sury,
i cannot but help a few chuckles, at the sight of your post #34 from which, i pick some signs that you are nettled?
ofcourse, whatever works for each. if the traditional model works for most, it is ok. it is infact, grrrrrreat!
but happy pointed out, many of us, belong to the fringe 10% on the ends. i am quite sure, that even in india, there are such, for any society, there is the fringe.
it is those, who are blessed with square pegs, when without thinking, and bowing to 'tradition', try to fit themselves into round holes, problems arise.
among my most relatives in india, the father only has to retire, before seeking out to live with the son. 'why spend the cost of two households?' is the most often excuse. i think the parents may be missing out on a second honeymoon with its very mature ஊடல் காதல் மோதல்s, all of which, they might not have had a chance in their first honey, precisely due to this joint family factor.
for this, the second son and those who follow get away scot free. it is the poor first born, and now a days, only born, who appear to be left with the hot potatoes
bantering is good, i think. so far, only one person has mocked me for my bantering, and that was sapthjhiva, if i remember right, and that was during my days as a moderator.
nowadays, i catch, saptha bantering too, and i am delighted. as they say, if you can't beat them, just join them.