Inter-state mass marriage: East meets west in matrimony

[prasad1]

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Kartik Sorathiya, a 25-year-old auto garage owner inBapunagar, had little idea about eastern state of Odisha until a month ago when his parents enrolled his name in a matrimonial meet with prospective brides from the state. "I met Poornima Pradhan three days ago after she liked my profile. We talked and realized we were a match," says Sorathiya who had seen many Patel girls in Gujarat earlier in vain before Poornima chose him. The couple was busy clicking pictures discussing Oriya 'dalma' over Gujarati 'dal-bhat'.

It was a unique confluence of east and west India in Ahmedabad on Tuesday as 23 Patidar youths from Gujarat tied the knot with brides from Odisha. This was the first such inter-state mass marriage function under the aegis of 'Akhil Bharatiya Kurmi Kshatriya Mahasabha' (ABKKM). Earlier, 76 girls from Odisha married Patel youths in the state in three different functions held in diamond city Surat since 2013.

Organizers say it is a win-win match for Patidar youths in Gujarat for whom finding a suitable bride in the community is a daunting task due to the skewed child sex ratio of 883 girls per 1,000 boys as per Census 2001 which has only shown only marginal improvement at 890 recorded in Census 2011.

"Many Patidar youths looking for brides were getting duped by middlemen. On the other hand, many Oriya Kurmi girls remained unmarried as poor parents can ill-afford huge dowry demands. We decided to bridge the communities for common good. What started with 7 matches in 2013 reached to 45 weddings last year," says Ramji Patel, a native of Surat and vice-president of ABKKM who initiated the inter-state weddings.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/ahmedabad/east-meets-west-in-matrimony/articleshow/58138318.cms




And we have a whole thread against IC/IR weddings. LOL

 

[krish44]

This is nothing new.

It is almost like trafficking of girls from poor families from states which have a better gender ratio.

Earlier we had reports of girls from kerala being lured into marriages with boys in rural haryana [where there is a very severe female shortage]

Now this report of oriya girls being enticed with marriage proposal from patidar boys in gujarat.

Previously many poor girls were trafficked with promise of jobs from national metros and pushed into flesh trade.

This is only a slightly different variant.

 

[prasad1]

This is nothing new.

It is almost like trafficking of girls from poor families from states which have a better gender ratio.

Earlier we had reports of girls from kerala being lured into marriages with boys in rural haryana [where there is a very severe female shortage]

Now this report of oriya girls being enticed with marriage proposal from patidar boys in gujarat.

Previously many poor girls were trafficked with promise of jobs from national metros and pushed into flesh trade.



This is only a slightly different variant.

Trafficking!!!!!!
That is a very poor choice of word when both parties are in agreement. You may say it is arranged marriage. And it is a good thing.

Trafficking in girls in a sex slave term. When girls are bought and sold as sex slaves. It is like the difference between Legal immigrant and the slaves brought to USA against their wishes.

 

[krish44]

Perhaps prasadji you do not like the choice of words.

In many cases the girls have no choice.

They get forced by their parents and poverty to accept the offer of marriage.

Some even think they can send some money back home after marriage to help their siblings and parents.

Do you know there are vaishnavite brahmins also knowing very little telugu or tamil in orissa andhra border areas who are prepared to marry tamil/telugu brahmin

boys?

They are not well off and marry our boys who are not that well qualified and whom girls normally reject.

Again the issue is poverty.

 

[Raji Ram]

......... In many cases the girls have no choice.

They get forced by their parents and poverty to accept the offer of marriage........

They are not well off and marry our boys who are not that well qualified and whom girls normally reject.

Again the issue is poverty.

Sadly, this IS the situation of poor girls and 'un-marketed' boys!! :sad:

 

[krish44]

Poverty can make girls do strange things.

One got married to a person 20 plus years older -a widower - she confessing that the man could offer her security and roof over her head and food for as long as he

lives.She managed to live with him more than 25 years.

Another which my colleague told me.His sister a school teacher married her colleague . Her explanation -he claims he loves me.Anyway he has damaged my name by

talking loosely about it to others. At least he will not expect any dowry. It will relieve our family of expenditure and debts.interesting how some women compromise

and accept the bad deals life give them