Marriage Proposal

[krish44]

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With changes happening fast in our society with ladies increasingly exercising their choice of mate. an interesting issue is who is to propose

A recent survey of 6500 youngmen in age group 25-36 , a matrimonial site has found out that over 71.7% percent of them were of the view it is better if women proposed to

them while 61.3% felt that modern day women were confident of making the first move in a relationship

on how they would like to be proposed to ,61.2% preferred face to face while for others digital connect was ok.

some also did not mind the landline/mobile option besides whatsapp and facebook

tradionally man is supposed to make the first move. but it is heartening to note that women are confident enough to change that.

TB boys can take heart and feel encouraged . they need not muster courage to propose. TB girls will now take initiative to propose to TB boys if they desire and

they can tell their mothers that only the girl felt that they should get married.lol

what do members feel ?

if girls propose to their boys and get into a relationship ending in marriage is it OK with them

 

[renuka]

Yucks! A girl should not make the 1st move.

Let guys chase you..being chased by males we fancy is a nice feeling.

Males have to do the chase..female need to enjoy the chasing.

Even in the animal kingdom its the males that chase the female.

Even when I got married proposals came on its own..my family never made any first move.


I think now RR ji will agree that I am traditional!LOL

 

[prasad1]

I think in the animal world the males courts, but it is the female of the specious that chooses (except the battle won males takes the females).

 

[Vaagmi]

It is a highly nuanced transaction. It is the girl who does some thing--a mischievous smile a twist of the lips a joke a breezing past her friend close enough and yet not closeetc--that triggers the transaction. Then it is a longish transaction involving chasing longing behaving stupidly exchanging a lot of sweet nothings laughing together etc. I think nature has designed the format that way since ancient times. It is the girl who starts all that. Theriyatho nokku theriyatho Ilamm vayathinile kathal vanthaal paiththiyam pol..........Lol.
Posted from my smart phone.

 

[vgane]

I studied in a co-ed school...

There are multiple boys targeting a single girl and making proposals...

Now ultimately the girl has to choose...

The girl has to decide & make the final acceptance..

Without that all the boys will be in the dark about who their sweet heart is hankering for..

But can the girl make the first proposal..

Why not...She too has the same biological urges as a boy

Men are tuned to non acceptance of their proposals...

How about girls?

This emotional trauma of their proposal being rejected may be too much for the girl!

So I prefer status quo...With a twist

Girls can get their act fast & finalize the boy

Speed is the key..No more dilly dallying

If they see eye to eye, they should propose quickly

This will hasten the process!

 

[krish44]

The post from matrimonial site was sent to me by the site when I was looking for a match for a boy in my family

I have seen that in most family educated career girls only make the choice of mates. mostly their parents spend their time trying to select based on the boys family status,

horoscope etc and mostly they discover girls do not like them. unnecessarily ,they waste both their time and that of boys parents.Boys also suffer when their parents foist

undesirable types they like and the girls are not like the mod. cleopatras they have seen in hollywood films .besides their dream girl they know are chased by many and

there is always the risk of making a wrong move and being framed by the girls. it would be sensible that girls choose and propose . most men normally say yes. they are

too dumb to decide between good and the not so good. they would marry the first OK looking dumb doll.

how simple it would be if girls directly identified and proposed and get the boys on their side and approach the parents if they feel necessary . parents can stamp their

approval like gazetted officers of govt.

 

[V.Balasubramani]

How about going back to Swayamvara system?

We studied about the prevalence of ‘Swayamvara system’ with the girl exercising her option of selecting her mate among the lot, like Sita, Draupadi, Shakuntala, Damayanti,etc

While everything is changing why not the present system too?

Let it is now turn of the girl to take her own time to exercise her judgement and pronounce the result of her selection and in the meanwhile let the boys wait eagerly cursing their fate and pray for good luck.

Change in life is inevitable..... Change in rituals.....????

 

[renuka]

I dont think many girls would like to make the 1st move...no one wants to be called a Desperado.


BTW making the 1st move in ditching a boyfriend/husband is fine!LOL

 

[tbs]

hi

aajkal ladkiyaam bahut NAKREBAAJI hote hai.....if the boy chase a gal....she chose NAKREBAAJI too much...if she chase a guy....

the NAKREBHAAJI kam hote hai.....lol

 

[sravna]

It is the typical ulta of normal things that we keep seeing if the girl makes the move first. If it is real love both have the same feelings. In such a scenario I prefer the boys taking the initiative.

 

[sarang]

This 'idea - ulloo math banal - ad in TV. Boy and the girl in coffee bar. Boy gushes - I love you so much bla bla. The smart girl extends the phone saying - do you, then change Facebook status to 'relationship'. Boy cuts a sorry figure and the girl storms out.

 

[sarang]

Back to the good old days. Even in the case of draupadi, contentious issue of a brahmin (pandavas were in brahmin guise) marrying a Kshatriya, and one bride for five men was satisfactorily resolved by discussion with wise men.

How about going back to Swayamvara system?

We studied about the prevalence of ‘Swayamvara system’ with the girl exercising her option of selecting her mate among the lot, like Sita, Draupadi, Shakuntala, Damayanti,etc

While everything is changing why not the present system too?

Let it is now turn of the girl to take her own time to exercise her judgement and pronounce the result of her selection and in the meanwhile let the boys wait eagerly cursing their fate and pray for good luck.

Change in life is inevitable..... Change in rituals.....????

 

[Raji Ram]

How about going back to Swayamvara system?

We studied about the prevalence of ‘Swayamvara system’ with the girl exercising her option of selecting her mate among the lot, like Sita, Draupadi, Shakuntala, Damayanti,etc

While everything is changing why not the present system too?

Let it is now turn of the girl to take her own time to exercise her judgement and pronounce the result of her selection and in the meanwhile let the boys wait eagerly cursing their fate and pray for good luck.

Change in life is inevitable..... Change in rituals.....????

Dear Balu Sir,

What else do you think our girls are doing except 'swayamvaram', now a days?

Either it is the selection of the best from the few profiles short listed by the parents :spy:

or it is their own choice, by 'lovvu'! :fish2:

 

[V.Balasubramani]

Dear Balu Sir,

What else do you think our girls are doing except 'swayamvaram', now a days?

Either it is the selection of the best from the few profiles short listed by the parents :spy:

or it is their own choice, by 'lovvu'! :fish2:

RR Mam,

If that is the case, I will be only happy to see that every girl exercise this privilege.

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Balu Sir,

nondhu noolAp pOna pasangaLOda sOgak kadhaiyaik kELunga!

appO theriyum namma poNNugaLOda dhairiyam! :thumb:

 

[V.Balasubramani]

Dear Balu Sir,

nondhu noolAp pOna pasangaLOda sOgak kadhaiyaik kELunga!

appO theriyum namma poNNugaLOda dhairiyam! :thumb:

RR Mam,

Last week I had been to Swamimalai and inasmuch as it was a ‘Muhurthanaal’ and ‘Sasti’, there were lot of marriages and I had the opportunity to witness these weddings held inside the temple. But in one case, I found the girl is so young and the groom is definitely in his forties. IMHO there are still families and parents who influence and take decisions on marriage of their daughters.

 

[prasad1]

If that is the case, I will be only happy to see that every girl exercise this privilege.

Balu sir,
Where have you been - you are like a breath of fresh air.

 

[renuka]

Dear Balu Sir,

What else do you think our girls are doing except 'swayamvaram', now a days?

Either it is the selection of the best from the few profiles short listed by the parents :spy:

or it is their own choice, by 'lovvu'! :fish2:

Dear RR ji,

A big garland would be nice to garland more than one person.

You rarely find all the qualities you seek in one person!LOL

 

[renuka]

It is the typical ulta of normal things that we keep seeing if the girl makes the move first. If it is real love both have the same feelings. In such a scenario I prefer the boys taking the initiative.

Dear Sravna,

A male HAS to make the first move..only then we know his hormones are working well!LOL

 

[krish44]

It will be easy if boys mother pushes the boy forward from behind and a girl pulls him towards her making it a little easier for him.lol

 

[Raji Ram]

.... A big garland would be nice to garland more than one person.

You rarely find all the qualities you seek in one person!LOL

Dear Renu,

It is said 'Manaivi amaivadhellAm iRaivan koduththa varam!'

It should be actually, 'ThuNai (vAzhkkaith thuNai) amivathellAm iRaivan koduththa varam!'

And........ Most important thing to remember is 'pOdhumendra manamE pon seyyum marundhu!'

 

[renuka]

Dear Renu,

It is said 'Manaivi amaivadhellAm iRaivan koduththa varam!'

It should be actually, 'ThuNai (vAzhkkaith thuNai) amivathellAm iRaivan koduththa varam!'

And........ Most important thing to remember is 'pOdhumendra manamE pon seyyum marundhu!'

dear RR ji,

Could you kindly translate for me what you wrote..I cant grasp everything.

 

[Raji Ram]

Manaivi amaivadhellAm iRaivan koduththa varam! = Getting a (good) wife is a boon given by God.

ThuNai (vAzhkkaith thuNai) amivathellAm iRaivan koduththa varam!

Here, vAzhkkaith thuNai = life partner

 

[renuka]

Manaivi amaivadhellAm iRaivan koduththa varam! = Getting a (good) wife is a boon given by God.

So that means if its a boon to get a good wife that shows that majority of men dont get good wives!LOL

No wonder the rain fall is less in Tamil Nadu!Ha Ha Ha

 

[krish44]

It has been pouring like hell causing floods in jammu and kashmir

are the men there more fortunate than TN counter parts