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Facebook is now the be all & end all for the youngsters for sharing the intimate moments...This one is a love marriage that has gone awry...The girl has got wind of her in laws plans & posted the pictures gladly in Facebook to proactively preempt a second marriage attempt by the guy!


Upset with wife over Facebook photos, man hangs self - The Hindu

A software engineer was found hanging in his Mylapore home on Sunday morning. The police said just a few hours earlier, he had argued with his wife over her uploading pictures of the couple on Facebook. His parents, who were against the marriage and wanted to find another bride for him, were unhappy at his being tagged in the pictures.


Chandan Kumar (29), a native of Jharkand and Sandhya got married three months ago in the face of his parents’ opposition. A police officer said Chandan’s parents feared the pictures would be an obstacle to finding a bride for him.



Chandan and Sandhya argued over this issue till 2 a.m. on Sunday and he went off to sleep in his room while Sandhya slept in the hall. Around 9.45 a.m. on Sunday morning, she went inside his room and found him dead, said the source. The Mylapore police registered a case and investigation is on.


Chandan and his wife lived in an apartment on Appu Street in Mylapore. They worked in a software company in Alwarpet. “Sandhya’s parents conducted their marriage but Chandan’s parents did not attend it,” said the police source.

 

[renuka]

What??

This lady should be just update her status to Single and get married to a new guy.

Not worth crying over a good for nothing guy!

 

[Raji Ram]

This guy is married and why should the upload of the wedding photos upset him?

Did he want to ditch this girl after the 'mOham muppadhu nAL, Asai arubathu nAL' period?? :mad2:

 

[Raji Ram]

The removal of wedding photos by a man or woman in the F B account shows that the person is heading towards a divorce!! :argue:

 

[renuka]

The removal of wedding photos by a man or woman in the F B account shows that the person is heading towards a divorce!! :argue:

Nope..not all the while...some never upload it at all!LOL

Some like to keep family out of their FB and some like to keep their marital status a secret.

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Renu,

If the marital status is to be kept a secret, the wedding pics will not be uploaded in FB account!

I know two girls who removed their wedding pics and later on separated from their 'soul mates'!!

 

[Raji Ram]

.......... Some like to keep family out of their FB and some like to keep their marital status a secret.

The guy who is the hero of this thread had the second choice, I guess! :decision:

Easy to find a brand new partner after ditching the first one, right?

 

[renuka]

Dear Renu,

If the marital status is to be kept a secret, the wedding pics will not be uploaded in FB account!

I know two girls who removed their wedding pics and later on separated from their 'soul mates'!!

Dear RR ji,

I know a person who removed her wedding pic from FB cos her mother in law was scared in case people cast evil eyes on the wedding pic!

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Renu,

Did the M I L at least make an album of the wedding pics to be shown to her relatives or feared the cast of 'evil eyes'!! :fear:

 

[tbs]

This guy is married and why should the upload of the wedding photos upset him?

Did he want to ditch this girl after the 'mOham muppadhu nAL, Asai arubathu nAL' period?? :mad2:

hi madam,

these new genaration thoughts..... 'mOham muppadhu nAL, Asai arubathu nAL' period?? :mad2: after these period....


normal period stops...reality comes out........ellam veluthhu pocchu..lol

 

[kunjuppu]

i have a different view. to this guy's mother, it was probably a shame, that not only her son married a south indian, but a christian. he probably was under pressure to convert and marry in a church - afaik this is the norm of many christians and muslims. it is the hindu who usually converts, or at the best, agrees that the children will be of christian or muslim faith. ofcourse there are exception, but what i am saying is the norm, afaik.

the girl, was probably not aware of the intensity of the act and the disappointment from the mother, particularly if he was the only or eldest son. and if they are from a rural background. maybe a love jihad on hindu boys? who knows.

my pov here, mainly because of what i remember india to be. in the 1980s, my palghat iyer neighbour, when her only son married a white girl in usa, went crazy and had a nervous breakdown and finally admitted to an asylum. had i done something like that, probably my mom probably felt that way. the sense of social pride and fear of pity, is very high among some families, and i know that for my mother, gauravam was more important than wealth.

from the girl's pov, her church and family, probably put not only intense pressure to get the man converted, but also to attend church regularly, and worse, by publishing it in facebook, is a show of pride and achievement to her congregation and family.

again, this is a pov shaped by my youth, and by my growing up in a community where there were many catholics.

 

[Raji Ram]

Our distant relative's son got married to a Muslim girl after his conversion. After two years,

he divorced her and married an American. Wonder whether he was converted again!! :noidea:

 

[renuka]

Our distant relative's son got married to a Muslim girl after his conversion. After two years,

he divorced her and married an American. Wonder whether he was converted again!! :noidea:

So from Amar he became Akbar and now Anthony!

 

[renuka]

i have a different view. to this guy's mother, it was probably a shame, that not only her son married a south indian, but a christian. he probably was under pressure to convert and marry in a church - afaik this is the norm of many christians and muslims. it is the hindu who usually converts, or at the best, agrees that the children will be of christian or muslim faith. ofcourse there are exception, but what i am saying is the norm, afaik.

the girl, was probably not aware of the intensity of the act and the disappointment from the mother, particularly if he was the only or eldest son. and if they are from a rural background. maybe a love jihad on hindu boys? who knows.

my pov here, mainly because of what i remember india to be. in the 1980s, my palghat iyer neighbour, when her only son married a white girl in usa, went crazy and had a nervous breakdown and finally admitted to an asylum. had i done something like that, probably my mom probably felt that way. the sense of social pride and fear of pity, is very high among some families, and i know that for my mother, gauravam was more important than wealth.

from the girl's pov, her church and family, probably put not only intense pressure to get the man converted, but also to attend church regularly, and worse, by publishing it in facebook, is a show of pride and achievement to her congregation and family.

again, this is a pov shaped by my youth, and by my growing up in a community where there were many catholics.

Dear Kunjs,

That is why Stockholm Syndrome becomes handy!

You see at first most parents whose son married out of the religion/caste/race etc become depressed and some even become withdrawn and start blaming themselves for it.

Then they resort to one of the following:

1)Some parents just cant handle it and resort to all sorts of way to break up the marriage..like the case above and pressurize their son to divorce his wife etc..if attempts to break up the marriage works they are happy..if it does not work they become bitter and hatred filled and case is closed.

2)Some do not try to break up the marriage but just become manic depressive and at times need treatment too.They just cant accept anything out of the norm.


3)Then there are the cases where Stockholm syndrome develops..initially they do not like their son's captor(the wife)..then after a while they cant cope with the feeling of a captor around them and start liking the captor as in Stockholm syndrome and start living happily ever after..these types then start telling others "Oh my DIL is so nice yaar..she is not like girls of my caste/religion/race etc..she is so much better than them...I am glad that my son married her..what a lovely girl"



The moral of the story..if you want to prevent manic depressive states..have a dose of Stockholm syndrome!LOL

 

[Raji Ram]

So from Amar he became Akbar and now Anthony!

Who knows Renu! This guy might complete the circle by his third marriage and become Amar again!

BTW, is there any ritual to make Antony as Amar? :noidea:

 

[sarang]

Two albums will be helpful. One for the good eye and the other for the evil eye!

Dear Renu,

Did the M I L at least make an album of the wedding pics to be shown to her relatives or feared the cast of 'evil eyes'!! :fear:

 

[renuka]

Who knows Renu! This guy might complete the circle by his third marriage and become Amar again!

BTW, is there any ritual to make Antony as Amar? :noidea:

Dear RR ji,

Out here if Amar becomes Anthony and then decides to become Amar again..there is no problems cos no legal issues..but once you become Akbar you can only be Akbar till death..this is the law out here.

BTW RR ji...in other countries where conversion of any kind is allowed..one can finish 1st round of Amar,Akbar,Anthony and then go second round of John, Jaani, Janardhan!

 

[Raji Ram]

Two albums will be helpful. One for the good eye and the other for the evil eye!

The software 'photoshop' will be very useful to create the second album!!

 

[Raji Ram]

........ BTW RR ji...in other countries where conversion of any kind is allowed..one can finish 1st round of Amar,Akbar,Anthony and then go second round of John, Jaani, Janardhan!

Dear Renu,
How about the third round as Ram, Ralph, Rahim! :decision:

 

[renuka]

Dear Renu,
How about the third round as Ram, Ralph, Rahim! :decision:

Dear RR ji,

Do you really think a person who has been through 2 rounds that too 6 times married will be alive?

After being 'attacked' 6 times round by 6 Succubus he would have date base errors and go into software and hardware failure!LOL

 

[Raji Ram]

I thought of the phrase 'oNNu thappinA mooNu'!!

 

[sarang]

There may be enough in the lot which are not complementary to the bride or the groom - yawn, nose/tooth picking, eyes brimming with tears, making faces involuntarily, sloppy posture, slipping of katcham/pudavai. Normally the studio keeps them aside; one must demand as the photographer may not be willing to part with them (diminish his abilities and worth).

In the photography arena, these are called raw images - untouched, unadulterated, as is where is condition.

Well, photoshop is to improve looks and complexion (glowing and blemish free) and make one presentable/attractive.

The software 'photoshop' will be very useful to create the second album!!

 

[Raji Ram]

......... Well, photoshop is to improve looks and complexion (glowing and blemish free) and make one presentable/attractive.

Not always Sir! Please have a look at these pics:

Courtesy: Google images.

 

[padders]

I'ma bit confused with this article. If the guy's married, why then this line:A police officer said Chandan’s parents feared the pictures would be an obstacle to [COLOR=#DA7911 !important]finding a bride[/COLOR] for him.

There are heaps of articles about how FB causes divorce (http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/facebook-relationship-status/story?id=16406245) but why did this guy commit suicide? Probably he was a mental depressive to have taken such a drastic step.
The problem seems to have been exacerbated by the interference of the in-laws!

 

[vgane]

I'ma bit confused with this article. If the guy's married, why then this line:A police officer said Chandan’s parents feared the pictures would be an obstacle to [COLOR=#DA7911 !important]finding a bride[/COLOR] for him.

There are heaps of articles about how FB causes divorce (http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/facebook-relationship-status/story?id=16406245) but why did this guy commit suicide? Probably he was a mental depressive to have taken such a drastic step.
The problem seems to have been exacerbated by the interference of the in-laws!

Padders,It is an IR & IR (Inter region & Inter religion) marriage opposed by Boy's parents...The girl wanted to show off about the Marriage...May be the guy wanted some more time to seek parents approval..The pictures exposed him in front of his relatives...So he has taken the extreme step