Dear Shri Nara,
I think I have not been clear. What I meant was an exhortation that the movement towards the liberal end is sure to happen and so please move now itself, is the thing which unsettles. It is not only with reference to icms but many other issues as well. And If not you there are others whose post sound in this fashion, at least to my limited understanding.
i must be be one of the 'the other whose post sound in this fashion'. usually i prefer not to answer innuendos, because i would very much discuss a post for what it is worth direct face to face. even if i am not alluded to, i would like to take up their case.
i don't think in any of my posts that i used any exhortation, as this would imply inciting or encouraging someone to do something. i give credit to the forum members for ability to think for themselves and evaluate values and solutions. what is presented is one pov, based on my experiences in life. each one of us is an history to itself, and our views reflect the rich details that went to build what we are today. while i do not deny anyone's right to express themselves, in the same context, i think it is only fair that i get a chance to be read.
what is unnerving to me is the double standards, that many members have and no one has replied to this. why is it ok for your own son or daughter to marry out of tambrams, while it is not good, for other's sons, with even more acute problems, such as finding a tambram girl willing to marry them? there are so many young men condemned to a lonely life in old age, and to me, they need encouragement and be set up for success. not in another ten years. or twenty years. but now, for everyone has only youth in this world. once it is gone, it is gone forever.
the only credit that i am willing to take, and i consider myself this, is to be solution oriented. i am not comfortable with folks who keep complaining about the current situations, blame the british or muslims, wail over the loss of spirituality and above all nowadays to blame our tambram girls and their parents. let us not wallow in the misery of others. let us move, and help people find time boxed solutions and give them encouragement. life is too short to procrastinate.
pann has stated something about certain types of folks 'showing wrong directions to the society'. while i would like to disqualify myself because i am not a person of 'occupy high positions in power and wield enormous influence on the other sections of the society', i would question the presumption as to who judges what is a 'wrong direction'. should old tambram men be the judges? or should it be the mid twenties unmarried womenfolk?
there is a lot of presumption as to what is 'wrong'. i think it is very personal, and barring absolutes like stealing, murder or betrayal, there can be valid arguements on both sides to define 'rights' and 'wrongs'
who would like to take the onus of handing out judgements as to the rigths or wrongs, in this forum? can anyone claim to have understood the issues from all perspectives, and weigh them all uniformly and without prejudice, and to have come to conclude the mighty judgements? i, for cringe even at the thought of even passing a judgement on my own views, for i know for sure, they are definitely flawed and of limited perspectives.
so, instead of generalizations, and innuendos, and morally high road overview, a good starting point, may be examples or quotes to prove a point of view or better still, to explain one. let us start from the bottom, and buid our cases. maybe we will not convert someone else to our viewpoint, but atleast we will better understand our own stands.
thank you.