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Maturity Of Indian Males

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sravna said:
Dear Renuka,

You have a cliched view of maturity. Maturity happens when you have the right balance of holistic and logical thinking. That's also when one can be genuinely humorous in my view. So contrary to what you think being mature is real fun.
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Dear Sravna,

I dont think maturity actually happens in the real sense.

What we see is only changes in the mind.

Ok take the Self for example..the Atma...it has never undergone change ever.

Its always Changeless. There is no such thing as a mature Atma or Immature Atma.

Mind on the other hand is conditioned by past experiences,knowledge,society and surroundings.

Mind has the ego as the substratum.

What we call mature is just experiences accumulated over time and with repeated exposure to the same situations which might appear in different forms we humans learn to have reactions for each situation encountered.

When one encounter is handle by a reaction which produces positive results the mind records it in its subconscious only to use it again when faced with a similar situation.

Repeated situations and repeated reactions from the human mind produces a data base of successful methodology and we call it maturity.

Whatever said and done as long as anything that is based in the mind..it is only transient.
 
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krish44 said:
JRji

You are very wise.

I tend to agree that emotional maturity has a correlation with those who are tolerant due to various reasons such as exposure to poverty,difficulties ,losses in life.

so if if you want emotonal maturity , wiser to put age aside and opt for someone who has become mature facing difficulties in life.

no harm in an older guy. they say old is gold.lol
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I don't know, to me emotional maturity has a lot of correlation with 'Sattwa guna', Krish ji.

A Sattwic person who does not belittle, bicker, backbite, boast (a lot of 'b' words) acts from a balanced, neutral standpoint and tends to be fair to all. He does not lie, cheat, mismanipulate, plot on avenging others, infact the entire lot of negative traits we can think of disappears in front of a Sattwic person.

So I think a Sattwic person can be married at an appropriate/suitable age and such a person will make a good partner. He/She will make an understanding, good, unselfish partner.
 
JR said:
I don't know, to me emotional maturity has a lot of correlation with 'Sattwa guna', Krish ji.

A Sattwic person who does not belittle, bicker, backbite, boast (a lot of 'b' words) acts from a balanced, neutral standpoint and tends to be fair to all. He does not lie, cheat, mismanipulate, plot on avenging others, infact the entire lot of negative traits we can think of disappears in front of a Sattwic person.

So I think a Sattwic person can be married at an appropriate/suitable age and such a person will make a good partner. He/She will make an understanding, good, unselfish partner.
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JRji
If someone is satwik with all the qualities mentioned by you,He might be good marriage material for ladies.But is it fair to him?

If I were satwik I will keep off all ladies enjoy my bachelor status.

wait until 55 years as the doctor has suggested and think of marriage if required.lol

[ I was only joking . Do not take it seriously]
 
krish44 said:
JRji
If someone is satwik with all the qualities mentioned by you,He might be good marriage material for ladies.But is it fair to him?

If I were satwik I will keep off all ladies enjoy my bachelor status.

wait until 55 years as the doctor has suggested and think of marriage if required.lol

[ I was only joking . Do not take it seriously]
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No, no... we are missing the most important constituent for marriage... leaving aside the sexuality part, the main reason why people marry is because they need company. This is not missing even in a Sattwic one. :)
 
JR said:
No, no... we are missing the most important constituent for marriage... leaving aside the sexuality part, the main reason why people marry is because they need company. This is not missing even in a Sattwic one. :)
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This companionship business is a myth promoted by ladies to keep men in control.

Basically it is a lonely journey in life

only others get in and out of ones life.

thttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6IJQHVFoiiI//www.youtube.com/watch?v=6IJQHVFoiiIe is that kannadasans ' song ' kadaisi varai yaaro'
 
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krish44 said:
This companionship business is a myth promoted by ladies to keep men in control.

Basically it is a lonely journey in life

only others get in and out of ones life.

thttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6IJQHVFoiiI//www.youtube.com/watch?v=6IJQHVFoiiIe is that kannadasans ' song ' kadaisi varai yaaro'
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YES! I fully agree.

It's total emotional blackmail by females to ensure they and their children are kept well and survival is certain.

I feel nature has endowed females with the capacity to spew psychological potions into an unsuspecting male.

We have to understand that in ancient times the female was at full mercy of the male.

So she had to keep him under some form of "control" of the other.

She knew that the alpha male of the past has a built in Control F function like a lap top....that is when he wants to search for a potential new mate..he Searches.

The female on the other hand..has an built in Control P function..to keep on printing emotional situations which eventually deludes the male.

These days when a female is no more too dependent on a male..we see the emotional bonding on the decline..becos she is secure now.She does not fear financial disasters..she knows she can manage.

When we keep emotions away from any analysis..we can truly feel that life is just a "lonely" journey though we live in a crowd.

Humans lead crowded lonely lives..but many might not want to admit this harsh reality as its too "harsh".

Without a crowd the human ego can not exists.

When a ego can not exist..fear creeps in and we run back to the crowded lonely life..not many can enjoy a "dancing with myself" scenario.
 
JR said:
I don't know, to me emotional maturity has a lot of correlation with 'Sattwa guna', Krish ji.

A Sattwic person who does not belittle, bicker, backbite, boast (a lot of 'b' words) acts from a balanced, neutral standpoint and tends to be fair to all. He does not lie, cheat, mismanipulate, plot on avenging others, infact the entire lot of negative traits we can think of disappears in front of a Sattwic person.

So I think a Sattwic person can be married at an appropriate/suitable age and such a person will make a good partner. He/She will make an understanding, good, unselfish partner.
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Unfortunately such a sattwic person will lack passion, and hence have a very boring marriage.
 
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