Visuvin Makkal Arangam - emotional episode

[P.J.]

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This particular one shows how the relationships in family deteriorates in present society

Visuvin Makkal Arangam - emotional episode - YouTube

 

[C RAVI]

This particular one shows how the relationships in family deteriorates in present society

Visuvin Makkal Arangam - emotional episode - YouTube

As long as such sons/humans exist, it's a shame on humanity and family values.

 

[kunjuppu]

we discussed this in detail including the same episode of visu....

http://www.tamilbrahmins.com/general-discussions/6411-ingnoring-parents.html

..and renuka uploaded the url

 

[P.J.]

As long as such sons/humans exist, it's a shame on humanity and family values.

Ravi Sir

There are such cruel sons; They just leave their old mother telling her he will back to pick her up next day, but he never comes back.
Mother expecting her son to come back next day, waits at the veranda in vain. Such stories are common nowadays.

 

[P.J.]

we discussed this in detail including the same episode of visu....

http://www.tamilbrahmins.com/general-discussions/6411-ingnoring-parents.html

..and renuka uploaded the url

Thanks Kunjuppu

I did not see that.

 

[tbs]

This particular one shows how the relationships in family deteriorates in present society

Visuvin Makkal Arangam - emotional episode - YouTube

hi paddhu sir,

thanks....i feel guilty of too much material/economical freedom/development...i may be wrong....பணம் இருக்கும் இடத்தில குணம்

இருக்காது....குணம் இருக்கும் இடத்தில பணம் இருக்காது..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdU9LdY4wGY

 

[P.J.]

hi paddhu sir,

thanks....i feel guilty of too much material/economical freedom/development...i may be wrong....பணம் இருக்கும் இடத்தில குணம்

இருக்காது....குணம் இருக்கும் இடத்தில பணம் இருக்காது..

tbs Sir

You mentioned you studied in Veda pada sala when you were young; did you continue that profession and how did you go to US?
It must be very interesting to know.

My brother was maintaining veda Pada Sala during 62-72 period on the advice of Maha Periyava.
One dikshadar and 7 students were under him.
Now all them as I understand have become very famous Sasthrigal.

 

[tbs]

tbs Sir

You mentioned you studied in Veda pada sala when you were young; did you continue that profession and how did you go to US?
It must be very interesting to know.

My brother was maintaining veda Pada Sala during 62-72 period on the advice of Maha Periyava.
One dikshadar and 7 students were under him.
Now all them as I understand have become very famous Sasthrigal.

hi paddhu sir,
i studied veda patashala...i was teacher in mylapore....i served in indian army for 17 years...i did 4 masters and 1 ph.d...

i moved to canada first...then US....i do teaching/research etc,,,,,,just info...partly vedic profession too....

 

[P.J.]

hi paddhu sir,
i studied veda patashala...i was teacher in mylapore....i served in indian army for 17 years...i did 4 masters and 1 ph.d...

i moved to canada first...then US....i do teaching/research etc,,,,,,just info...partly vedic profession too....

tbs Sir

Two different lines, one studying Vedas and another serving in Army!!
Then moving to unknown land!!

You must be having a wealth of information on many subjects as you did Phd also.
Really a great thing, I solute you Sir

 

[kunjuppu]

As long as such sons/humans exist, it's a shame on humanity and family values.

dear ravi, PJ,

i think one cannot blanket condemn folks.

just put in this situation PJ. your son has sponsored you to the USA and if you dont accept the sponsorship, it lapses and you will have to go through the whole process including the long wait period.

but you are the only son, no other sibling, and your elderly parents are in india. they need care and support. would you be staying behind, knowing very well, that you will be left alone in your old age, or will you arrange for some old age home for your parents, and go to the usa.

i think we have members here, who are in usa, with elderly parents in india. can we say that they have 'abandoned' their parents, while enjoying the fruits of usa living, and the comfort of having their children close by?

i dont know if there is 100% black or white answers.

 

[P.J.]

kunjuppu

i understand your question, very few only will leave their aged parents without caring; but these types of very few are also there.
My sister in law has an aged mother with her; her son is is Canada, but she is not able to go to Canada leaving her mother in old age home.There is no one else to look after her aged mother as she is the only surviving member in the family.

 

[C RAVI]

dear ravi, PJ,

i think one cannot blanket condemn folks.

just put in this situation PJ. your son has sponsored you to the USA and if you dont accept the sponsorship, it lapses and you will have to go through the whole process including the long wait period.

but you are the only son, no other sibling, and your elderly parents are in india. they need care and support. would you be staying behind, knowing very well, that you will be left alone in your old age, or will you arrange for some old age home for your parents, and go to the usa.

i think we have members here, who are in usa, with elderly parents in india. can we say that they have 'abandoned' their parents, while enjoying the fruits of usa living, and the comfort of having their children close by?

i dont know if there is 100% black or white answers.

Shri Kunjuppu,

If we look into details, every one would have their own justification, including myself, if at all I happen to leave my mom all alone in a old age home.

My statement in my post no. 2 was thus a one liner, only to refer to those who are very much in the same city and are least bothered at least to give emotional support, be sensitive to the feelings of their parents and express love to their ripe old parents in any way possible.

The lady talking in the show, who is running a old age home, explained such cases. She told a story in which the son was worried about the legal papers of the property when his mother was expressing her grief over bed soars of her bed ridden sick husband, counting on his death. And, in another case a old lady who came to her old age home as temporary arrangement, refused to return to her son's house. Yet in another case, the old dying lady refused to in take Tulsi Water from the hands of her son and daughter-in-law BUT willingly and comfortably opened her mouth to intake tulsi water/milk from the hands of the lady who is running the show and giving out her ample love and care.

My heart pains when I come across the plight of such old parents.


Whether children are keeping the parents with them, or are some where near to their parents in the same local city, or out of state or out of country, they can well make their parents feel proud, happy and contented to have got them as their children, they can happily breath their last even if they pass away in old age home, away from their children and grand children.

 

[C RAVI]

kunjuppu

i understand your question, very few only will leave their aged parents without caring; but these types of very few are also there.
My sister in law has an aged mother with her; her son is is Canada, but she is not able to go to Canada leaving her mother in old age home.There is no one else to look after her aged mother as she is the only surviving member in the family.

Yes Sir!!

The same is the case with we brothers. Both of us were working in Dubai and father and mother were in Chennai. When dad passed away in 2010, we brothers decided among our self as who gonna stay back in Chennai with unhealthy mother and my elder brother made a firm decision to stay back, when I wished to be in Chennai.

Relatives and neighbors were giving us 2 suggests. 1) Either none of us to lose a job in Dubai and take mother to Dubai with us OR 2) To leave her in a good old age home.

As far as first option is concerned, it was not possible, because, 1) Mother's health was too fragile and she had to undergo Varicose Vein Surgery within few months. Medical expenses are too high in Dubai and we can't cope up especially in case of serious issues. and 2) Since we both are unmarried and have long office hours, she would be all alone in a foreign land without any one around her to attend to any sort of emergencies.

As far as second option is concerned, we can't ever allow our self of leave our lone parent in a old age home.

 

[P.J.]

Sri.RAVI Sir

It is heartening to learn from you this; God will be your family.
When i will be visiting Chennai Next year, surely i will go and see your mother.

 

[kunjuppu]

My relatives were renting the upstairs of a house in chennai.

The owner was a catholic. The only son was in Nigeria. Came home every 5 years, and spent most of the time in his in law house (don’t know where that was).

The owner wife died and the owner was alone. Like all men he did not even know how to boil water.

My relatives used to pass food to him and everything else. Soon, the owner also died. The son did not come for the funeral as Nigeria is so far away.

There were some emergency house repairs, to be done, and my relatives did it. when they sent the bill to the son, he refused to pay, saying that the wear and tear of the house was due to the tenants. So my tenants abandoned the house and left it. soon some relatives came and occupied it and my relatives kept quiet. The relatives caught hold of local politicians, and changed ownership and the son was left with a big surprise.

By then, my relatives had left the house, and the son came and cried and asked them why they had not told him about the relatives occupying. Silently my relatives showed him the 20,000 rupee bill, that he had refused to pay and asked him to get out.

There is a moral in this story somewhere. But I am unable to find it.

 

[P.J.]

There are many Aged parents of NRIs living in very well maintained Old Age homes where monthly maintenance expenses charged for them will be around Rs 25000/-
Those who live in US/Australia /Canada/ and other places can afford to pay for this.

in our case we could have refused Green Card, but the question comes when one of us leave, the other one has to manage alone; Every relatives have their own tie ups, son/ daughter abroad, and none would take full responsibility to look after a relative.

So we decided to have Green Card, and in case anyone fall sick, we can apply for Re Entry Permit for 1/ or 2 years, come to India, do all medical requirements; and then go back to US.

We plan, but God must be having His own plan!!

 

[C RAVI]

Sri.RAVI Sir

It is heartening to learn from you this; God will be your family.
When i will be visiting Chennai Next year, surely i will go and see your mother.

You are most welcome Sir. I will be glad to have you in our home..

 

[P.J.]

You are most welcome Sir. I will be glad to have you in our home..

Thanks Sri.RAVI Sir

I will try to take your horoscope and Mother to Krishna Ratnam Uncle, and find out the reasons for the delay in yourself getting married.

Hope it happens next year.

 

[tbs]

tbs Sir

Two different lines, one studying Vedas and another serving in Army!!
Then moving to unknown land!!

You must be having a wealth of information on many subjects as you did Phd also.
Really a great thing, I solute you Sir

hi paddhu sir,

thank u so much for ur kind words....just info....my younger brother studied veda patashala in kanchipuram under the guidance

of Mahaperiavaa....he was always and very close to Mahaperiavaa for some years....he was His favorite student in veda

patashala...now we dont know his whereabouts..its long story...i heard that he joined in a famous ashram in rishikesh.....

he was bachelor and never married...now mother is staying alone in my home in chennai....now im ONLY SON to take care of...

she is aged but okay in health wise....i dont want put her in old age home....so i visit her every year without fail.....

i have my home and my mom have family pension too...she is helping others in neighborhood....she has visitor visa and

ready to apply for green card..but she rejected and never visited USA....