The depressing golden cage of rich homemakers

[prasad1]

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In my view, as a society -- in the more affluent circles, at least -- we seem to be failing to get a few critical points across to our daughters.

The days when families survived on a single income are fast vanishing. Inflation, lifestyles, aspirations are all rising faster than incomes, and to live the kind of lives we seem to be aspiring to, it is critical that both partners in a marriage contribute.

The days when marriages were for keeps are gone, too. I have seen several instances where women were suddenly thrust into work due to a separation or a divorce. All too often, the woman finds herself trying to eke out a living, managing the children and dealing with the trauma of a broken relationship all at the same time.

But perhaps the biggest point that needs to be driven home is that girls need to be aware that they work or keep themselves gainfully occupied for their own sake. There is no point to prove.

We don't work only to earn a living but to keep our minds alive. That is the single most compelling reason.


http://www.rediff.com/getahead/report/the-depressing-golden-cage-of-rich-homemakers/20170509.htm

 

[krish44]

Slowly the concept that women should remain housewives is slowly disappearing.

But a woman who becomes an economic entity with a professional career has her own set of demands which calls for others -maids, cooks and parents and inlaws for

child support- to support her partially or fully.She becomes a nuisance for all around her with her requiring enormous amount of extra support.

A depressed partly idle house wife is preferable many times to this career driven types.The latter are the cause for maximum divorces in india.

 

[prasad1]

Slowly the concept that women should remain housewives is slowly disappearing.

But a woman who becomes an economic entity with a professional career has her own set of demands which calls for others -maids, cooks and parents and inlaws for


A depressed partly idle house wife is preferable many times to this career driven types.The latter are the cause for maximum divorces in india.

There are various reasons for divorce. I would not assign one single cause for that.

I have seen several instances where women were suddenly thrust into work due to a separation or a divorce. All too often, the woman finds herself trying to eke out a living, managing the children and dealing with the trauma of a broken relationship all at the same time.

Just because our way of life is changing, we can not ignore the reality. Yes there will be some adjustments that have to be made.
You said:

A depressed partly idle house wife is preferable many times to this career driven types.The latter are the cause for maximum divorces in india.

A plantation owner may say that:
A slave, even if unhappy provided for a prospective country.

You know that exploiting anyone is not the right thing to do.

 

[krish44]

Prasadji

I was waiting for a strong response from you.

This attempt by educated career women for equality in work and home space is unsettling the existing order for accepted lifestyle in india.

Most girls would like their own parents staying next to them , preferably under the same roof after marriage.[Perhaps to look after grand children?]. Often comparison

get made between her parents and his parents[Who would offer better support to pursue her career?].For modern career types , every one is a resource-including both

sets of parents, maids,drivers, even neighbours.lol. The stresses of work life-irregular work hours,safety concerns in metros all add up to a volatile mix often leading

to flare up among young couples.This is ready made recipe for disaster for girls.Though big money these girls earn is an attraction, the price they pay is heavy.. Most

highly educated, high earning women often hang up their jobs after a few years of career.Then they miss the money which they have for discretionary spending.lol