Children are most affected when parents quarrel

[P.J.]

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Children are most affected when parents quarrel

Arguments between parents is affecting their children in different degrees

Here is the news item from Times of India showing a 7 year old girl Child is thrown off by her own father in Andhra Pradesh.


It is really a shocking incident.

Shocking: 7-year-old thrown off car by father - Video | The Times of India

Please watch this clip from Neeya Naana about Divorce dated 6 Th December 2011

Neeya Naana Divorce 3 - YouTube

Here a Teen aged Girl expresses her anguish about how she is deprived of her mother's affection.

 

[P.J.]

old age divorce is also getting common in India

Old-age divorce getting common in India - The Times of India

Solicitor and advocate Nityoah Mehta, who has a practice at Kala Ghoda, says that in the last 10 years alone, the percentage of geriatric divorce cases — clients in their late 50s and older seeking divorce — has gone up from two per cent to nearly 25 per cent.

Reasons may be many, I wonder if the children are near, they may be acting as a buffer between the parents whenever there is a rift.

 

[PANCHANATHAM CHANDRASEKAR]

Dear sir, this is kaliyuga , morality has been lost in sphere of our life. Pray to god for everyone's welfare

 

[P.J.]

Dear sir, this is kaliyuga , morality has been lost in sphere of our life. Pray to god for everyone's welfare

Chandrasekar Sir

Why only Girl child suffer more? Please Read this news
A newborn baby girl was found dumped behind bushes near the cancer hospital here, police said on Thursday.

The cries of the one-day-old baby attracted the attention of the passers-by who took it to the government hospital yesterday, where the infant is being treated, they said.

The baby would later be taken to a government-approved child care centre, they added.

Newborn girl found dumped behind bushes - The Times of India

 

[renuka]

Chandrasekar Sir

Why only Girl child suffer more? Please Read this news
A newborn baby girl was found dumped behind bushes near the cancer hospital here, police said on Thursday.

Dear Sir,

Out here even boys get dumped!

But now it is less cos government has set up child care centres to take in unwanted babies where no questions will be asked.

There is place to leave the baby and go and the mother wont be asked any question and the place has absolute privacy that even the identity of the mother wont be known to even the care takers of the place.

 

[renuka]

old age divorce is also getting common in India

Old-age divorce getting common in India - The Times of India

Solicitor and advocate Nityoah Mehta, who has a practice at Kala Ghoda, says that in the last 10 years alone, the percentage of geriatric divorce cases — clients in their late 50s and older seeking divorce — has gone up from two per cent to nearly 25 per cent.

Reasons may be many, I wonder if the children are near, they may be acting as a buffer between the parents whenever there is a rift.

Dear Sir,

I have seen some couples as they age just cant see eye to eye...I feel it is better they are set free and may be can find some new interest in life cos may be they would have gotten bored of same old face they see everyday or the same old routine in life.

In fact some children themselves suggest divorce to their parents for the sake of mental peace of everyone but after making sure the will has been written!LOL

Indians somehow try to bear and grit and stay..but some Non Indians just take the bold step to leave.
But I see the trend changing...I do see some older Indian couples too getting separated by still speak highly of each other saying that "even though we are staying apart I am only faithful to her/him"

I wonder if they are still so attached to each other why stay apart to start with??LOL

There is a Non Indian community here who as they age do not mind their aged husband taking a mistress as long their husbands provide for her(the wife) a fixed allowance every month.. cos the old ladies feel as long the old man is busy peace prevails at home and these old ladies get their own group of old ladies and tour around the world when their husbands are busy touring the new found nine gated abode.

 

[sarang]

Rupert murdoch and Wendi deng; 82 years and 44 years. Married about 14 years ago and have two daughters, 11 and 7 years old. Anything is possible.

Rupert Murdoch files for divorce from wife Wendi Deng - Telegraph

old age divorce is also getting common in India

Old-age divorce getting common in India - The Times of India

Solicitor and advocate Nityoah Mehta, who has a practice at Kala Ghoda, says that in the last 10 years alone, the percentage of geriatric divorce cases — clients in their late 50s and older seeking divorce — has gone up from two per cent to nearly 25 per cent.

Reasons may be many, I wonder if the children are near, they may be acting as a buffer between the parents whenever there is a rift.

 

[P.J.]

Rupert murdoch and Wendi deng; 82 years and 44 years. Married about 14 years ago and have two daughters, 11 and 7 years old. Anything is possible.

Rupert Murdoch files for divorce from wife Wendi Deng - Telegraph

sarang Sir

you are right, nowadays even old couple opt for divorce in INDIA; if sons and daughters are near their parents, they can act as buffer for them whenever there is a rift.

 

[P.J.]

Dear Sir,

I have seen some couples as they age just cant see eye to eye...I feel it is better they are set free and may be can find some new interest in life cos may be they would have gotten bored of same old face they see everyday or the same old routine in life.

In fact some children themselves suggest divorce to their parents for the sake of mental peace of everyone but after making sure the will has been written!LOL

Indians somehow try to bear and grit and stay..but some Non Indians just take the bold step to leave.
But I see the trend changing...I do see some older Indian couples too getting separated by still speak highly of each other saying that "even though we are staying apart I am only faithful to her/him"

I wonder if they are still so attached to each other why stay apart to start with??LOL

There is a Non Indian community here who as they age do not mind their aged husband taking a mistress as long their husbands provide for her(the wife) a fixed allowance every month.. cos the old ladies feel as long the old man is busy peace prevails at home and these old ladies get their own group of old ladies and tour around the world when their husbands are busy touring the new found nine gated abode.

renukaji

how can one get bored seeing the same face again and again ?

I am married almost 43 years now, i never get bored with my wife, nor she is, we are past physical pleasures, but if she is around, i am assured of my health as she is very careful about what i eat.

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear P J Sir,

I wrote earlier that if some job is done with love / affection, it will NOT be a boredom anytime. The problem with the new

generation is that they brand themselves as 'chauffeur' - if they drive for the family, 'cook' - if they prepare food for the family,

'dhobi' - if they wash clothes and so on. If love and affection do not last, then everything is lost!! :sad:

 

[renuka]

renukaji

how can one get bored seeing the same face again and again ?

I am married almost 43 years now, i never get bored with my wife, nor she is, we are past physical pleasures, but if she is around, i am assured of my health as she is very careful about what i eat.

Dear Sir,

You see sir..boredom is inevitable in anything we do...that does not mean the love is lacking.

Sometimes even spouses need to take a break from each other..we need breathing space..one cant hang around with anyone 24/7.

That is why from time to time..people meet up with friends or even hang around in forum!LOL

I will give you a simple example...we can learn lots from observing animals.

When I was a teen I had a nice dog..he used to hang around our house almost the whole day...I used to take him for walks or rather he used to take me for walks cos I followed wherever he took me.

Then when we reached home..and he sees I have gone in the house..he would go out and hang out with his doggie guy friends and roam the jungle for a while and then come home.

So you see...he was a loving dog and hung around his human companion most of the while...but he still needed time to be a dog.

So same way...we are all married...we hang around our spouses for almost the rest of our lives but we all need sometime from time to time to be ourselves..it is in that short commercial break intervals that makes the Mega Serial of Life watchable.

So if one does not give some breathing space to each other...boredom will creep in.

Those who know the signs and symptoms of boredom take remedial measures..those who do not realize this end up in separation or divorce...and then finally realized that they only actually needed some personal time and not really a divorce..but by then it will be too late!

 

[Raji Ram]

May be, the quarreling parents got the following 'AseervAdham' during their wedding!?!

'nALthORum chandai pOttu needoodi vAzhga!' :noidea:

 

[renuka]

Do the quarreling parents get this as AseervAdham?

'nALum chandai pOttukkondu needoozhi vAzhga'!

Dear RR ji,

Sometimes when my parents have their dumb fights which is usually becos of kitchen wars cos of differences of opinions in the kitchen...I will always tease them "hey you guys why don't you get a divorce instead of fighting"

The very next moment they will unite and say "how dare you say such things?? both of us will fight and argue as much as we want..how can you tell us this"

You see RR ji...there very next second the kitchen war will be over.

 

[Raji Ram]

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The children of most of the fighting parents go for a love marriage especially if their parents got married after matching

their horoscopes. One of my nephews used to say that horoscope is only a 'horrorscope'! Their anger turns towards the

astrologer, who gave the 'green signal' for their parents wedding!! :mad2:

 

[Raji Ram]

Sorry Renu! I edited my post since I felt the fencing smiley was a bit too much!! :lol:

 

[tbs]

hi

generally after wedding......first year husband talk....wife hear.....second yr wife talk.....husband hear....third yr both talk.....

kids/neighbor hear....

 

[P.J.]

Dear P J Sir,

I wrote earlier that if some job is done with love / affection, it will NOT be a boredom anytime. The problem with the new

generation is that they brand themselves as 'chauffeur' - if they drive for the family, 'cook' - if they prepare food for the family,

'dhobi' - if they wash clothes and so on. If love and affection do not last, then everything is lost!! :sad:

Raji Madam

You are right ,in most cases girl child suffers most.

 

[P.J.]

hi

generally after wedding......first year husband talk....wife hear.....second yr wife talk.....husband hear....third yr both talk.....

kids/neighbor hear....

tbs sir

in old age men keeps quite all the time.

 

[renuka]

tbs sir

in old age men keeps quite all the time.

becos he is busy online!LOL

 

[tbs]

tbs sir

in old age men keeps quite all the time.

hi paddhu sir.....

நீங்க சும்மா இருங்கோ அண்ணா......நான் எல்லாம் பாத்துக்கறேன்.....உங்களுக்கு

ஒன்னும் தெரியாது.......எங்க அப்பா தெரியாம உங்களுக்கு கட்டி குடுத்திட்ட......

நானும் ஒன்னும் தெரியாம கட்டிக்கிட்டேன்......உங்களை கல்யாணம் பண்ணி இத்தனை நாளா நான் என்ன

சுகத்தை கண்டேன்....நீங்க கொஞ்சம் சும்மா இருக்கீங்களா......then in old age men keep quiet...otherwise reaction

will be worse...

 

[Raji Ram]

. நீங்க சும்மா இருங்கோ அண்ணா.....

'சும்மா இருங்கோ அண்ணா' இல்லைங்க சார்! :nono:

'சும்மா இருங்கோன்னா!!' :tape:

aNNA means elder brother!

 

[vgane]

Fights start for silly issues ...

It will start with mother in law, sister in law and go to how mean the husbands family are...

A few vessels fly...

Ultimately food is the casualty...

Incidentally do fights and position of moon also matter?...I heard many sharing that Fights are common on new moon days

 

[Raji Ram]

........... Incidentally do fights and position of moon also matter?...I heard many sharing that Fights are common on new moon days

Have you ever thought why a mentally ill person is called a 'lunatic'? :decision:

 

[P.J.]

Have you ever thought why a mentally ill person is called a 'lunatic'? :decision:

Raji Madam

"Lunatic" is an informal term referring to people who are considered mentally ill, dangerous, foolish or unpredictable; conditions once called lunacy. The term may be considered insulting in serious contexts, though is sometimes used in friendly jest. The word derives from lunaticus meaning "of the moon" or "moonstruck".

Philosophers such as Aristotle and Pliny the Elder argued that the full Moon induced insane individuals with bipolar disorder by providing light during nights which would otherwise have been dark, and affecting susceptible individuals through the well-known route of sleep deprivation. With the introduction of electric light, this effect would have gone away, as light would be available every night, explaining the negative results of modern studies. The authors suggested ways in which this hypothesis might be tested.

Lunatic - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

A reckless or psychopathic individual. Derived from 'Lunar' which in turn is derived from the Latin word for 'Moon'.
It used to be popular belief that insane and psychologically disturbed people had been effected by the phases of the moon.


Urban Dictionary: lunatic

A lunatic is a commonly used term for a person who is mentally ill, dangerous, foolish, unpredictable; a condition once called lunacy.

The word lunatic is borrowed from the Latin "lunacus", in turns stemming from "luna" (moon), which denotes the traditional link made in folklore between madness and the phases of the moon. This probably refers to the symptoms of cyclic mood disorders such as bipolar disorder or cyclothymia, the symptoms of which may also go through phases. As yet there is no evidence whatsoever for any causal link between phases of the moon and the progression of mood disorder symptoms. Correlation has been observed in distant parts.

Mental institutions used to be called "lunatic asylums" or colloquially, "loony bins".


In Russian, Polish, Czech and Slovak, a lunatic refers to a sleepwalker, literally "one who walks under the moon" or "moon walker".


In Romanian, a word with the meaning of "lunatic" is "zănatic", derived from Latin "dianaticus", from Diana, the Roman goddess of the Moon


Lunatic

 

[vgane]

There are numerous studies that studied the link between new moon and lunacy...

During new moon there are more positive ions in the air..........When there are too many positive ions in the air, the body goes into serotonin overproduction which in turn leads to hyperactive adrenal production....Ultimately the adrenal gland becomes exhausted.... This leads to emotional/behavioral problems that range from depression to hyperactivity.


Greek philosopher Aristotle and Roman historian Pliny the Elder suggested that the brain was the “moistest” organ in the body and thereby most susceptible to the pernicious influences of the moon, which triggers the tides. Belief in the “lunar lunacy effect,” or “Transylvania effect,” as it is sometimes called, persisted in Europe through the Middle Ages, when humans were widely reputed to transmogrify into werewolves or vampires during a full moon.

The human body, is about 80 percent water, so perhaps the full moon which causes neap tides in oceans & other vast expanse of water works its way by somehow disrupting the alignment of water molecules in the nervous system