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Hi, I have a question related to Hindu Shastra. We belong to very orthodox Tamil brahmin family and follow all madi ,acharam and all hindu rituals. My Sister-in-law (Hubby's younger sister) passed away in her 26 after her delivery. My in-laws are very upset and not able to bear the loss. After 3 months(Mid of 2013), they started doing all weird things. Let me tell that. They took print of her daughter's photos and kept in room and hall. After that they started doing all the things like offering coffee,breakfast,dinner. Daily they keep dresses also and next day morning she will wash. Wherever my Mother-in-law goes, she will take the photo. Even at home, after doing pooja, she will keep karpoora aarathi, kungumam and flower.Even at nights, she will keep the photo nearby and offer bed spread, pillow and all. The list never end. so many....... nowadays she is insisting my 3 year and 1 year kid to offer food and insisting them to say Good morning,Good night to photo of my SIL. Is this things allowed in shastram? No one is telling her that she is doing wrong and all accepted whatever she does. I cant tell anything because she is very senti. Kindly help how to deal this? She is telling because of ancestors sin only, her daughter is not alive. Now I am afraid, because of this things she does, it will affect my kids. Still she is following all madi,shastratam and all..Kindly help? How to deal? Don't suggest to bring to psychological doctor. She will not accept that.

<blockquote data-quote="Lakshmikrishna" data-source="post: 409044" data-attributes="member: 80916"><p>Hi, I have a question related to Hindu Shastra. We belong to very orthodox Tamil brahmin family and follow all madi ,acharam and all hindu rituals. My Sister-in-law (Hubby&#039;s younger sister) passed away in her 26 after her delivery. My in-laws are very upset and not able to bear the loss. After 3 months(Mid of 2013), they started doing all weird things. Let me tell that. They took print of her daughter&#039;s photos and kept in room and hall. After that they started doing all the things like offering coffee,breakfast,dinner. Daily they keep dresses also and next day morning she will wash. Wherever my Mother-in-law goes, she will take the photo. Even at home, after doing pooja, she will keep karpoora aarathi, kungumam and flower.Even at nights, she will keep the photo nearby and offer bed spread, pillow and all. The list never end. so many....... nowadays she is insisting my 3 year and 1 year kid to offer food and insisting them to say Good morning,Good night to photo of my SIL. Is this things allowed in shastram? No one is telling her that she is doing wrong and all accepted whatever she does. I cant tell anything because she is very senti. Kindly help how to deal this? She is telling because of ancestors sin only, her daughter is not alive. Now I am afraid, because of this things she does, it will affect my kids. Still she is following all madi,shastratam and all..Kindly help? How to deal? Don&#039;t suggest to bring to psychological doctor. She will not accept that.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Lakshmikrishna, post: 409044, member: 80916"] Hi, I have a question related to Hindu Shastra. We belong to very orthodox Tamil brahmin family and follow all madi ,acharam and all hindu rituals. My Sister-in-law (Hubby's younger sister) passed away in her 26 after her delivery. My in-laws are very upset and not able to bear the loss. After 3 months(Mid of 2013), they started doing all weird things. Let me tell that. They took print of her daughter's photos and kept in room and hall. After that they started doing all the things like offering coffee,breakfast,dinner. Daily they keep dresses also and next day morning she will wash. Wherever my Mother-in-law goes, she will take the photo. Even at home, after doing pooja, she will keep karpoora aarathi, kungumam and flower.Even at nights, she will keep the photo nearby and offer bed spread, pillow and all. The list never end. so many....... nowadays she is insisting my 3 year and 1 year kid to offer food and insisting them to say Good morning,Good night to photo of my SIL. Is this things allowed in shastram? No one is telling her that she is doing wrong and all accepted whatever she does. I cant tell anything because she is very senti. Kindly help how to deal this? She is telling because of ancestors sin only, her daughter is not alive. Now I am afraid, because of this things she does, it will affect my kids. Still she is following all madi,shastratam and all..Kindly help? How to deal? Don't suggest to bring to psychological doctor. She will not accept that. [/QUOTE]

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