If my observation is correct,the dowry evil is dying with the advent of girls becoming more independent financially.
from what i hear of our community, and from posts in this forum, tambrams are in the opposite mode. the guys are finding it dfficult to find wives.
many reasons i guess
- inverse male female ratios (possible but not sure)
- high average earning power of the girls making them more independent, their parents dependent on the girls' income - both delaying 'get ready to marriage' pressures
- no more social stigma like previous years to have an unmarried girl at home (break up of social cohesion)
- girls marrying out of caste and some cases, out of religion
- more love marriages within the community, which takes away any bargaining power of the boys (i have seen boys' mothers beg for particular girls)
- girls unwilling to give up their jobs in chennai bangalore hyderabad. so tough luck for those living in small cities or north india, particularly small north indian cities like patna ahmedabad bhopal surat or jaipur..and such places
- girls studying abroad on their own.
but it appears that other castes have learned their lessons well from erstwhile brahmins re the bad habit of dowry. many castes did not have the practice, but with the education of boys, and high fees for the colleges, dowry runs into lakhs if not crores for folks like nadars gounders and such. this i saw in a neeya naana shows, where one nadar guy said that 80 sovereigns was minium dowry plus swiss watch, camera, two wheeler..and this inspite of an educated girl.
they will change too, maynot be tomorrow, but in a few years.