Golden Rules for aging Gracefully

[P.J.]

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Golden Rules for aging Gracefully

Golden Rules for aging Gracefully

 

[JR]

One important thing, especially for women and aging, would be the changing 'body image'. With age, even a glamour doll develops sagging skin, wrinkles and so forth... some women seem to have issues with this. They opt for things like cosmetic surgery, facelifts, etc. While those having lots of money can definitely go for it, in Indian context, for many this does not work out. People should ready themselves to face such issues and definitely point #10 in the list given in OP might take away the concentration from the self to other things which might be helpful...

 

[renuka]

I do not advocate surgical intervention to improve body image but I have noted that many females attribute everything to aging and let themselves go.

Maintaining one's personal appearance is one's own birth rights.

With each year our plan to maintain body and mind should change becos our body metabolism too changes.As we age we might need to get more active and even vary our regular workout to keep the body challenged.

BTW most woman worry about menopause...I see many who feel their life comes to an end when menopause strikes.

I keep reassurring these ladies that the added benefit of menopause is one can have a better sex life becos the fear of pregnancy is not there anymore and the so called body changes and lack of sexual drive due to estrogen deficiency can be overcome by regular exercise,regular sex life and a good state of mind.Mind can always over-rule anything.So there is nothing to fear.

So the best is to take care of one's body well to feel good and look good and to life a meaningful life.


Dont think that we have to accept every signs and symptoms of aging.

Some are reversible.


BTW to prevent mental aging...try not to hang around with hard core oldies who keep lamenting of the present and praising the past! The company of these types only speed our risk for Dementia. Try to hang around people of our own "mental"age.

 

[krish44]

I personally believe old is gold
.
why should older ladiess not go for facelift and other cosmetic changes to look better

to look better is their birth right and duty.

they owe it to themselves

besides it will stop old men from chasing young ladies.lol

I prefer the company of mature old ladies if they do not adopt patti attitudes .

well what about young ladies who behave like their pattis and act as if life is over for them as soon

as they are married

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Renu and Krish Sir,

Those ten rules don't mention about changes in body due to old age. It emphasizes financial independence and not to expect

any support from children! I like all the ten but would like to add that when children are in NEED, parents should help them! :thumb:

 

[renuka]

I personally believe old is gold
.
why should older ladiess not go for facelift and other cosmetic changes to look better

Dear Krish ji,

I have personally seen cases of those who go for such stuff..they do not look better...their face just looks a bit ironed out and less creases but otherwise the aging body cant hide their real age.

I have a friend who is a cosmetic surgeon once he asked me to use Botox and I said Nope!

He uses Botox on himself...Then he showed me his face and asked me "How do I look? See I have no wrinkles"

I told him "your face looks a bit ironed out and slightly less creases than a man your age but over all your body is stooped slightly and you are starting to hunch and your muscle tone in your body speaks the truth about your true age"


So you see Krish ji...being young isnt just a wrinkle free face.

Its more than that...its a healthy glowing face with a good posture, good health..good muscle tone, a good personality and steady state of mind.

All these can be got for free with regular exercise , Yoga and a vegetarian diet.

Yoga does wonders for the skin.It even erases fine lines.Believe me I know it works.

Indian woman should do Yoga seriously..even the tough poses cos that increases oxygenation rate and the glow that comes from a well oxygenated face totally outshines a laser skin rejuvenation.

Cosmetic surgery only deals with the superficial layers of the skin but Yoga works from within to increase cellular oxygenation and reverse free radical damage to cells.

 

[krish44]

Dear Renu and Krish Sir,

Those ten rules don't mention about changes in body due to old age. It emphasizes financial independence and not to expect

any support from children! I like all the ten but would like to add that when children are in NEED, parents should help them! :thumb:

very difficult to decide what is need and what is extravagance.

my feeling is once we make children dependant , they take it for granted that their parents will

bail them out and parents end up fulfilling their, physical, emotional and financial need at great

cost to themselves. then the parents realise that it is a hopeless cause and children think of them

only as a source of various services and a money bag to be exploited. most such parents suffer a

lot in old age. I see such things happening to too many parents these days

 

[krish44]

Dear Krish ji,

I have personally seen cases of those who go for such stuff..they do not look better...their face just looks a bit ironed out and less creases but otherwise the aging body cant hide their real age.

I have a friend who is a cosmetic surgeon once he asked me to use Botox and I said Nope!

He uses Botox on himself...Then he showed me his face and asked me "How do I look? See I have no wrinkles"

I told him "your face looks a bit ironed out and slightly less creases than a man your age but over all your body is stooped slightly and you are starting to hunch and your muscle tone in your body speaks the truth about your true age"


So you see Krish ji...being young isnt just a wrinkle free face.

Its more than that...its a healthy glowing face with a good posture, good health..good muscle tone, a good personality and steady state of mind.

All these can be got for free with regular exercise , Yoga and a vegetarian diet.

Yoga does wonders for the skin.It even erases fine lines.Believe me I know it works.

Indian woman should do Yoga seriously..even the tough poses cos that increases oxygenation rate and the glow that comes from a well oxygenated face totally outshines a laser skin rejuvenation.

Cosmetic surgery only deals with the superficial layers of the skin but Yoga works from within to increase cellular oxygenation and reverse free radical damage to cells.

I would opt for a cosmetic changed well made up face even if you think they are like pretham.lol

people doing yoga and such things are weird types in india

even manjal kumkum conservative types are better than yoga types. only they may not be figure

conscious and look a bit healthy.lol

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Krish Sir,
You are right. Hence parents should be careful to differentiate between help in need and exploitation! :decision:

There was a thread earlier about how parents in India are taken for granted and exploited, by a member

living in the U S of A.

 

[P.J.]

We start aging from the time we are born!! The Golden rules does not stop us or relieve us from the cycle of rebirth and aging!

So, the best way to avoid Aging is NOT TO Be BORN AGAIN!!

Probably this is easier to advice than to Achieve!!

 

[bvenky16]

The last point is the most important: Do Not Retire from like. Keep yourself active as long as you can. Remember there is only one retirement in life which is the END.

 

[Raji Ram]

Of course retirement in life is THE END :rip:

But care should be taken NOT to disturb others, for keeping oneself engaged!
I have seen a few oldies view the TV serials with blasting volume, disturbing the whole neighborhood! :horn:

 

[renuka]

But care should be taken NOT to disturb others, for keeping oneself engaged!
I have seen a few oldies view the TV serials with blasting volume, disturbing the whole neighborhood! :horn:

Dear RR ji,

You have to understand that many oldies have hearing problems and tend to talk loudly and also put on the TV loudly!LOL

 

[Raji Ram]

........... You have to understand that many oldies have hearing problems and tend to talk loudly and also put on the TV loudly!LOL

Dear Renu,

I know that but it is sickening habit of some oldies, especially those who live in apartments!

 

[krish44]

rajiramji

many oldies have hearing issues

women have to see and enjoy serials with men shouting at them from the other rooms in the

house, servants disturbing them. so often no alternative to loud sounds on TV drowning everything

else.lol

as a lady I thought you would show some understanding of problems of other ladies.lol

 

[Raji Ram]

For the TV loving oldies, the best gift for their 60th birthday is NOT some holy book, but this:

Courtesy: Google images of wireless headphones.

 

[krish44]

old men are smarter. those with hearing problems talk to themselves.

even without hearing issues, many oldies engage in this interesting occupation .

they do not require TV or company

they mutter something not very comprehensive about nagging wife, ungrateful children, blah ,blah

 

[renuka]

Dear Renu,

I know that but it is sickening habit of some oldies, especially those who live in apartments!

Dear RR ji,

What to do? Oldies rule the world!LOL

You know I have noted some annoying habits of oldies which I have promised myself never to do when I become an oldie..but what if I get dementia and forget? I guess I have to be like Ghajini and tatoo it on my body so that I can read the rules!LOL

Ok these are the annoying habits of oldies:

1)I know they walk slow cos of knee pain and old age related bone changes but yet they hog the middle of any walking path! and we find it hard to walk behind an oldie! Its hard to overtake an oldie cos they always manage to hog a lane.

If we walk slow or anything we should keep towards the side of any lane so that we do not block others from walking.

So remember RR ji..do not do this when you become an oldie!


2)Oldies hold up the crowd anywhere..they expect people to answer all the questions even though they could be just buying a bottle of mineral water!LOL

They will ask the cashier "O.where is the other cashier..I havent seem her for sometime.are you new blah blah blah"

So RRji..dont do this when you become an oldie!


3)Oldies make a big fuss when they order food..they ask too many questions to the waiter.


4)Lastly run for your life if you meet an oldie who has lived thru and fought in any war!

I know one oldie who keeps talking of fighting in the war during the Japanese occupation and he goes on and on and on while other patients have to wait!

Then I have noted all these oldie army men who talk about wars are scared of injections!

Weird..they can fight wars but scared of needles!LOL


So RR ji..I know you did not fight in any war..so this oldie rule does not apply to you!

 

[krish44]

Thread #18 renukaji
1,oldies walking slow- they walk in pairs holding hands of another senior [romantic? or old buddy]

making overtaking not possible. youngsters are no better . they have earplugs for music and walk

fast tripping up everybody specially romantic oldies. Stray dogs are best. they only bark at oldies and oldies being deaf do not mind. once in a while use their sticks

2. asking questions - if they do not who will ? in this fast age , youngsters take everything for

granted. all are out to get the oldies.poor guys no one would like to listen to them. not even wives.

they have genuine questions for everyone. No answers forthcoming . what is this world coming to?

doctors from abroad giving advise to oldies . it s all kali yuga in advanced stage.lol

3.we have no war veterans . they have mostly gone to settle in the hills of uttarakhand.nilgiris , deserts of

rajasthan or such places. the balance have become security men in buildings and enjoying

catching petty thieves .

 

[Raji Ram]

Why only oldies, Renu!

There is a list of bad habits I hate - people in all age groups!

Sorry ... it is written in Tamil!

பிடிக்காதவை சில…

மாடு உருண்டதுபோல் படுக்கையை விட்டுச் செல்லுவது!

வீடு தேடி வந்து அழைப்பு மணியை ஓயாமல் அடிப்பது!

பல் தேய்க்கிறேன் பேர்வழி என்று பல்வித ஓசை எழுப்புவது!

“மில்க் குக்கர்” அடுத்த வீட்டில் “உச்ச ஸ்தாயியில்” அலறுவது!

குளியலறை ஓரம் அழுக்கு நுரை விட்டு செல்லுவது!

ரயிலில் வந்த பெட்டிகளைப் படுக்கை மீது பரத்துவது!

தாம் “போனில்” பேசும்போது பின்புறத்தைக் காட்டுவது!

நாம் “போனில்” பேசும்போது பின் பாட்டுப் பாடுவது!

பிறர் தூங்கும் வேளையில் “தடா புடா”வென உருட்டுவது!

சுவர்மீது எண்ணைத் தலை வைத்து வட்டம் வரைவது!

அவசரமாய்ச் செல்லும்போது அரட்டை அடித்து ராவுவது!

அடுத்தவர் தொலைபேசியில் அலுக்காமல் பேசுவது!

பஸ்ஸில் நிற்கையில் முதுகில் மூச்சு விடுவது!

கண்ட இடத்தில் ஆடை அவிழ்த்து “ஜகன் நாத்தம்” செய்வது!

தண்ணீர்த் தட்டுப்பாட்டில் “நயாகரா” போல் குழாய் திறப்பது!

வண்டிச்சேறு மண்டிய செருப்பை வீட்டினுள் வைப்பது!

விருந்தினர் வந்தபோது நடு வீட்டில் உறங்குவது!

விருந்தினரிடம் பேசாமல் தொலைக்காட்சியில் மெய் மறப்பது!

சாப்பிடும்போது நாக்கை நீட்டி உணவை உள்ளே தள்ளுவது!

எதிர் நின்று பேசும்போது குடை தேட வைப்பது!

உம்மணாம் மூஞ்சியாய்க் காலைப் பேப்பர் படிப்பது!

“குட் நைட்” கூடச் சொல்லாமல் படுக்கையில் விழுவது!!

:faint2:

 

[sarang]

I carry soft ear plugs and cotton to muffle the sound - when oldies are watching TV or I visit theaters.

Of course retirement in life is THE END :rip:

But care should be taken NOT to disturb others, for keeping oneself engaged!
I have seen a few oldies view the TV serials with blasting volume, disturbing the whole neighborhood! :horn:

 

[Raji Ram]

I carry soft ear plugs and cotton to muffle the sound - when oldies are watching TV or I visit theaters.

I do so even for music concerts! :lol:

 

[renuka]

The last point is the most important: Do Not Retire from like. Keep yourself active as long as you can. Remember there is only one retirement in life which is the END.

True...we have to be active physically and mentally.

But is death really a retirement? No idea.

 

[P.J.]

How to age gracefully

A very good thought provoking article from Deccan Chronicle


One question that is often posed to me is, “What is the art of graceful ageing?” When I first thought about the art of graceful ageing, it occurred to me there must also be an “art of disgraceful ageing”. But for the latter, no art is required — merely living based on one’s impulses, whims and fancies is disgraceful enough.


Then, there is “graceless ageing” — when an old person has nothing to show to people except his/her age. Life is not just about gold medals or certificates. Sometimes a person who is at the top of the so-called ladder of success finds in his/her old age that the ladder was on the wrong wall.


Then, what is graceful ageing? In this world there is continuous change. Time can never be directly perceived, but we are aware of time, for it is always indirectly experienced by us in the form of change. And, if we become intensely aware of time, we suddenly will feel an urgency to question our life. We realise how quickly time is passing and wonder what we have really accomplished in life.


Whether we like it or not, change is inevitable. Whether this change is good or bad is a different issue. But the most important point is that we can consciously change; we can consciously bring about inner and outer transformation.


The ageing process begins right after birth. We cannot say, “I will not grow.” We may say this with reference to spirituality, but we cannot stop growing physically. The fundamental problem is that we are born. So, the fundamental solution is to not be born again, which is why spiritual seekers strive for moksha.


For freedom from the cycle of birth and death, knowledge of the Self is the only way. Thus, we must make an effort to not be reborn. No birth, no sansaar. Such a beautiful idea: Freedom! No rebirth. No disgraceful ageing, no graceless ageing, no graceful ageing.


Complete freedom. This is what our scriptures lead us to — complete spiritual enlightenment. Grace comes only when we start living a beautiful, spiritual life. Otherwise, the days merely come and go. Conscious living, in remembrance of the Lord, is how we must make our lives meaningful, joyful and a blessing to ourselves and others. This is called “graceful ageing.”


Swami Tejomayananda, head of Chinmaya Mission Worldwide, is an orator, poet, singer, composer and storyteller.


How to age gracefully | Deccan Chronicle

 

[L. Ramakrishnan]

The ten points are absolutely useful. Well written.

I would like to add one more. Please write and register (if needed) your WILL much before you leave this world. Then you ensure peace in the family even after you leave.