens to her son's discourses from a place outside direct sight of the acarya.

 

[ambes]

No.This is never done

 

[kgopalan]

ACHARA MURAI Written by Mayuram Dharmagna V idhya Vachaspathi Brahmasri M.RAMANATHA DEEKSHITAR 12 scion of Srimad APPAYYAA DEEKSHITAR Published by SRI AZHAGIA KANNI VINAYAGAR TEMPLE TRUST Salai Trivandrum 695023 in the year 1975 in english language. In this book about namaskaram in page no .36 he has written that One should bow to elders.; failure to do this is said to curtail one's life period.(ayus).

Other person's who are entitled to namaskaram are the teacher; uncle (paternal and maternal) , the elder brother, their wives; respectable and elderly persons and their wives, , the mother's sister, Father's sister, father in law and mother in law; If elderly persons are together in one place the namaskaram to be made to the eldest person first and to others in the order of their age.

The peepul tree; the cow; married woman, (suvasini) the temple and junction of roads; prathakshina namaskaram should be over taken in the clock wise manner; In case of urgency , this should be done atleast mentally.

The person to whom namaskaram is made should bless the person doing it , failure to do this is a great sin.

While doing Prathakshinam in auspicious functions elderly people and males should precede the younger people and the female respectively. In auspicious functions , woman should not go before man.

 

[Nishniv]

What is your final conclusion? Manni should do namaskarams to the elder sister in law although she is younger to husband?

 

[B.Krishnamurthy]

Dear Shri.Nishiniv,
Shri.Sangom has explained the position lucidly.Manni's position is like mother.Elder sister in law,if younger to brother,should consider brother's wife holding the position and status of her own mother.In older days, while selecting girls for Sons,and while selecting Boys for daughters, these aspects were taken care of to avoid embarassing situations and ego classes.

 

[sangom]

Dear Shri.Nishiniv,
Shri.Sangom has explained the position lucidly.Manni's position is like mother.Elder sister in law,if younger to brother,should consider brother's wife holding the position and status of her own mother.In older days, while selecting girls for Sons,and while selecting Boys for daughters, these aspects were taken care of to avoid embarassing situations and ego classes.

Even in olden days when dowry was a problem and so marriages were decided by "thaathaas" as soon as a girl was born, to her second cousin ஒன்னு விட்டு அத்தான்/அம்மாஞ்சி, etc., this sort of situation used to arise, especially among our families ஸங்கேதிs. What I wrote is the practical way out found by our elders probably, but they must have had a certain backing of saastras for this; otherwise, it would not have been accepted. When husband and wife stand side by side, it is considered as one full entity, and not two persons, according to oue saastras.

 

[kr subramanian]

give a hand shake and end the embrassing situation.