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How can we encourage our kids to go to temple more?

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dear y !
you said "My view is if the Conversion occurs w/o coercion of any kind that should be fine."
but it is very few conversion like that .many conversion take place for the sake of education ,appointment,for marrying other religion boy/girl and mostly to get rid of their original ID in their religion.
i view is that when a person is getting converted he is not true to his present religion as well as to the religion to which he is converted.
cheers,
guruvayurappan

Dear Guru:

Many of the families in my village in Ramanathapuram taluk converted to Abrahamic religions (from Hinduism) since 1880s. Whether this happened by coercion or not I don't know.

But I know many Hindus converted because of good education (in St. Joseph's, Loyola, Christian and American College). Since good education will lead to good life, this made sense to lots of converted poor people.

Can you say this is wrong? Can you say this is coercion? I don't.

What's being true to a religion?

If a Religion, a Faith or a Belief is not making your life comfortable (in material or spiritual sense) what good is it?

Why not people seek other Religion or Faith or Belief, if it is believed to give some comfort to life?

Therefore, I conclude, that calling Religious Conversion as a Violence is totally meaningless. Because it is mostly VOLUNTARY done by adults, not children.

Everyone has the Right to seek a good life with or w/o ANY Religion!

Religious zealots must back off!!

Cheers.

:)
 
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dear yamaka !
i agree with you view. but still the coercion is in the form of opportunity .the conversion in ramanathapuram and kanyakumari is based on so many factors -social status(deprived for lower caste ),educational institutions and the christian missionary(with lot of foreign funds ) and type of hindu festival (very violent -compare to tirunelveli and tanjore worship). it is luring a poor girl by a rich man (his age will be more that the accepted dif )
 
dear yamaka !
i agree with you view. but still the coercion is in the form of opportunity .the conversion in ramanathapuram and kanyakumari is based on so many factors -social status(deprived for lower caste ),educational institutions and the christian missionary(with lot of foreign funds ) and type of hindu festival (very violent -compare to tirunelveli and tanjore worship). it is luring a poor girl by a rich man (his age will be more that the accepted dif )

Dear Guru:

Whether "luring" or "creating better opportunity via good education" etc will NOT constitute COERCION.

Poor people, whether men or women, will look for better opportunity to move up in life.

Legally or morally this can't be stopped.

If the converted people feel that they were somehow "cheated", they can always go back to their original religion if they want to. There is no barrier to prevent them in acting according to what they wish.

Therefore, I conclude that this COERCION argument is totally unnecessary and has no merit, IMO.

Cheers.

:)
 
Whether "luring" or "creating better opportunity via good education" etc will NOT constitute COERCION.

Poor people, whether men or women, will look for better opportunity to move up in life.

Legally or morally this can't be stopped.

what about poor people living in islam countries. whether they are ready for conversion?
 
what about poor people living in islam countries. whether they are ready for conversion?

Doesn't matter where they live... they will try hard to change their pathetic wretched life...

Poor people in Pakistan, Bangladesh, Indonesia or whatever country will TRY to either go to Atheism, or convert to a Religion that they think would save them from the pain and sorrow of a dirt poor life!

Again, God & Religion is a Mirage... a simple FICTION, people should realize this basic fact!

Follow the FACTS and be RATIONAL, people.

:)
 
Jai Anjaneya

Hanumath Jayanthi is celebrated today through out India. Lord Sun is the Guru of Sri Hanuman.
That is why, in reciprocal, Sri Hanuman worked with Sri Sugreevan, son of Lord Sun to pay his
respect to Guru. Once, as a child Shri Hanuman flew on the sky to catch the Sun. Sri Raghu
also simultaneously flew to catch the Sun thinking as a fruit. But the speed of Shri Hanuman
was uncomparable to that of Shri Rahu. Shri Rahu, afraid of the speed, went and surrendered
to Lord Indira. Shri Rahu hit on Shri Hanuman on his shoulder in the process. The shoulder bone
of Shri Hanuman fractured. Hanu means shoulder bone. Hence the child was named as Shri Hanuman.

Shri Hanuman always thinks of others welfare. When Dasaratha Maharaja did Puthirakameshti Yagnyam
the Keer (Payasam) was given as the Naiveidhyam. King Dasaratha gave that to his wives and that
is how Sri Rama was born. A portion of that was given to Vayu Bhagwan and he gave that to
Anjanai. She also conceived and Sri Anjaneyar was born. Therefore it is said both Sri Rama and
Shri Anjaneya are equally powerful.

If you adore Shri Hanuman with Thulasi Garland, you will be blessed with good education and wealth
and get rid of all problems. It is also advisable to garland him with Betel leaves Garland and Vada
Malai to seek his blessings. In Karnataka (Kolar) Thazhambu Garland is adorned. Butter can be
applied on HIS body and one can get their desire fulfilled. It appears Shri Hanuman when he went
to Sri Lanka, he stepped on the Levendon Hill, which is near Nuvarelia. Sri Chinmaya Mission has
constructed a Temple over there. The height of the Anjaneya Idol is around 18 feet.

Shri Anjaneya was born on the Star Mulam in Margazhi Month. Hence the Hanumath Jayanthi is
celebrated in the first week of Margazhi. In Kerala Aval is offered as Naiveidhyam.

Shri Anjaneyar is also not only liked by Shri Rama but also by Shri Krishnar. There is a method
followed to offer Neiveidhyam to Panchamuga Anjaneyar. For the east facing Anjaneyar,
Banana and Kondaikadali Sundal is offered. For south facing Anjaneyar (Narasimha Mugam)
Panagam (Sweet Water) and Neer Moru (Butter Milk), for West facing Anjaneyar (Sri Garudar)
Honey is offered , for North facing Anjaneyar (Sri Varahar) Sarkarai Pongal is offered
and looking above (Sri Hayagreevar) there is no specific item is offered.

Shri Hanuman is called an expert of Grammar. He is known as Nava Vyakkarana Vedda.
There is a place in U.P. State known as Panki. Here, they decorate the Sri Anjaneyar
in three types viz. Morning as Child, Afternoon Youth and in the evening Veera Purush
(Maha Veer). Sri Anjaneyar is called by different names in different places. In Karanataka
HE is known as Hanumanthaiya, Andhra - Anjaneyalu, Maharashtra - Maruthi and in
North India - Mahaveer.

Choligar is a famous place for Sri Anjaneya Temple. This forms part of 108 Divya Desam.
Suchindram is yet another important place. Thanumalaya Swami Temple. This Sri Anjaneyar
is worshipped by every one in the South, and the height of Sri Anjaneyar is around 18 feet
similar to Namakkal. There are around 19 Temples dedicated to Sri Hanuman in
Tamil Nadu in particular.

On this day, if one reads Sri Hanuman Chalisa and writes Sri Ramajayam at least 108 times
will get all benefits.

Wish you all the blessings of Sri Hanumanji.

Balasubramanian
Ambattur
 
Dear folks,

Since this thread mentions Atma, reincarnation, conversion, etc, i thot i can say a few things here for an other kind of perspective.

In Rigveda, the etymology of Atman referred to breath or vital essence (Rigveda X.163) (Banerjee,1973). The term gradually acquired the meaning of 'soul' or 'self'.

It was in the Shatapatha Brahmana that 'Atman' was invested with a high degree of abstraction, said to 'prevade the universe' (Shatapatha Brahmana X.vi.3).

The doctrine of 'Brahman-Atman' comes up (per se) in the Upanishads. However, the doctrine of 'Brahman-Atman' is found in Atharva and is regarded to have come down from remote antiquity (Banerjee, 1973).

This may mean the concept of Atman as Soul or Self with the doctrine of Brahman-Atman actually comes to us from the Atharva texts. The passage in Atharva is rather intriguing (Atharvaveda, Whitney's translation, Lanman, Vol 7, p.143).

It says:
"The Brahman that was first born of old Purastat (purastat = east?), Vena hath widened from a well shining edge (Simatas, horizon)..".

I feel it is of note that there was someone called 'Vena', referred to as a Jain, in Puranic literature in this way. The Atharva passage also alludes to expansions.

In much later times, there were some Rashtrakuta rulers who as staunch jains, were involved in military conquests.

What we basically have is a situation where all religions involved, in some way or the other, in military conquests, which we may persume was for bettering their resources (fresh water sources, fertile land, increasing their number of cattle, etc - ie., requirements which helped a population sustain, along with the freedom to practice their culture).

It is my personal opinion that abrahamic religions practiced indiscriminate killing in the forms of jihad , crusades, etc. Whereas, imo, religions of the east (jaina, vedic, buddhist) were better in the sense of involving some amount of intellectual edge to this situation, wrt debate, tribal mergers, etc.

In a tribal state, imo, the eviction of a large set of people may have depended on small groups of warriors who lost, for we find no clue of large scale killings in various vedic, jain and buddhist religious literature.

There was also movement of various religious ideas across different social circles or different regions of ancient India, in a peaceful manner (without military involvement).

So when it comes to conquering and converting, i feel the context is different in the way religions of the east versus west have conducted themselves.

There is definitely a provision for peaceful interaction, with an intellectual basis for debate, etc, in the religions of the east. They also allow their religions to grow and do not depend on the final words of one god or one prophet.

Even today, anyone with a deep understanding of various concepts in different scriptures, can produce a thesis with an alter view, on the concept of Atman, Brahman-Atman, etc.

Imho, the religions of the east will someday or the other, eventually prevail, as they are more suited to the sensibilites of a technological world.

Regards.
 
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Shri Rahu hit on Shri Hanuman on his shoulder in the process. The shoulder bone
of Shri Hanuman fractured. Hanu means shoulder bone. Hence the child was named as Shri Hanuman.


Shri Bala,

sanskrit 'hanu' means 'jaw' not shoulder. The story I have heard is that hanuman was nearing the sun, and seeing the danger for the child, vayu pleaded with Indra who mildly struck at the jaw of the child with his vajra and the jaw got disfigured. But we are all more powerful than Indra, in that hanuman is not known to be shown with a disfigured jaw anywhere. (May be there is another story of Rama making it alright :)).

The problem as I see it (and which my children in their younger days asked) is how this impulsive sort of monkey could become an object of such high adoration? I genuinely feel that the more we start giving such puranic myths, the more our children, particularly those who are born and are being brought up in foreign countries, will get repulsed from the deities and the temples. But all this is ok in this forum, I would say, but not in the context of "How can we encourage our kids to go to temple more?", which is the topic.
 
May be some kids from US may feel repulsed, but more and more indian kids are drawn towards hanuman; hanuman chalisa is chanted by many, and audio cds are selling well.
But again, US kids exposed to aliens in diverse shapes and sizes in games and movies, may start liking hanuman; fond hopes of revulsion to hanuman will have to remain an unfulfilled dream for ever.

The problem as I see it (and which my children in their younger days asked) is how this impulsive sort of monkey could become an object of such high adoration? I genuinely feel that the more we start giving such puranic myths, the more our children, particularly those who are born and are being brought up in foreign countries, will get repulsed from the deities and the temples. But all this is ok in this forum, I would say, but not in the context of "How can we encourage our kids to go to temple more?", which is the topic.
 
Shri Bala,

sanskrit 'hanu' means 'jaw' not shoulder. The story I have heard is that hanuman was nearing the sun, and seeing the danger for the child, vayu pleaded with Indra who mildly struck at the jaw of the child with his vajra and the jaw got disfigured. But we are all more powerful than Indra, in that hanuman is not known to be shown with a disfigured jaw anywhere. (May be there is another story of Rama making it alright :)).

The problem as I see it (and which my children in their younger days asked) is how this impulsive sort of monkey could become an object of such high adoration? I genuinely feel that the more we start giving such puranic myths, the more our children, particularly those who are born and are being brought up in foreign countries, will get repulsed from the deities and the temples. But all this is ok in this forum, I would say, but not in the context of "How can we encourage our kids to go to temple more?", which is the topic.


To tell you the truth..those of us who were born and brought up in foreign countries for generations and who are not even citizens of India have no problems what so ever with Hinduism.
I have yet to come across any kid here who disrespects any form of divinity.
Every kid here is fascinated by Hanuman Ji and simply adore Him.

Kids here are not repulsed at all of any form of divinity in the temples.
They might ask some basic questions and accept the logical answers given by their parents.

I really dont know from where people get this impression that foreign born kids are put off by God and religion.

So far I have yet to meet an Atheist here in Malaysia or any Theist with Atheist like kids.
 
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Shri Bala,
sanskrit 'hanu' means 'jaw' not shoulder. The story I have heard is that hanuman was nearing the sun, and seeing the danger for the child, vayu pleaded with Indra who mildly struck at the jaw of the child with his vajra and the jaw got disfigured. But we are all more powerful than Indra, in that hanuman is not known to be shown with a disfigured jaw anywhere. (May be there is another story of Rama making it alright ).
The problem as I see it (and which my children in their younger days asked) is how this impulsive sort of monkey could become an object of such high adoration? I genuinely feel that the more we start giving such puranic myths, the more our children, particularly those who are born and are being brought up in foreign countries, will get repulsed from the deities and the temples. But all this is ok in this forum, I would say, but not in the context of "How can we encourage our kids to go to temple more?", which is the topic.
There a quite many children whose information and knowledge on the puranas and the various Gods sometimes are much above an average adult. I see many throng the temple with much curiosity and faith and havent come across anyone who appeared repulsive. Might be a phenomena of a few in the western world that is being made to appear universal. As far as Hanuman goes, I wonder why a face should prevent these kids from seeing divinity. Especially when these kids have been brought up to view the character in an individual and not the looks.

I can think of easy stuff to help normal Kids see divinity in Hanuman
1. Devotion: Ever ready, performed things in the largest interest of his Master
2. Intelligent :
3. Mastery over senses :
4. A great physcologists: How he won the confidence of Sita, How he influenced Rama to accept Vibhishana into the camp etc.,
Slokas in Sundarakandam of Valmika are beautiful potrayal of qualities - both mind an physical of Hanuman.
Just because a few stray kids are going to repel, should others be deprived?
 
How can we encourage our kids to go to temple more?", is the title of this thread. The OP felt, so it seems to me, that some (his?) kids born and brought up in the west do not seem to be interested in going to hindu temples. So my post # 534 was made in that connection. If there was no reluctance on the part of some kids, the OP itself might not have raised it as a point, I feel.

In that context, I wanted to say that hanuman is a very complex divinity and children whose minds are basically innocent of any religion/religious idea, tend to look at the absurdity of worshipping the likeness of the monkey - which they see in the zoo - as something like God. So, some who have the freedom in the house to articulate their views might ask the question.

If, as some honourable members have opined, children as a general rule, learn to accept the hanuman image as god and divinity implicitly, then there is no problem.
 
Children are very delicate and they have to be handled very intelligently.
Some are submissive, some are aggressive while some are assertive. We
have to tell them in the form of stories of our Hindu heritage starting
with to make them know - who are we, where we have come from,
our cultures, life styles, explaining social customs, favorites, holidays
and festivals we celebrate with the occasion and its purpose,
daily routines one has to do, how to develop trust and honesty in them,
why philanthropic activities are taken up, introducing family members
and the chief object of visiting the Temples, etc. in stages. Once they
start understand the above, they will automatically get an interest and
the need for visiting temples as one of their routines.

Balasubramanian
Ambattur
 
temple

Teach children the scientific side of the religious observances and the effect on our psychi and nervous system.Pujas , meditation and temple visits have a soothing effect on us reducing tension and blood pressure.
They willunderstand.
sundarrajan.
 
Happy new year to all our Members.

After a very long time, (due to pressure from office and home front I could'nt join you) I am visiting our family again. I hope now on I can speak to you all regularly. The first thread I sighted today is somewhat very interesting. But due to paucity of time, I could not go through all the 55 pages of this thread. All the renwoned and learned members might have contributed a lot in this thread for the benefit of the members.

In my humble opinion, the charity starts at home. We can start the practice in our home.


In the morning immediately after getting up from the bed, after face wash etc. straightaway go to the pooja room or near the place where the Photos of Gods are present, wear the vibhuthi/kumkum light the holy lamp, pray for a minute for the good day. It is the beginning. Then after snanam etc. make it a point to wear tilak on the forehead. (Most of the brahmin people shun this practice saying people will laugh at us) People will see u differently for a day or two and then it willbe a practice and nobody will see u differently.

Inculcate this practice in your child from young age onwards. Take them to nearby temples atleast a day in a week. Spare atleast an hour for the God out of your busy schedule to thank him for the day, whether it is in USA, UK or anywhere in the world.

You can visit a church and see the Jesus there as Shiva, Vishnu and meditate a minute and come out. Who was a Jesus. He was a Hindu. Because he preached his views to the masses he got his own identity. Who was Buddha? He was a Hindu - Suddhodhana. He preached his views and he got his identity. So the root is HIndu and Hindu Dharma only from where these branches came out and started atanding alone. But they have become staunch followers of their own faith and we the root is fading away. No we should not allow this to happen to our Sannathana Dharma. If we, the elders put our foot strongly, youngsters will follow suit. Please dont shy away from our dharma and Kula AAcharams. They are the scientifically proven systems/methods to live a happy life in this world. Please dont allow yourselves carry away by the western styles, which are being scrapped by their own creators and they are gradually come into their root family that is Hindu Dharma.

My request to all our members with a folded hand, on this new year day, to save our Dharma and follow our practices/rituals/systems regularly and without fail and live happily in this world.

Thank you.
Raaghavan
 
Happy new year to all our Members.

After a very long time, (due to pressure from office and home front I could'nt join you) I am visiting our family again. I hope now on I can speak to you all regularly. The first thread I sighted today is somewhat very interesting. But due to paucity of time, I could not go through all the 55 pages of this thread. All the renwoned and learned members might have contributed a lot in this thread for the benefit of the members.

In my humble opinion, the charity starts at home. We can start the practice in our home.


In the morning immediately after getting up from the bed, after face wash etc. straightaway go to the pooja room or near the place where the Photos of Gods are present, wear the vibhuthi/kumkum light the holy lamp, pray for a minute for the good day. It is the beginning. Then after snanam etc. make it a point to wear tilak on the forehead. (Most of the brahmin people shun this practice saying people will laugh at us) People will see u differently for a day or two and then it willbe a practice and nobody will see u differently.

Inculcate this practice in your child from young age onwards. Take them to nearby temples atleast a day in a week. Spare atleast an hour for the God out of your busy schedule to thank him for the day, whether it is in USA, UK or anywhere in the world.

You can visit a church and see the Jesus there as Shiva, Vishnu and meditate a minute and come out. Who was a Jesus. He was a Hindu. Because he preached his views to the masses he got his own identity. Who was Buddha? He was a Hindu - Suddhodhana. He preached his views and he got his identity. So the root is HIndu and Hindu Dharma only from where these branches came out and started atanding alone. But they have become staunch followers of their own faith and we the root is fading away. No we should not allow this to happen to our Sannathana Dharma. If we, the elders put our foot strongly, youngsters will follow suit. Please dont shy away from our dharma and Kula AAcharams. They are the scientifically proven systems/methods to live a happy life in this world. Please dont allow yourselves carry away by the western styles, which are being scrapped by their own creators and they are gradually come into their root family that is Hindu Dharma.

My request to all our members with a folded hand, on this new year day, to save our Dharma and follow our practices/rituals/systems regularly and without fail and live happily in this world.

Thank you.
Raaghavan

A decent and humble appeal. Thank you very much for highlighting it.

Balasubramanian
Ambattur
 
dear raghavan !
it is true that many are shy to apply vibhuti in the fore head to avoid comment from others . in foreign countries at least they can apply thiru neeru or kunkum while praying in home. my son-in-law(who is UK) is doing the same as mentioned by you . My grant daughter after waking immediately ask for vibuthi from her dad and she will do namaskarams . she will ask her father take her to near by hindu temple during week ends and holiday
 
Elders should slowly and slowly tell the children about the scientific importance of Vibhuthi.
Then they will understand and start applying it on their forehead. I have seen my relatives
who are in abroad, they buy Vibhuthi and Kumkum here and take it with them. My cousin's
grandson does Sandhavanthanam.

Balasubramanian
Ambattur
 
vibhooti, kumkumam, poonal, chandanakkaTTai, camphor and even rose water are all adulterated today, if you buy it from shop. Our temple priest and some very respectable personalities in charge of the small temple in our colony, all suffered skin allergy caused by the vibhuti purchased by the priest (and obviously got free from him by the others, due to their 'position', obviously!). They had to discontinue it and take treatment. They switched over to ready-made chandanam (most temples, including famous ones like sabarimala, guruvayoor, etc., use ready to buy chandanam which is purely some chemical mixed with yellow colouring agent) and this too aggravated the allergies. Nowadays, sandal is so costly that unless you buy a genuine sandalwood piece and 'grind' it at home, you will not get good chandanam.

vibhuti from cowdung is out of question unless you buy dried dung balls and prepare vibhuti. Even what is exported are powdered soapstone with a dash of perfume all artificial. The same ssi unit/s making vibhuti will switch over to talcum powder by changing perfume and packing and I know many of the well-known brands of talcum powder are mfd. in the very same shed.

I only wish sincerely that the small girl asking for vibhuti every morning has resistance to allergy!
 
During my last visit to guruvayur about ten years ago, I saw sandal paste being made in the temple by four priests by rubbing sandal logs on big stones. I believe, in all temples, offerings to the deity are prepared inside the temple in the traditional way and without adulteration. Definitely they can neither prepare enough to meet the demands of lakhs of devotees (increasing every day) visiting the temple nor have control what is sold outside.

The temples have facilities to meet their internal requirement and strictly follow traditions. Tar painting with a big brush is not in good taste.

"Western Chuttambalam- In between the Ganapathyshrine and the store room the temple priests prepare sandal paste and Variyar make garlands."


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They switched over to ready-made chandanam (most temples, including famous ones like sabarimala, guruvayoor, etc., use ready to buy chandanam which is purely some chemical mixed with yellow colouring agent)
 
Hari Om to all,
Let me put a different approach to this topic, instead of encourgaging the children to go to temple, we should encourage them to know our culture and their roots. I would say that by going to temple one does not become Believer of God and cultivate good habits. As Osho says, most of us are Good because we don't have Guts to become Bad. I tell my children to be Good out of Guts and not by chance or fear.

I encourage two important things to my children : Satyam Vada and Dharmam Chara.

If our children are rooted in their behaviour and establish as their basic Values, then everything sit in their place. God will reside in their hearts, Going to Temple is automatic and Gives a good chance for God Realization as well.


Wishing you all a Very Happy, Healthy, Wealthy, Peaceful, Blissful and Loving New year.
 
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