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From my limited understanding (as bachelor), I tend to agree with the writeups of both zebra ji and TBT ji. Both Pravrutti and Nivrutti dharmas are considered equally important in our culture. So as Zebraji said, a choice is given to the boy to pursue Nivrutti dharma if he so desires, before taking this critical step of entering Grhasthasrama. And if you remember the story of the father of saint Jnaneswar, Kasi yatra does seem to indicate the taking up of Nivrutti dharma, from which one is not supposed to recede.

As regards the idea expressed by Sri TBT, Kashi is of course very well known as a place of learning. But a groom who simply states his desire to undertake a Kasi yatra need not be considered a scholar already. Nevertheless there's something in the aspiration, and the tradition or sishtachara might have wanted to encourage this. The father of the girl might want his daughter to share in the learning process, whenever that happens. Reading Sri TBT's post, I was reminded of a story from the Chandogya upanishad wherein a king approaches a Rishi, seeking knowledge. Initially the Rishi refuses. However later when the king approaches him with his daughter along with some wealth, the Rishi accepts the request, saying 'I will share the knowledge with you, through her face" which I understand to mean, "your daughter, after learning this Vidya from me, will teach you".

<blockquote data-quote="KRN" data-source="post: 409456" data-attributes="member: 18210">From my limited understanding (as bachelor), I tend to agree with the writeups of both zebra ji and TBT ji. Both Pravrutti and Nivrutti dharmas are considered equally important in our culture. So as Zebraji said, a choice is given to the boy to pursue Nivrutti dharma if he so desires, before taking this critical step of entering Grhasthasrama. And if you remember the story of the father of saint Jnaneswar, Kasi yatra does seem to indicate the taking up of Nivrutti dharma, from which one is not supposed to recede.As regards the idea expressed by Sri TBT, Kashi is of course very well known as a place of learning. But a groom who simply states his desire to undertake a Kasi yatra need not be considered a scholar already. Nevertheless there&#039;s something in the aspiration, and the tradition or sishtachara might have wanted to encourage this. The father of the girl might want his daughter to share in the learning process, whenever that happens. Reading Sri TBT&#039;s post, I was reminded of a story from the Chandogya upanishad wherein a king approaches a Rishi, seeking knowledge. Initially the Rishi refuses. However later when the king approaches him with his daughter along with some wealth, the Rishi accepts the request, saying &#039;I will share the knowledge with you, through her face&quot; which I understand to mean, &quot;your daughter, after learning this Vidya from me, will teach you&quot;.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="KRN, post: 409456, member: 18210"] From my limited understanding (as bachelor), I tend to agree with the writeups of both zebra ji and TBT ji. Both Pravrutti and Nivrutti dharmas are considered equally important in our culture. So as Zebraji said, a choice is given to the boy to pursue Nivrutti dharma if he so desires, before taking this critical step of entering Grhasthasrama. And if you remember the story of the father of saint Jnaneswar, Kasi yatra does seem to indicate the taking up of Nivrutti dharma, from which one is not supposed to recede. As regards the idea expressed by Sri TBT, Kashi is of course very well known as a place of learning. But a groom who simply states his desire to undertake a Kasi yatra need not be considered a scholar already. Nevertheless there's something in the aspiration, and the tradition or sishtachara might have wanted to encourage this. The father of the girl might want his daughter to share in the learning process, whenever that happens. Reading Sri TBT's post, I was reminded of a story from the Chandogya upanishad wherein a king approaches a Rishi, seeking knowledge. Initially the Rishi refuses. However later when the king approaches him with his daughter along with some wealth, the Rishi accepts the request, saying 'I will share the knowledge with you, through her face" which I understand to mean, "your daughter, after learning this Vidya from me, will teach you". [/QUOTE]

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