prasad1
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Jealousy per se is not bad, it is the action and response that you select which is important.
Jealousy is the tribute mediocrity pays to genius. Fulton J. Sheen
There are two reasons that leaders undertake positive coaching. The first is when they seem to be failing at a rivalry. The rival could be a person or a team. The opponent could be a goal that they have set for themselves that means a lot to them. We discuss situations, a time when they have been passed over for a promotion. They feel they would have been very successful, but for a few new upstarts that have taken over. Or they believe they are no longer the big show in town and get overwhelmed in the rivalry.
The other reason, which is even more interesting, is when they need to create a rival. Sometimes their mind tells them there is nothing more left to achieve, so they begin to coast and cruise. How do you know this? When you hear, “given the conditions in the market, this is the best we could do” or “The market declined 15% but we declined only 5%” or “Everyone failed in class, even I failed, so that is fine”.
The most common phrase, which makes my ear ache more than my heart is, “Been there, done that”. Imagine Steve Jobs saying, "I have designed the best computer, why should I need to prove myself again". It is like Amitabh Bachchan saying, “I have done enough roles, let me chill”. It is like George Clooney saying, “I am already a good-looking superstar, why should I continue being achingly good looking, let me try computer programming now”. They never do. They create rivalries for themselves. Look at Roger Federer. His Wikipedia page lists nine tennis stars as his rivals, with Nadal topping the list. It is their introspection that leads them to acknowledge that something needs to change, recognising that they need help and then actually asking for help in closing the gap on the rivalry.
Rivalry is the biggest input. We all love rivalries in sport. It is a whirlpool of emotions, just like our lives. When Magnus Carlsen burst on the scene, he created a flux with Viswanathan Anand, that was never seen before. I revel in rivalries. I simply love conflict between people and the process of conflict resolution. Conflict means two people or teams care deeply. I have to constantly remind people that the opposite of conflict is not calm, it is apathy. When people learn tools to manage conflict, it remains with them for life.
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Jealousy is the tribute mediocrity pays to genius. Fulton J. Sheen
There are two reasons that leaders undertake positive coaching. The first is when they seem to be failing at a rivalry. The rival could be a person or a team. The opponent could be a goal that they have set for themselves that means a lot to them. We discuss situations, a time when they have been passed over for a promotion. They feel they would have been very successful, but for a few new upstarts that have taken over. Or they believe they are no longer the big show in town and get overwhelmed in the rivalry.
The other reason, which is even more interesting, is when they need to create a rival. Sometimes their mind tells them there is nothing more left to achieve, so they begin to coast and cruise. How do you know this? When you hear, “given the conditions in the market, this is the best we could do” or “The market declined 15% but we declined only 5%” or “Everyone failed in class, even I failed, so that is fine”.
The most common phrase, which makes my ear ache more than my heart is, “Been there, done that”. Imagine Steve Jobs saying, "I have designed the best computer, why should I need to prove myself again". It is like Amitabh Bachchan saying, “I have done enough roles, let me chill”. It is like George Clooney saying, “I am already a good-looking superstar, why should I continue being achingly good looking, let me try computer programming now”. They never do. They create rivalries for themselves. Look at Roger Federer. His Wikipedia page lists nine tennis stars as his rivals, with Nadal topping the list. It is their introspection that leads them to acknowledge that something needs to change, recognising that they need help and then actually asking for help in closing the gap on the rivalry.
Rivalry is the biggest input. We all love rivalries in sport. It is a whirlpool of emotions, just like our lives. When Magnus Carlsen burst on the scene, he created a flux with Viswanathan Anand, that was never seen before. I revel in rivalries. I simply love conflict between people and the process of conflict resolution. Conflict means two people or teams care deeply. I have to constantly remind people that the opposite of conflict is not calm, it is apathy. When people learn tools to manage conflict, it remains with them for life.
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