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ஏன்,ஏன்,ஏன் ???

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சகோதரிகளுக்குள் இருக்கும் பரிரிவு,பாசம்,ஒற்றுமை, எல்லாம் சகோதரர்க்குள் இல்லையே ஏன்?
இந்த நாள் அன்று போல் இன்பமாய் இல்லையே அது ஏன் ஏன் ஏன் நண்ப(ரே)ர்களே??:clap2:
 
சகோதரிகளுக்குள் இருக்கும் பரிரிவு,பாசம்,ஒற்றுமை, எல்லாம் சகோதரர்க்குள் இல்லையே ஏன்?
இந்த நாள் அன்று போல் இன்பமாய் இல்லையே அது ஏன் ஏன் ஏன் நண்ப(ரே)ர்களே??:clap2:

There is one piece of dialogue in a Malayalam movie which may be relevant to your OP, Shri Narasimhan. It is delivered by one brother to his wife, brothers having fought and separated and built separate houses, but adjacent (possibly in a shared piece of land):—

"நின்னேப்போலெ ஒரு சவம் அவிடெயும் நீ இவிடெயும் வன்னுகேறியது முதலா ஞங்ஙள் தம்மில் தெற்றியது."

(Another monster similar to yourself entering there - the brother's house - and your coming here, was the beginning of our rift.)

My experience is that the above is the most common answer for your query ஏன்? ஏன்? ஏன்?

Other reasons may also be there, but only in stray (or at least fewer) cases.
 
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There is one piece of dialogue in a Malayalam movie which may be relevant to your OP, Shri Narasimhan. It is delivered by one brother to his wife, brothers having fought and separated and built separate houses, but adjacent (possibly in a shared piece of land):—

"நின்னேப்போலெ ஒரு சவம் அவிடெயும் நீ இவிடெயும் வன்னுகேறியது முதலா ஞங்ஙள் தம்மில் தெற்றியது."

(Another monster similar to yourself entering there - the brother's house - and your coming here, was the beginning of our rift.)

My experience is that the above is the most common answer for your query ஏன்? ஏன்? ஏன்?

Other reasons may also be there, but only in stray (or at least fewer) cases.

It is really a good reply Mr.Sangom. But i wonder why the brothers should not teach and discipline their wives to live and treat others as their own sisters. Is it so difficult ?
 
காலமான தாயின் நகைகளை பங்கு பிரிக்கும் பொழுது அந்த பாசம் காணாமல் போய்விடுவதையும் நான் பர்திருக்கிறேன்.
 
It is really a good reply Mr.Sangom. But i wonder why the brothers should not teach and discipline their wives to live and treat others as their own sisters. Is it so difficult ?

Shri Narasimhan,

If any man tries to teach and discipline his wife, then his life is spoiled. That is the rule which applied at all times. Plus, man is the weaker sex, on an overall valuation. Unless a woman is very innocent and/or naive, she will start teaching & disciplining her husband from day one of the marriage. Very very few men are able to withstand this assault.

Orppidi chandai has been discussed in some detail in the past. Why don't you search?
 
அண்ணன் என்னடா தம்பி என்னடா

- கவிஞர் கண்ணதாசன்


பல்லவி

அண்ணன் என்னடா தம்பி என்னடா
அவசரமான உலகத்திலே
ஆசை கொள்வதில் அர்த்தம் என்னடா
காசில்லாதவன் குடும்பத்திலே

சரணம் - 1

தாயும் பிள்ளையும் ஆன போதிலும்
வாயும் வயிறும் வேறடா
தந்தை கூட்டத்தில் வந்த மந்தையில்
சொந்தம் என்பதும் ஏதடா

சரணம் - 2

பெட்டை கோழிக்கு கட்டுச் சேவலை
கட்டி வைத்தவன் யாரடா அவை
எட்டு குஞ்சுகள் பெத்தெடுத்ததும்
சோறு போட்டவன் யாரடா

வளர்ந்த குஞ்சுகள் பிரிந்த போதிலும்
வருந்தவில்லையே தாயடா
மனித ஜாதியில் துயரம் யாவுமே
மனதினால் வந்த நோயடா

சரணம் - 3

வாழும் நாளிலே கூட்டம் கூட்டமாய்
வந்து சேர்கிறார் பாரடா கை
வரண்ட வீட்டிலே உடைந்த பானையை
மதித்து வந்தவர் யாரடா

பணத்தின் மீது தான் பக்தி என்ற பின்
பந்த பாசமே ஏனடா
பதைக்கும் நெஞ்சினை அணைக்கும் யாவரும்
அண்ணன் தம்பிகள் தானடா

We can listen to the song, here: Annan Ennada
 
To blame our women in the family is wrong. These days we all live in different cities and are generally bogged down by our pressures in office. Interaction among brothers has also become very less for our time is consumed mostly by TV or other entertainments. To be frank not many of us have a planned manifesto in our life. In our family though our interactions are very less, our devotion to our Jagadguru of Sringeri keeps us together.Our womenfolk also have a strong sense of devotion to guru. I believe every family needs to have a common thread to keep our relationship intact.
 
There is one post in my mail box regarding the fight between sisters, when the jewels of the mother is divided, after her demise!

I am reminded of one of the friend mAmis in our village, who re-made all her jewels as multiples of 4 - (i.e) 4 each in chains, studs
and rings and 8 bangles - so that her four daughters will not fight after her time! :peace:
 
சகோதரிகளுக்குள் இருக்கும் பரிரிவு,பாசம்,ஒற்றுமை, எல்லாம் சகோதரர்க்குள் இல்லையே ஏன்?
இந்த நாள் அன்று போல் இன்பமாய் இல்லையே அது ஏன் ஏன் ஏன் நண்ப(ரே)ர்களே??:clap2:


This may be an incident of the past. Now nucleus family is the order of the day, especially among Hindus and Christians. Nowadays, how many families have you come across having brothers and sisters.

In the earlier days, immovable properties were given to sons and movable properties like jewels, cash etc. are given to daughters at the time of marriage.

The law is modified and the daughter have equal right now.

Take my case:

My father-in-law, who is no more, had five daughters; one daughter was given on adoption. Of the four, two are employed (second and third - my wife) and the remaining two are house wives. As long as my mother-in-law was in good health, she had been shunting between my house and my first co-brother's. After becoming sick, she is with my first co-brother, whose wife is not employed, and is being looked after by a permanent attendant. My wife is used visit her mother during week-ends. At the time of writing this blog, she is there. The second daughter, who is very well employed in a PSU, is in Chennai and never calls her mother frequently. In the case of fourth, who is in Bangalore, she used to call once in a fortnight.

Recently, one of my schoolmates celebrated his Shastiupthapoorthy (60th birthday), the first from our batch. He has two elder brothers and two younger brothers, apart from three sisters. One of his younger brothers is in Singapore. At the time of function, all have assembled in Chennai and conducted the function very well.

Kannadasan's song is a bad example. He was an extravagant. He approached his brother AL Srinivasan, after spending all money, for help, but he refused knowing his character. Kannadasan's is an expert to write songs according to real situations happened to him. His film Karuppupanam was a flop. He had to give some amount to Gemini Studios. Knowing his condition, SS Vasan waived that amount.
 
காலமான தாயின் நகைகளை பங்கு பிரிக்கும் பொழுது அந்த பாசம் காணாமல் போய்விடுவதையும் நான் பர்திருக்கிறேன்.

பாசத்திர்க்கும் நகைகளை பிரித்துக்கொள்வதிர்க்கும் என்ன சம்மந்தம். இங்கே எந்த விதத்தில் பாசத்தை எதிர்பார்க்கிரீர்கள். அந்த தாய் தான் ஜீவித்திருக்கும்போதே இன்னாருக்கு இந்த நகைதான் என்று சொல்லியோ அல்லது எழுதிவைத்துவிட்டோ போயிருந்தால் சண்டை சச்சரவுக்கு இடமேது. சரி நகைகளை பிரித்துக்கொண்டபிறகு என்ன ஆகும். அல்லது என்ன ஆயிட்ற்று.? அதையும் பார்திருப்பீரே! சொல்லிவிடவேண்டியதுதானே?
 


Shri Narasimhan,

If any man tries to teach and discipline his wife, then his life is spoiled. That is the rule which applied at all times. Plus, man is the weaker sex, on an overall valuation. Unless a woman is very innocent and/or naive, she will start teaching & disciplining her husband from day one of the marriage. Very very few men are able to withstand this assault.

Orppidi chandai has been discussed in some detail in the past. Why don't you search?

Yes. I know about that discussion and debate. Men must be courageous and if they are not then as you said they will definitely succumb to their wives assault. Well said.
 
This may be an incident of the past. Now nucleus family is the order of the day, especially among Hindus and Christians. Nowadays, how many families have you come across having brothers and sisters.

In the earlier days, immovable properties were given to sons and movable properties like jewels, cash etc. are given to daughters at the time of marriage.

The law is modified and the daughter have equal right now.

Take my case:

My father-in-law, who is no more, had five daughters; one daughter was given on adoption. Of the four, two are employed (second and third - my wife) and the remaining two are house wives. As long as my mother-in-law was in good health, she had been shunting between my house and my first co-brother's. After becoming sick, she is with my first co-brother, whose wife is not employed, and is being looked after by a permanent attendant. My wife is used visit her mother during week-ends. At the time of writing this blog, she is there. The second daughter, who is very well employed in a PSU, is in Chennai and never calls her mother frequently. In the case of fourth, who is in Bangalore, she used to call once in a fortnight.

Recently, one of my schoolmates celebrated his Shastiupthapoorthy (60th birthday), the first from our batch. He has two elder brothers and two younger brothers, apart from three sisters. One of his younger brothers is in Singapore. At the time of function, all have assembled in Chennai and conducted the function very well.

Kannadasan's song is a bad example. He was an extravagant. He approached his brother AL Srinivasan, after spending all money, for help, but he refused knowing his character. Kannadasan's is an expert to write songs according to real situations happened to him. His film Karuppupanam was a flop. He had to give some amount to Gemini Studios. Knowing his condition, SS Vasan waived that amount.

Yes what i have mentioned in my post might have occurred in the past. These present days most of the boys and girls are getting married only after passing 30+ years with some exceptions here or there. Most of them are also blessed with only a baby girl and stop with one. Therefore there will not be any fight between brothers or affection and love between sisters, in future. The law is also modified as you said and all the siblings will have equal rights not only over ancestral property but also over their parents property. Let us hope for the best for our future generations.
 
Dear all, there is no spl. reason for a woman to be a maker of a Home or mar the same. In these days, men getting married get attached to their wives ,and vice versa .Even boys parents cannot comment on anything , which is not relishable, will have to it at the cost of losing the son. Less said better. One has to test her when the boys parents fall seriously ill . If the girl reallyattends to them, they are lucky. Parents too must go out o f their way to keep good relations and do things which please her.
rishikesan
 
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