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Gender equality--tvk

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669870620.webpALeqM5gH7EOeZoKO4ES-7JwVcZkckzR3Xg.webpMeena Chaudhary, 33, was selected for the highly-specialised role of mahout after being picked from a female-only shortlist of 15 candidates as part of a government scheme

Meena Chaudhary with an elephant at Sauraha in Chitwan, southwest of Kathmandu (AFP/File, Prakash Mathema)
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
Q: Define the boss of your boss.

A: His lawfully wedded wife! :rolleyes:
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In my younger days I heard a logic and till date I do know the answer..:


Captain is the leader of the battalion ..but the captain's wife is the leader of the captain..

So the the captain's wife is the leader of the battalion..!!

We have to prove..this is wrong..!!


TVK
 
kk4646 said:
In my younger days I heard a logic and till date I do know the answer..:


Captain is the leader of the battalion ..but the captain's wife is the leader of the captain..

So the the captain's wife is the leader of the battalion..!!

We have to prove..this is wrong..!!


TVK
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I am sure you never can disprove it!!! :)
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
Q: Define the boss of your boss.

A: His lawfully wedded wife! :rolleyes:
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Dear VR ji,


I disagree with this..why bother to dominate a male?

The male ego should be pampered to make them believe they are in charge!LOL

You see technically it is a Boss that ends up doing more work than his/her employee cos the employee does his allotted share of work and awaits a salary.

A Boss will have to oversee everything to make sure business runs..so its added responsibility.

So same way..why be a Boss at home? as it is we females have more than enough work..working outside home and also doing housework..so let the husband be the Boss..it's good for the male ego and also we can relax and bit and need not be in charge!

I am already a Boss at my workplace..so I do not want to be a Boss at home.
 
Fantastic logic dear Dr. Renu! :clap2:

1. we can make them believe that they are the boss
but keep all the important portfolios in our hands.
They may not even realize what is happening! :becky:

2. We can ask for permission for everything
and make them believe they are the boss
but continue to do what we think is better. :high5:

3. My worldly-wise B.I.L often says,
"A Woman doesn't actually have to cling on to her husband
but she must know how to make him think that she do so."

Well this is tough since either I do or I don't but
this make-believe-busuiness does not suit me.

So here I am, what I am, and where I am!!!

Get the general idea??? :rolleyes:
 

Only the inefficient wife is 'kept on the head' by her husband, generally, because he wants to show off that his wife is very

efficient! The intelligent ones are taunted and teased often because of male ego! The husband always tries to prove that he

is more bright! One advantage of being a dumb wife is that most of the jobs will be done by the man! Otherwise, we have to

do everything - right from driving a nail into the wall to fitting the gas cylinder refill.


I remember what my dear M I L says often, அசடுக்கு அறுபது நாழியும் வேலைதான்! This அசடு doesn't mean literally but to
the one who does NOT know how to get the work done by others and does everything! :ballchain:


 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
Fantastic logic dear Dr. Renu! :clap2:

1. we can make them believe that they are the boss
but keep all the important portfolios in our hands.
They may not even realize what is happening! :becky:

2. We can ask for permission for everything
and make them believe they are the boss
but continue to do what we think is better. :high5:

3. My worldly-wise B.I.L often says,
"A Woman doesn't actually have to cling on to her husband
but she must know how to make him think that she do so."

Well this is tough since either I do or I don't but
this make-believe-busuiness does not suit me.

So here I am, what I am, and where I am!!!

Get the general idea??? :rolleyes:
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Dear VR ji,

It is not make believe..you see men are like Brahman and we women are like Maya.

Somehow when Brahman gets involved with Maya he becomes from Nirguna to Saguna and the journey from Saguna to regain its lost status of Nirguna starts.

But at the end of the day as long as Maya exists Nirguna state can not be reached.

Maya is not really a well understood topic..thats why I said Maya is like women!LOL
Sometimes we don't even really understand ourselves!Ha Ha Ha..

Ok back to topic is..sometimes if Maya plays low profile..Saguna feels he has become Nirguna.
That gives the male "high" feeling.

When the male is "high"..peace prevails and less stress for everyone.

So it is not really a make believe business.

It is Domestic Advaita Philosophy.
 
Raji Ram said:



The intelligent ones are taunted and teased often because of male ego! The husband always tries to prove that he

is more bright!


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Dear RR ji,

I agree with you..that's why never let a male know that a female has brains!

Even co workers tend to do this.

Try working with a male doc and he will try to show off as if he knows more than a female doc.

I have seen this many times when I was in the hospital where male docs try to dominate.

Some female docs will fight back and try to prove their worth but I used to think 'Ok this guy is trying to show off so lets make use of the situation and let him lead us and we can relax!"

But you should see their faces when they get to know later that the person who they were leading actually knows more to them.

I used to work before with one male doc in a district hospital....don't know why he had a feeling I was dumb and he used to show off lots to me and I will give him all wide eyed innocent faces as if I was really as stupid as he thought!LOL

Then one fine day a friend of us both.. a doc who was from my college who also knew that show off doctor(that show off was from a different college)..came to see us when he was driving through the town.

Then he remarked to his friend.."you are lucky to work with her cos she used to be a very good student in college"

Then the show off doc was shocked and he said to me "You mean to say you were a good student and you kept quiet all this while when I was bragging to you ? Why didn't you speak up and let me know..I wonder if I made a fool of myself and you would have detected mistakes made by me"

All I replied..'It was nice seeing you brag..it was relaxing!"

After that he never bragged again!
 
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Very important question never ever to ask a male!


Never make the mistake of asking a male '"Why didn't you tell me that?"(when the female was actually just asking for information)

The male brain sees that question as "Are you trying to dominate me?"

So best is to ask "This is something new..I wonder if it was a sudden decision or a well thought of before decision"

Then we will get the information we wanted to know from the male.
 
Raji Ram said:

Only the inefficient wife is 'kept on the head' by her husband, generally, because he wants to show off that his wife is very

efficient! The intelligent ones are taunted and teased often because of male ego! The husband always tries to prove that he

is more bright! One advantage of being a dumb wife is that most of the jobs will be done by the man! Otherwise, we have to

do everything - right from driving a nail into the wall to fitting the gas cylinder refill.


I remember what my dear M I L says often, அசடுக்கு அறுபது நாழியும் வேலைதான்! This அசடு doesn't mean literally but to
the one who does NOT know how to get the work done by others and does everything!


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We the intelligent asadus will be doing all work :roll:

and getting scolded on top of that, :rant:

while the REAL asadu will not do anything :couch2:

and be pampered and praised!!! :whoo:
 
Ok back to topic is..sometimes if Maya plays low profile..Saguna feels he has become Nirguna.
That gives the male "high" feeling.

When the male is "high"..peace prevails and less stress for everyone.

So it is not really a make believe business.

It is Domestic Advaita Philosophy.

Dear Renu,

The male does not know where to stop when he goes high!!

We want to keep the lowest profile but are dragged in every time
as shock absorbers, problem solvers, outlets for anger and
in a few rare cases human-punching-balls. :boxing:

Dwaita/ Adwaita/ Visishtaadhwaita ...nothing
can save a woman scorned just because she is more talented. :heh:

I have got a new name for this now
The Mahadevan Complex.

Let us immortalize the poor chap at least by naming this
complex (inferiority???) complex in his honor.
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
I have got a new name for this now
The Mahadevan Complex.

Let us immortalize the poor chap at least by naming this
complex (inferiority???) complex in his honor.
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Dear VR ji,

Mr Mahadevan was a real life person and frankly speaking none of us really know what went through his mind.

The mind of a depressed person sees things differently from us and is as turbulent as a sea during a storm.

I would rather chose to name this Syndrome based on a fictional character from any well known movie.

We can call it Abhimaan Syndrome..based on the movie Abhimaan where Amitabh who is a singer is jealous of his wife's more successful singing career.
 

Dear Renu,

Those who don't see Hindi movies (like me) may not understand 'AbhimAn'.

Since Carnatic music is denoted as C M, Hindustani music as H M and the

Western music as W M, we can very well denote the 'inferiority complex' as I C.

So......... I C syndrome. I C S in short!
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Dear All

All that has been discussed here and much more is explained in detail in the book :
" Why Men Don't Listen and Women Cant Read Maps " - by Barbara & Allan Peace .

A very well researched book on human relations, in the current-day context, written in a casual, humorous
and uncomplicated manner.

A 'must read' for any one who is keen on placing things in perspective.

Guruvethunai

Yay Yem
 
renuka said:
Dear VR ji,

Mr Mahadevan was a real life person and frankly speaking none of us really know what went through his mind.

The mind of a depressed person sees things differently from us and is as turbulent as a sea during a storm.

I would rather chose to name this Syndrome based on a fictional character from any well known movie.

We can call it Abhimaan Syndrome..based on the movie Abhimaan where Amitabh who is a singer is jealous of his wife's more successful singing career.
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Dear Renu,
But in Abhimaan both of them are artists of different caliber.
What if only one of them is artist or a distinguished person
and the other one just a man in the crowd???
 
Raji Ram said:

Dear Renu,

Those who don't see Hindi movies (like me) may not understand 'AbhimAn'.

Since Carnatic music is denoted as C M, Hindustani music as H M and the

Western music as W M, we can very well denote the 'inferiority complex' as I C.

So......... I C syndrome. I C S in short!
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I.C.S needing Intense Careful Special treatment!!!
 
Anand Manohar said:
Dear All

All that has been discussed here and much more is explained in detail in the book :
" Why Men Don't Listen and Women Cant Read Maps " - by Barbara & Allan Peace .

A very well researched book on human relations, in the current-day context, written in a casual, humorous
and uncomplicated manner.

A 'must read' for any one who is keen on placing things in perspective.

Guruvethunai

Yay Yem
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Men never know anything happening around them
since they NEVER listen- especially to the women in the house. :sleep:

Who needs to read the road map today when the lovely voiced G.P.S
can guide you through any traffic and take you from anywhere to anywhere??? :rolleyes:
 
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