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Respect Her

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You may be having a son/ brother / grandson ready in the marriage market Share this with him!
T he woman in your life...very well expressed...
Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry her remembering these facts as well.
Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;
One, who has dreams and aspirations just as,
you have because she is as human as you are;
One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements.
One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;
One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways
and even your family name.
One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day 1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen
One, who is expected to make tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you.
One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities.
Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise.
One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met.
One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important, relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her.
One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.
But not many guys understand this......
Please appreciate "HER"
I hope you will do....
Respect Her.
 
OMG!


What a long list! Men would be expecting us females to be doing all these in order to qualify to being "respected" by them.

I don't think any female in the current times even does 0.00000000000000000000001% of what is in the list!LOL


Somehow glorification of woman is not healthy becos its an indirect form of subjugation and expectations..just let a female exists on her own...she wont bother you...she does not really want a man to understand her cos she knows he can never!LOL

Respect if it comes with a great deal of expectation is not really worth it.
 
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The OP is a bit late and should have been on the net before a few decades!

Now, girls are very careful in sharing the household chores with their dear hubbies whether the go to work or not! :)
If the floor maintenance is by him, she will not even pick up stuff scattered on the floor! :couch2:
 
The problem with the OP is that it is a male-centric post, the woman is eulogized because she is made to look a sacrificial goat for the male ego.
 
I think it is a well meaning and a straightforward post. Let us not twist or pervert it to get a different meaning.
 
It is not very harmful if you respect wife.

If you totally obey your wifes diktats you will be very happy in your life.

Earlier this wisdom comes to you, better it is for you.

One should not read too much into the posters write up.

Read only last line-Start respecting wife if you have not been doing so far and got away with it.

Sometimes luck runs out and you will get fixed for disrespecting better half.lol
 
It is not very harmful if you respect wife.

If you totally obey your wifes diktats you will be very happy in your life.

Earlier this wisdom comes to you, better it is for you.

One should not read too much into the posters write up.

Read only last line-Start respecting wife if you have not been doing so far and got away with it.

Sometimes luck runs out and you will get fixed for disrespecting better half.lol

A very practical and useful advice. LOL.
 
The problem with the OP is that it is a male-centric post, the woman is eulogized because she is made to look a sacrificial goat for the male ego.

I am with you on this.
I do half the things in the list.

The respect is mutual.
 
Respect women when they say 'NO'

Men should learn to accept rejection from women .

When women say 'NO' men feel their pride is hurt and they try to force themselves on them. some end up molesting them or throwing acid etc.

As Mary Kom says, women have eyes and mouth ,heart and brains[?] like men. Just because some parts are different,they do not like their breasts touched or their

bums patted. It has nothing to do with what they wear

or time of day or night .

Mary kom says she can beat any molester to pulp but why it should come to that?
 
​Many Ambis say:

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It is fine to celebrate women...

But in practice when a female baby is born.... what is the reaction ... I mean in rural areas of Tamil Nadu

In most of the districts they are killing female babies... and everybdy knows this

Why don't the society celebrate girl babies birth...... ??

How many voice their concern?

 
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The man in your life...very well expressed...

Tomorrow you will surely get a working man, but you should marry him remembering these facts as well.

Here is a guy, who is as much educated as you are and even more educated sometimes.

Who is earning as much or even more than you do;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as,
you have because he is as human as you are;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in his life just like you father or your brother haven't.

One, who has lived and loved his parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;
One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that Rahu,Ketu,Luggage ,Baggage .. his home, people who love him, to adopt a new home, start a family, your ways cos you will eventually dominate him.

One, who is somehow expected to be a master of the house..yet work like a dog, while you sleep oblivious to his predicament.


One, who is expected to shoulder financial responsibility more than you...yet as the years go by and after you have kids you neglect him emotionally and sexually but yet get angry when he surfs Sunny Leone's videos!


One, who has his own set of friends, and that includes girls and even women at his workplace too, those, who he knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities and your potential to repeat the Bobbit.

Yes, he can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise...he will hide it from you.

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met but if you are late its work..but if he is late you accuse him of an affair.

One, who is doing his level best and wants to make this most important, relationship in his entire life a grand success, if you just help him some and trust him
.
One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one he knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

But not many girls understand this......
Please appreciate "HIM"
I hope you will do....
Respect Him.
 
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Here most of the times, now females are near to their parents only.Therefore they can easily get support from them. Even if the husband is ill-treating, she can immediately get comfort from her family. Now men are only alienated from their family due to social pressures and due to necessities of living peacefully without any quarrel, they prefer more to live with in-laws than with their own family.
 
Here most of the times, now females are near to their parents only.Therefore they can easily get support from them. Even if the husband is ill-treating, she can immediately get comfort from her family. Now men are only alienated from their family due to social pressures and due to necessities of living peacefully without any quarrel, they prefer more to live with in-laws than with their own family.
Hence I wrote:

''இந்நாளில் பெண்களுக்கோ அமெரிக்க மாப்பிள்ளை வேணும்;
எந்நாளும் மாமன் மாமி இந்தியாவில் இருக்கவேணும்!

பெண்கள் மட்டும்தான் பெற்றோரைப் பேணுகின்றார் – இல்லை!
பெண்கள் தன் பெற்றோரை மட்டும் பேணுகின்றார்!!''

Source: Post # 18 of
எண்ண அலைகள்....
 
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