Dear DurgadasanJi,
You know you can take an Indian out of India but you can't take India out of an Indian.
Even here people blame DIL when they keep on giving births to girls.
Some even say that its the female who has no luck to carry a son etc.
Parents want their first child to be a boy always...
If its a girl they are disappointed.
Even chinese are like that.
For them they must have male to pass on the family surname.
Some traditional chinese do not consider their daughters children as their grandchildren because of the different surname they carry.
Well coming to marriage in Malaysia... Its like this..The engagement cost will be bourned by the Girls side and the Marriage cost will be bourned by the Boys side.
Groom has to buy saree/gold/clothes for bride for both engagement and marriage.
Buy clothes for inlaws and gold ring for mappilai tholen.
This is for Non Brahmin/Non dowry type of Tamilian/Malayali/Telegu.
Some Non Brahmins like Gounders/Chettiars..still have dowry system like in India.
Its mainly the bussiness community type of tamilians who still practise Dowry system.
Some Non Brahmin Telegus also have dowry system.
Sri Lankan tamilians practise Dowry system till now and are very rigid about it too.
Tamilian Brahmin marriage system here I have no idea.
May you can ask fellow Malaysian Citizen Ms Amala to elaborate on it.
renu
TB marriages in Malaysia -- the girls side has to bear all the wedding costs etc. Nowadays there is no dowry as such but again spending is not equal as the girl's side has to bear nearly all the cost.
It also really depends on the two families concerned. There are no hard and fast rules. Also the bride is not expected to have/bring lots and lots of gold jewellery unlike before.