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When a person becomes old, he becomes child again

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When a person becomes old, he becomes child again



Children ‘Forgive and Forget’ very easily but as the age advances, both become very difficult; and again at the fag end of one’s life, it comes back very easily.

We see small children never keep any grudge against anyone, they fight for a moment, next moment they play together forgetting .They say’ don’t talk to me’ but then they forget and talk to each other. That’s the beautiful phase of one’s life. I see my grand children do this all the time.

This quality inherent in all of us comes back to us again as the age advances.
Once we reach a level of maturity with age, we take every thing without any reaction.
That is why people say ‘when a person becomes old, he becomes child again’

God always bless those people who forgive and forget ;Forgiveness is a gift comes with maturity in age. When one realizes “Am I willing to waste my energy further on this matter?" If the answer is "No," then that's it! All is forgiven”

Old people remember all those good things done to them, but never keep in their mind any harm done to them by anyone. This is a spiritual sadhana comes with age.

What Thiruvalluvar says about this:

Inna Seitharai Orutthal AvarNaana
Nannayam Seithu Vidal

Which means, "give them the good things who given the bad things to you for the sake of letting them to feel ashamed of their activity, and then forget both , your good action as well as his bad action “

What a way we have been taught!!! We must forget both... wonderful!!

“The best thing to give to your enemy is forgiveness;
to an opponent, tolerance;
to a friend, your heart;
to your child, a good example;
to a father, deference;
to your mother, conduct that will make her proud of you;
to yourself, respect; to all men, charity.”

There are many oldies here like Brahmanyan sir , Vishalakshi madam, sangom sir and surely many more here.
I appreciate their service here.
They give back their wisdom to the society by contributing their knowledge here.
 
Dear Padmanabhan,

Pray do not look upon this note as drawing of my s(words) for some sort of a duel. Nothing could be further from my intent. All I hope to do is to present, perhaps an alternate view. Which does not necessarily opposes what you have stated in your initial salvo, but more a tangential complement. Simply said, ‘another view’. OK?

Let me start with ‘There is no fool like an old fool’ – which, at 62, is my guiding principle to my own march towards senior status. I do tend to be careful, more careful, than ever in giving anyone, the benefit of my’experience’.

There is a tendency to be garrulous, as we age. ‘When I was at your age…’ is often the start of a narrative, which was flow around like the Ganges, starting from a high point, and meandering towards unrelated and senseless statements (in the view of the receiver) and ending up with not an ounce of good sense. How often, do we see, younger folks of whatever age, depart hastily or avoid, the approach of an old man. I have seen many, and it is my heartfelt goal, not to turn myself into an old bore. I may still succeed being one, inspite of myself. More than once, my children have remarked that I tend to repeat..of late.

Another aspect of the elderly, is forever, to proclaim their successes. A 70 or 80 year old, must have had his share of failures. So far I am yet to hear of such, from the old hags that I happen to see at weddings or get togethers. How much refreshing it would be, for someone to explain the details of how he lost ½ a million in real estate, for atleast this would be a warning/education to some of the younger listeners, who would be prone to make the same or similar mistakes. On the contrary, it is always the same song, about the ‘killings’ made in the stock market or such like.

We, Indians, I feel, also put great emphasis, not only in our ‘knowledge’, but how our advice has resulted in solving someone else’s problems. Tell this man about some recent experience (bad or otherwise), and pat would come the reply, ‘If you had only asked me…. ‘ and thanks to the benefit of his advice, how someone’s life was saved, or how he found a house, or a job. Modesty, especially, among the aged, is an often absent commodity. I think so.

If you doubt me, just start a conversation with any retired army man or CEO. I would agree that doctors and the medical profession in general, are somewhat reticient in verbalizing their memoirs.

Talking of second childhood – my mother during the last few years of my father’s life, often used to express that daddy was going through his second childhood. By that she meant, that due to his infirmity, he needed constant care – like eating, changing, cleaning, bathing and what not – like a child. To me, that is a more acceptable and natural regression, to the second childhood in us, than our ability to forgive and forget.

The latter quality, admirable though it, need not, and should not, be confined to just the babies and the elderly. It should be encouraged, taught, practiced to one and all of us, regardless of our age or status in life. Don’t you agree?

Thank You kindly.
 
OH MY GOD!! I cannot believe my eyes! Welcome back!! I do so remember the "no fool like an old fool". I hope you stay longer and give us all the benefit of reading such erudite and eloquent posts.

As for the elderly forever repeating or proclaiming their successes, I see the repeating part with my own dad as well. I think we tend to (if we don't, we should start) listen patiently because frankly we are going to get there someday as well...and be exactly the same! :)
 
Hello Kunjuppu sir ,Wow a happy moment to see your reply,the meaningful thoughts,sharp ,but humble words.very happy to look forward your continuous response.:pray2: :high5:
 
Dear Kunjuppu Sir,

That was a splendid post. I agree with your post that none of them speak abt their failures and yes the talks are always how they countered the life with their megre earnings and how wonderfully they brought up the kids!! It is not demeaning them but as you put it they can teach them the values they held dear & how it helped them to climb all the uncertainities.
Ejoyed reading thru your post...

Cheers.
 

Dear Kunjuppu Sir,

Nice post from you, as usual!

According to the OP, if a person is not able to forgive and forget, that person is still very young!! :)

 
Hallo Kunjuppu,

Welcome back!! I loved reading your post. Hope to have this pleasure continuously now onwards.
 
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