One Child is not enough

[P.J.]

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One Child is not enough


A family of two children is better ,only one child means the child will feel lonely ;

We have a son and a daughter and they show lot of affection towards each other even though they are living Far off.

Here is a video showing one kid feeding the younger one!!


baby feeding,little brother's love - YouTube




Your opinion please>>

 

[krish44]

PJ sir

I fully agree with you .

I have two kids with 15 months difference .

The elder is a girl who was been protective about the younger one

they have shared everything since childhood and have been excellent company for each other

they resemble each other .many have asked me if they are twins .

they have grown together , played with each other and have been treated as equal in every way
they have studied in the same school for 12 years
they have similar professional degrees from the same college and similar management degrees and hold high paying jobs in MNCs

Both got married within a year of each other and bond pretty well with each other

they have even bought property next to each other in the same town in the same housing complex.

when we celebrate birthday of one ,we buy clothes for the other claiming it is their half birthday .

they have almost similar academic grades also .

I am equally proud of both of them

 

[P.J.]

Krish Sir

Nice, When the gap between the two is within 2-2 1/2 years, their understanding and bondage is very strong.

My son and daughter had about only 2 years age difference.

When they age difference is not more than 2 - 2 1/2 years , Upbringing them was considerably easier, the elder one's dresses, books etc can be used for the younger one.

They can together solve any family problem together.

My Eldest brother was about 10 years older than me, and hence i had more respect for him; on the other hand my immediate elder brother and younger brothers were only about 2 years age difference and that made us close to each other.

 

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One Child is not enough


A family of two children is better ,only one child means the child will feel lonely ;

We have a son and a daughter and they show lot of affection towards each other even though they are living Far off.

Here is a video showing one kid feeding the younger one!!


baby feeding,little brother's love - YouTube




Your opinion please>>

hi sir,

very nice video.....i like it.....even i have 2 kids...the difference is 12 yrs....very bonded each other...even i agreed with 2 kids...

now we can see ...one child policy of china....sharing and caring needed for human beings....the animals do sometimes better

than human beings...

 

[krish44]

Krish Sir

Nice, When the gap between the two is within 2-2 1/2 years, their understanding and bondage is very strong.

My son and daughter had about only 2 years age difference.

When they age difference is not more than 2 - 2 1/2 years , Upbringing them was considerably easier, the elder one's dresses, books etc can be used for the younger one.

They can together solve any family problem together.

My Eldest brother was about 10 years older than me, and hence i had more respect for him; on the other hand my immediate elder brother and younger brothers were only about 2 years age difference and that made us close to each other.

PJ sir
My kids coordinate with each other for anything related to parents .

when they were young , the elder would make a pact with the younger on demands to be made on parents for various occassions. also would be protective in school .

they shared books , the elder would guide the younger , brief them about teachers and how to handle them .

she would do even assignments for younger brother in college and passed all her notes . she kept undesirable elements away from him in school and college .

she was kind enough to find him a few girl friends also. He got married to one girl on her recommendation [he had approached her to square up the family]

even now she keeps an eye on him and bosses over him which he resents very much as he gets treated as the kid of the family

I too confide in brother only 3 years senior to me . my eldest brother 15 years older is a father figure and I have respect only for him

 

[renuka]

Dear PJ sir,

Some might feel 1 is not enough..some might feel even 10 is not enough..it all depends on what we want in life.

Some people also opt not to have children and are fine with that.

I remember when my inlaws came to view me..my Father In Law noted that I was the only daughter and had 2 brothers.

He told me "you dont have a sister..you are missing out something in life"


I told him "what the mind does not know the mind wont miss"

He somehow liked my answer.

I have 2 brothers but I dont feel so sentimental about them.

Many people feel only children are lonely but in reality most of them are well adjusted and often very successful in life.

My son is an only child and he is very happy and had no problems..in fact he does not like the idea of siblings at all.But people tend to keep nagging only kids as why you are the only child.

A teacher once asked my son in school "Why are you the only child? Why are you parents not trying to have anymore kids?

My son felt that the teacher invaded his privacy by asking this question in front of the whole class and he replied the teacher "Are you asking my parents to have sex?"

The teacher was shocked to hear that reply and she stopped asking him why he is the only child!LOL




PJ sir..Loneliness is subjective..being surrounded by many siblings or many people does not mean that we are not lonely..one can also lead a crowded lonely life.

 

[P.J.]

renukaji

we are not for 10, but one must have another company, either a boy or girl, so that both will experience affection etc.

you may not agree, but if you put this issue into Voting in this Forum, i think many will surely agree with me.


Is there any way , the voting can be done here in this Forum ?

 

[renuka]

renukaji

we are not for 10, but one must have another company, either a boy or girl, so that both will experience affection etc.

you may not agree, but if you put this issue into Voting in this Forum, i think many will surely agree with me.


Is there any way , the voting can be done here in this Forum ?

Dear PJ sir,

I grew up with 2 brothers..I never fought with them as a kid cos I was the peacemaker of the house.

But as an adult I prefer not to hang around too much with anyone...but if they need my help I always help but I usually prefer not to include many people in my life.

My younger brother is a very family oriented person..he loves to share about what his kid does etc.

I never shared with anyone what my son did as a baby or a child cos I see all these childhood antics as part of growing up and milestones of all humans and dont get too carried away with it.

Sometimes when my brother phones to tell me "my child did this today etc" at times I dont even know what to respond.

I just say "yes good" but inside I feel 'why is he getting so excited? all humans grow thru this..even lion cubs are playful when young cos that is when the learning curve is the greatest"

May be I tend to be too technical so that way I dont really feel the number of siblings makes a great difference to me.



As an adult we are a lone ranger cos each person has their own life.

 

[krish44]

Dear PJ sir,

Some might feel 1 is not enough..some might feel even 10 is not enough..it all depends on what we want in life.

Some people also opt not to have children and are fine with that.

I remember when my inlaws came to view me..my Father In Law noted that I was the only daughter and had 2 brothers.

He told me "you dont have a sister..you are missing out something in life"


I told him "what the mind does not know the mind wont miss"

He somehow liked my answer.

I have 2 brothers but I dont feel so sentimental about them.

Many people feel only children are lonely but in reality most of them are well adjusted and often very successful in life.

My son is an only child and he is very happy and had no problems..in fact he does not like the idea of siblings at all.But people tend to keep nagging only kids as why you are the only child.

A teacher once asked my son in school "Why are you the only child? Why are you parents not trying to have anymore kids?

My son felt that the teacher invaded his privacy by asking this question in front of the whole class and he replied the teacher "Are you asking my parents to have sex?"

The teacher was shocked to hear that reply and she stopped asking him why he is the only child




PJ sir..Loneliness is subjective..being surrounded by many siblings or many people does not mean that we are not lonely..one can also lead a crowded lonely life.

renukaji
single children require company when they are young . when working couple are not available after school if there are no elders home , they do get lonely . some end in creche after school .
If there is a sibling , there is a bond and they cope with difficulties together .

If older like doctors get lonely in a crowded environment like clinics , they can bank on this forum for company .lol

 

[renuka]

renukaji
single children require company when they are young . when working couple are not available after school if there are no elders home , they do get lonely . some end in creche after school .
If there is a sibling , there is a bond and they cope with difficulties together .

If older like doctors get lonely in a crowded environment like clinics , they can bank on this forum for company .lol

Dear Krish ji,

Children no matter how many should never be left unsupervised..so there is no question if being left alone at home.

Kids these days have busy online activities and they play interactive war games with their friends.

I log into forum when I am work..I seldom log in when I am having a Public Holiday..tomorrow is 1st May(workers day) and I wont be online.

 

[rishikesan]

Dear all, My basic comments on the Topic of 1 Child/ 2 children . also about lonliness of one child. Let me express my practical experiences . First daughter was born in 1967 second in Dec 1968., is a Son Just 2 years gap? I would say that initially Govt declared 3 & backed out saying 2 is enough, Alas" lately ONE , may be son or daughter ? All have adopted/ restricted to only one because of the simple reason that they marry after 30 & by the time they decide to have a child? ( it means , parents have no say at all , since they are independent/ live in far-off countries & even marry to their SWEET will,)
The couple , unfortunately agree/ decide to block a second child .By the time the girl becomes over-aged for having the risk of one more pregnancy. God forbid , the only child born should live long & be affectionate to parents & grand parents.
Let me share the happiness we derived when we were blessed with the THIRD daughter in 1973 , when I was 40 years & my wife was just 31 years.
Let me briefly mention about the behavior of these 3 children, for others to realize the practicality of life. The first 2 Girl/ Boy were often quaralled themselves. & when the 3rd one happened to be a GIRL all the quarrels subsided & they started showing unstinted affection to our surprize, thereafter , all 3 were much united for all purposes, One in U.S & oter 2 are with us, so we enjoy life to the fullest , more so they have 2 children each. One thing surprising fact :- for the first 2 children we struggled to bring them up But, the 3rd grew , following the elder brother & Sister, we even forgot as to whether at all we parents made any Spl effort to bring her up ?
Finally my considered opinion is :-One is not advisable : 2 is Fine either one son one daughter or both same Sex.
Rishikesan

 

[Iyyarooraan]

A family of 9+9 children is not bad today; We all now know that god feeds all he created and the government cannot even take care of the childless couple or single parent.