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Dear all,
I am V.Rajamanikantan Single living with 75 yr old mother and 50 yr old epileptic and neuro psychotic sister . i am swimming in the ocean without any direction or destination. I have visited so many astrologers all different things. I pray some one from here guide me. My date of berth is 5 th August 1972. Saturday 3:30 pm n place of berth is Neyveli Tamil nadu. I wanted ti know is there any pithur dosham in my berth chart. Is there any faults which can be rectified as i plan something and destiny takes to another wilderness. If possible which my kula deyvam .. As i lost my dad when i was 90 days old and there is no one in my dads family who could guide us. My mother is not sure of kula deyvam . We follow what my mom knew little from her knowledge. i heard may be coz of kuladeyvam issues i might be facing tough time in life..
 
Dear Sir,

I am very sorry to note that no one has posted even a comforting message to you! (I am entering forum after a short break).

Some persons are born to suffer in life, though they are good in the present birth. It is said to be the effect of some bad deeds

in the past birth. But who knows?

Please do not go in searching for parihArams. They are only ways to waste money, imho. If you don't know your kula deivam,

the best way is to select your own deity and start praying. Concentrate on your job and try to have positive attitude towards life.

And, living single is NOT a sin. All the best to you.

Smt. Raji Ram
 
I am sorry. I am with Rajiji, but then again I am a skeptic.
I am sure Ganeshji will respond to you.
 
I examined the horoscope.It is really that of an intelligent guy with good prospects as per the data on birth. REgarding the sister, her birth particulars are needed. The year 16-17 appears to be good and prosperous one, not bad. From what is described by oneself, there appears to be some inaccuracy in the birth particulars since it is a fairly a good horoscope as per date of birth.
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Sri V.Rajamanikantan,

Welcome to the forum. I am sorry to hear about your suffering.

You say that you have been to many astrologers already. Searching for newer astrologers cannot help. People will give interpretations of what you could do but as you have discovered so far, they may not help.

While you may not want to hear what I have stated above but my intent is only to be helpful.

One cannot change certain situations one find oneself in. We can do certain action to mitigate the suffering.

Your life is consumed in the service of your old mother and your sister. They are dependent on you.

You have to be strong for them - that is Isvara's will.

You must take up the practice of daily meditation after learning that properly. Your mind will be lot clearer. It is something you will be able to do.

One of the other laws of Isvara is that no one experiences Sukham or Dukham all the time. It alternates and this happens to every one of us.

Just do your duty well and serve your mother and sister as best as you can.

You will get your break. That is the law of life.

By daily meditation, stopping the search of some astrologers and by doing your duty with full heart as if it is the will of Isvara, your suffering will reduce drastically even with all the hardship that you are facing.

In time you will get a break - that also is Isvara's law.

I wish you all the best


 
Man, I feel for you. But at the same time relying too much on astrologers etc. is not advisable since a sizeable number of them are less than scrupulous and prey on desperate people. All I can say is this; you are not alone. You have this community. Keep reaching out whenever you feel overwhelmed.

Keep your chin up and soldier on, buddy
 
Thank you Smt.Raji Ram. Again Thank you from bottom of my heart . I understand to chose to be single to be able to take care of my sister and mother . On the hand i have no rights to get a girl in my family know the situation. Every girl has her own dreams so i decided nt to crush their dreams and add more problems to my existing ones. Again your words were really positive and i pray god is somewhere supporting me .
Regards
Rajamanikantan
 
rajamanikantanv said:
Dear all,
I am V.Rajamanikantan Single living with 75 yr old mother and 50 yr old epileptic and neuro psychotic sister . i am swimming in the ocean without any direction or destination. I have visited so many astrologers all different things. I pray some one from here guide me. My date of berth is 5 th August 1972. Saturday 3:30 pm n place of berth is Neyveli Tamil nadu. I wanted ti know is there any pithur dosham in my berth chart. Is there any faults which can be rectified as i plan something and destiny takes to another wilderness. If possible which my kula deyvam .. As i lost my dad when i was 90 days old and there is no one in my dads family who could guide us. My mother is not sure of kula deyvam . We follow what my mom knew little from her knowledge. i heard may be coz of kuladeyvam issues i might be facing tough time in life..
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Surrender to your destiny and accept it. You are doing a great service to your mother and sister by taking care of them, and if you are doing with sincerity, it is a meditation unto itself.

Our life is similar to a leaf in an ocean and when the leaf thinks that it is charting its own way, a wave crashes on it spinning the leaf in all unintended directions.

I am sorry if my post offends your sentiments but I think there are better ways than astrology to soothe your mind. Get the courage to stare into the eyes of your enemy.

Best,
 
Raji Ram said:
Dear Sir,

I am very sorry to note that no one has posted even a comforting message to you!
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Dear madam, I kindly submit to you that the above is a highly presumptous statement. There are many factors as to why no one has replied...

thanks,
 
Dear Sir ,
Thank you very much for your reply . Indeed it made me happy that there are few people in this small world who takes little time to hear others. Yes sir , As you said my meditate through saying slokas for two hrs every day which keeps me going .I believe whatever happens because that has to happen . I do have to pass it so do it with smile. But as a human being just tend to loose the balance little bit . But god is there to protect .

Thanks and regards.
 
rajamanikantanv said:
Dear all,
I am V.Rajamanikantan Single living with 75 yr old mother and 50 yr old epileptic and neuro psychotic sister . i am swimming in the ocean without any direction or destination. I have visited so many astrologers all different things. I pray some one from here guide me. My date of berth is 5 th August 1972. Saturday 3:30 pm n place of berth is Neyveli Tamil nadu. I wanted ti know is there any pithur dosham in my berth chart. Is there any faults which can be rectified as i plan something and destiny takes to another wilderness. If possible which my kula deyvam .. As i lost my dad when i was 90 days old and there is no one in my dads family who could guide us. My mother is not sure of kula deyvam . We follow what my mom knew little from her knowledge. i heard may be coz of kuladeyvam issues i might be facing tough time in life..
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Prima facie the chart as per the given time above does not suggest any Pitru dosha. Given below is two links which briefly gives information on how pitru dosha is formed in a horoscope. One can see it and verify on his own. In case you had consulted a good astrologer,he must have told you this. Please don't fall prey to any one fake. Please take your own wise decision on going through the contents of the links. Please keep in mind that the links are shared only for the purpose understanding about how this dosham could be identified in a horoscope.

http://astroask.com/vedic-astrology/pitra-dosha-causes-problems-and-remedies

http://astrobix.com/astrosight/158-Yogas_for_Pitra_Dosha_and_Remedies_for_it.html

There is a thread in this forum titled Introduction to 'Vedic Astrology which gives basic information about astrology so that one can understand the basic concepts if at all one has to obtain astrological help in any situation. There is strong opposition to the materials posted in this thread which also can be seen in the posts which also allows the reader a fair chance to compare and take his own decision. In fact I also had a doubt, this post could be a prank as I got some PM with the link to this particular post. Any how my efforts are only limited to spread awareness about astrology as far as I can so that the one who prefers it could understand it and don't get fooled by fakes.
 
Namaskaram Ganesh ji

Thank you very much for your Kind words . Yes astrologers had different views from different ones. Some one said no Pithru do sham but a lady's unfortunate death in my family is troubling us. My Amma remembers little bit that by fathers elder sister went through unfortunate death after her marriage. But i don't know how that one is affecting me. Where as rest of fathers sisters family are well settle and doing good for god sake. Any way I will refer your links and see . Rest i believe god would take care .

Thanks and regards.
 
No one knows if the question posed is a sincere one or not.

Regardless, all the responses thus far , are sincere.

However there are misguided 'help' (example: post #6) though the intent I am sure is sincere.

For some reason, due to perhaps Arabic/Muslim cultural influence there is this notion of 'submitting to destiny' that has found its way into Hindu thinking. The idea of kismet ( தலை விதி) has taken roots in Hindu thinking unsupported by proper understanding of the Karma model.
One is told that one must submit to this destiny making a person feel more hopeless.

It is best to stay away from such advice.

In fact Hindu astrology is far superior than listening to idea of submitting to destiny because at least an astrologer will suggest Pariharams that puts the control back at a person's free will based action. Lest someone jumps at this statement without fully understanding, let me hasten to add that I am not advocating going to an astrologer after another because even within that belief system one can get confused.

Accepting a given situation that is not easily changed is about finding a way to deal with the situation. There is free will experience we are endowed with which can help provide guidance to deal with the suffering.


My suggestion to undertake a meditation practice is because it is rooted in large number of neuroscience experiments. It is not about imagining the act of serving your mother and sister and calling that a meditation. Again such thinking lack clarity of understanding what meditation is.

Here is a recent article on benefits of meditation to lessen the worry and get clarity

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news...duces-stress-it-literally-changes-your-brain/
 
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Its alright Prasad ji. No ill feelings please. I didn't mean to hurt any one.. I only said what I felt initially. Any way thanks for the PM
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No ill feeling. Obviously I could not help, but you will be in better position to help. I assume all posts and conversations are serious, unless otherwise proven.
 
We should not be calling people names for posting opposite opinion. Sometimes rational explanation is what is needed. It is like a splash of cold water on sleepy eyes.
If you post a question, people will answer. It is upto to you to accept or reject it, but others should not pass comments.
 
prasad1 said:
We should not be calling people names for posting opposite opinion. Sometimes rational explanation is what is needed. It is like a splash of cold water on sleepy eyes.
If you post a question, people will answer. It is upto to you to accept or reject it, but others should not pass comments.
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Agreed...noticing a holier than thou trend these days in some posts.
 
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However there are misguided 'help' (example: post #6) though the intent I am sure is sincere.

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Help is Help...Guided or Misguided is up to the OP to decide how he wishes to look at it.

Saying that the intent is sincere is a masked way of trying to project a softer blow but the main intent is to give a proper blow to the poster.

Many people have come forward to offer advice.

There is no acute need to be judgmental cos nothing is stopping anyone else to judge your posts too (just like I did).
 
hi

the OP needs help....if anybody help sincerely.....thats he needed....again same attitude in many threads.....arguments/counter

arguments and BIG EGO attitudes...otherwise silence... instead of help...otherwise keep away from threads/keep mum....

it may be help sometimes...i think ...ONLY SHRI KGOPALAN SIR CAN HELP....just wait for his help...
 
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rajamanikantanv said:
Dear all,
I am V.Rajamanikantan Single living with 75 yr old mother and 50 yr old epileptic and neuro psychotic sister . i am swimming in the ocean without any direction or destination. I have visited so many astrologers all different things. I pray some one from here guide me. My date of berth is 5 th August 1972. Saturday 3:30 pm n place of berth is Neyveli Tamil nadu. I wanted ti know is there any pithur dosham in my berth chart. Is there any faults which can be rectified as i plan something and destiny takes to another wilderness. If possible which my kula deyvam .. As i lost my dad when i was 90 days old and there is no one in my dads family who could guide us. My mother is not sure of kula deyvam . We follow what my mom knew little from her knowledge. i heard may be coz of kuladeyvam issues i might be facing tough time in life..
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Dear Raja,

From your posts I can make out a plea for help.

You need some attention too.

You need to try to face step by step how to handle this situation.

Believe me..there is no easy step but you can always try.

I sense slight depression too partly you are coping with too much in life all alone.

Since you are single I advise you to have a few neutral minded supportive friends..note I have not used the word POSITIVE minded becos some so called Positive minded do not have finer thinking and do not know how to relate to emotions of others.

You might feel as if no one really understands your situation...Yes..you could be right..no one will understand anything unless they go tru it themselves.

Do not view your inability to handle the situation as a weakness...remember you have inner strength to be able to handle all these for so long..just like anyone else you can also have a break down..this is entirely normal.

Sometimes trying to be too strong can weaken our core strength.

You first need to take a break...is your sisters condition under control?

Is she still getting seizures?

May be her medication is not working as it should or is non compliance of medication as issue too?

You may choose to address both these issues.

Even though I would not recommend any Pariharams but since you are keen on it..it might do you some psychological effect to calm your mind cos you might want to believe the Kuladeivam has been appeased and not Dosha effect etc.

True or not..we do not know but it might have an anti depressant effect on you which would be beneficial.

So take things slowly..sometimes answers are not found in a day or may be never even found..but don't give up hope..you are already in fact coping...its just that you need some emotional support which I feel is what is really lacking at present.

take care.
 
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