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I was 14 years old when I had enough of 'celebrating' the birthday of my elder sister who passed away few years before I was even born.

Talk to the Vadhyar / Satrigal in private. If the Vadhyar / Sastrigal tell the elders that, if someone keep thinking of the departed, the departed would not not find Shanti.

We 'celebrate' the 13th day after the death only to move away from the departed. The remembrance becomes once a month and after one year, becomes once a year.

Dragging the departed into attachment would not let the departed find peace. The Vadhyar / Shatriga would explain this.

5 years is not a long period. Don't fight with your husband. Possibly he needs help just like you do too.

Don't worry about the children.... they will overcome this in time.

Support the older persons. They have a massive grief and would appreciate the support.

My five cents worth ( 5 cents is the minimum denomination here).

<blockquote data-quote="Raghy" data-source="post: 409286" data-attributes="member: 8560">I was 14 years old when I had enough of &#039;celebrating&#039; the birthday of my elder sister who passed away few years before I was even born.Talk to the Vadhyar / Satrigal in private. If the Vadhyar / Sastrigal tell the elders that, if someone keep thinking of the departed, the departed would not not find Shanti. We &#039;celebrate&#039; the 13th day after the death only to move away from the departed. The remembrance becomes once a month and after one year, becomes once a year. Dragging the departed into attachment would not&nbsp; let the departed find peace. The Vadhyar / Shatriga would explain this.5 years is not a long period. Don&#039;t fight with your husband. Possibly he needs help just like you do too.Don&#039;t worry about the children.... they will overcome this in time.Support the older persons. They have a massive grief and would appreciate the support. My five cents worth ( 5 cents is the minimum denomination here).</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Raghy, post: 409286, member: 8560"] I was 14 years old when I had enough of 'celebrating' the birthday of my elder sister who passed away few years before I was even born. Talk to the Vadhyar / Satrigal in private. If the Vadhyar / Sastrigal tell the elders that, if someone keep thinking of the departed, the departed would not not find Shanti. We 'celebrate' the 13th day after the death only to move away from the departed. The remembrance becomes once a month and after one year, becomes once a year. Dragging the departed into attachment would not let the departed find peace. The Vadhyar / Shatriga would explain this. 5 years is not a long period. Don't fight with your husband. Possibly he needs help just like you do too. Don't worry about the children.... they will overcome this in time. Support the older persons. They have a massive grief and would appreciate the support. My five cents worth ( 5 cents is the minimum denomination here). [/QUOTE]

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