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However there are misguided 'help' (example: post #6) though the intent I am sure is sincere.

Wow, what a pronouncement !

For some reason, due to perhaps Arabic/Muslim cultural influence there is this notion of 'submitting to destiny' that has found its way into Hindu thinking. The idea of kismet ( தலை விதி) has taken roots in Hindu thinking unsupported by proper understanding of the Karma model.

A fish cannot control the water it dwells in. Submitting to destiny means acceptance of the things as they are. There is no need to give arms and legs to this statement. If you are confused you can ask for clarification. If the word is ambiguous, you may say so.

Seems you are too keen to jump to conclusions.

One is told that one must submit to this destiny making a person feel more hopeless.

It is best to stay away from such advice.

Another pronouncement.

In fact Hindu astrology is far superior than listening to idea of submitting to destiny because at least an astrologer will suggest Pariharams that puts the control back at a person's free will based action. Lest someone jumps at this statement without fully understanding, let me hasten to add that I am not advocating going to an astrologer after another because even within that belief system one can get confused.

Getting carried away with a flawed understanding.

My suggestion to undertake a meditation practice is because it is rooted in large number of neuroscience experiments. It is not about imagining the act of serving your mother and sister and calling that a meditation. Again such thinking lack clarity of understanding what meditation is.

I differ from your half baked conclusion. Imo, an act if done with dedication and willingness becomes a medicine for the mind. It is a form of karma yoga.

 

[auh]

Agree with Shri TKS response post # 9

Thank you for your kind expression !

 

[sravna]

Dear Sir,

Any difficult problem has to be dealt at two levels. One is the spiritual level and the other at the mundane level. One needs to understand that everything is in accordance with destiny and God willed. God can do no harm and all his will are only for one's eventual benefits. So one needs to believe that divine support is always there and so resort to with unshakeable faith in God. Thinking that there is a higher purpose helps to maintain your inner peace.

At the mundane level, we need to initiate whatever logical steps are necessary to alleviate the problem. If we think in a calm way solutions will emerge . With a less emotional approach you will also get better responses from others too and I am sure you will definitely get a fresh lease of life.

If you want to talk more about the problem you can PM me.

 

[rajamanikantanv]

Dear Renuka
Thanks very much for your detailed reply. I think what you said in right little emotional support is missing. But with all the best wishes and god blessings it will be taken care off. My sister is ok but he seizer and leading to psychotic nothing could be done.. All the doctors from Appolo, AIIMS have just said to continue medicine as nothing could be done . Pray she does not suffer much longer. She is on medication for both . just fingers crossed.

Thanks and Regards

 

[rajamanikantanv]

Dear Srinivasan Ji,
Thanks for your reply . Yes i have my deepest connection with God . He is taking care of me every second , every minute . I am sure he knows the best for me.
Thanks and Regards

 

[rajamanikantanv]

I examined the horoscope.It is really that of an intelligent guy with good prospects as per the data on birth. REgarding the sister, her birth particulars are needed. The year 16-17 appears to be good and prosperous one, not bad. From what is described by oneself, there appears to be some inaccuracy in the birth particulars since it is a fairly a good horoscope as per date of birth.
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Dear Sir ,
Thanks very much for your reply. Glad to know that my chart is good so as the year 2016-17. The problems and issues never settles. Something of the other keeps propping . Lets see where it takes me as i stopped planning. My sisters details will dig it out and post you.. It would be a great help for my sister as she is struggling for last 45 yrs and no end to it. I feel really sorry for her the kind of suffering she is going through. i am doing my best for her . Thank you again sir and i will reply to soon with all her details.

Regards

 

[Shankar Venkataraman]

Kudos!.. While every one can be responding soothingly, your strength to manage should now multiply leaps and bounds... I shall pray to give you enough strength to manage the challenges that you have... Never ever give up... you look for comforting and satisfying days.. you will beget

 

[rajamanikantanv]

Sir ,
I just got managed to dig out my sisters detail as follows.
V.Thangam
Date of Birth : 3 Feb. 1968 /3:30 AM
PLACE : Neyveli
I am sure you can help me . As i told she is struggling with life for last 44 yrs till date..

Regards

 

[Raji Ram]

[/FONT]Dear madam, I kindly submit to you that the above is a highly presumptous statement. There are many factors as to why no one has replied...

thanks,

But auh ji, sometimes Renu or I have to enter a thread to keep it growing.

 

[prasad1]

But auh ji, sometimes Renu or I have to enter a thread to keep it growing.

We do need Shakti, without that we have to be Shivanena kadi.

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Prasad Sir,

Thank you!

BTW, it is 'ShivanEnnu kida'.

 

[tks]

Wow, what a pronouncement !

A fish cannot control the water it dwells in. Submitting to destiny means acceptance of the things as they are. There is no need to give arms and legs to this statement. If you are confused you can ask for clarification. If the word is ambiguous, you may say so.

Seems you are too keen to jump to conclusions.

Another pronouncement.

Getting carried away with a flawed understanding.

I differ from your half baked conclusion. Imo, an act if done with dedication and willingness becomes a medicine for the mind. It is a form of karma yoga.

Accepting a 'situation' in order to find practical solutions has nothing to do with accepting the idea of destiny.

I only chose to make a critical comment directed at the idea of 'destiny' or 'fate' since such a belief suppresses the natural human response to effect a change. It was not directed at you just like your comment to Smt Raji was only intended at her message the way you received it (and I did not see it that way)

A fish need not want to be out of water. It is its natural habitat. Civilizations have made major progress because human beings have never accepted status quo. Cultures that have accepted destiny as a belief have truly gone downhill. It is a belief more dangerous than even belief in Astrology which at least provides actionable steps, which is what OP was asking.

In any case, I do not expect anyone to change their beliefs. A person into superstitions cannot understand the impact of their belief. A culture into beliefs in destiny can never understand the ill effects it has on a society. You are obviously welcome to hold onto your beliefs in destiny.

It is better to preach what one practices. Asking someone in distress to think all acts as meditation and Karma yoga is not effective.

 

[tbs]

hi

we TBs are very great expert in giving FREE ADVICE for others....lol

 

[renuka]

But auh ji, sometimes Renu or I have to enter a thread to keep it growing.

True RR ji...most of the while a dormant thread starts to sprout when either you or me enter it.

 

[krish44]

I am there to water the sprouts. Hum Hain Na.

 

[paramathman]

it looks to be a nervous disorder due to the combination of moon and saturn. No particulars about academic levels is given. I do not think she she should have any higher education from the horoscope. It is good in other aspects. She must be having lot of conflicting thinking. One solution will be to calm the mind through YOGA and practising chakra movement from moola to forehead. Kindly consult a yoga shastra expert. Light a lamp (akal) daily in a devi temple and pray for early recovery for 45 days. Yoga and practising chakra will have tremendous effect on mind. When the mind is controlled and calmed down, things will start improving. One more is changing her name as per numerology. It might work but I am not sure. If she can read, ask her to spell anchaneya manthra. Sundara gandam also might help. However, It is all at her level to improve. If she minds, she will certainly come to mainstream.sarva sowbagyamasthu. (adithyan)

 

[paramathman]

to rajamanikantan,
There is no use of simply reciting scriptures when god has gifted us with knowledge of medicine. For those affected by nervous disorders, medicines are sanku pushpi, saraswatha gritham, manasamithra vadakam.
Sanku pushpi is a syrup from a flower called sankupushpam. saraswatha gritham is derived out of the stem of
lotus. Manasamithra vadakam is a gulika of combination of herbals.sankupushpi is available with DABUR pharma.The other two are available with kottakkal arya vaidyasala.
You have not described in detail the full extent of problem. If she has occasional bout of explosion, then it is about an incident in her life that is haunting her. I came across two cases.
One. When I went to gunaseelam near trichy, I saw a beautiful girl, crafted out of a gold bar as though, chained and taken by her elderly parents to the perumal sannithi for curing. The problem was that six months after her marriage, she came to know that her husband, an archaka, cannot give her a child. This was great shock and she was always talking about the child, some times going violent, throwing vessels.
The other one was about a girl working in a private company.When she went to godown, a male accompany and tried to molest her violently. This affected her mentally and she became a schizophreniac. With great difficulty, they found out that was the incident frequently, storming her thoughts. I do not know, what it is with your sister. It may be a different one. Anyway you will have to sit with her and find out what exactly hanting her thoughts. There is no meaning in astrological consultations, medicining, using exorcist to drive away the ghost and all that. Strike at the root cause of problem. God is leaving it to you to solve your problem since HE is confident you can solve it.
subamasthu
adithyan

 

[rajamanikantanv]

Dear sir
Thank you very much for your valued comments . Yes She has a nervous problem since the age of 5 . She a actually fell on "Ammi kal"( that we used to use in villages for grinding chutney ) . she had high fever immediately folioed by paralytic attach which got cured and extended to epileptic . She is on Medication since then,, It all started in 1972 and it is still continuing.Have consulted and got treated at Appolo chennai, Nimhans Bangalore, AIIMs Delhi, Ganga Ram hospital Delhi.According to the last visits to Ganaga ram hospital with Ex director of Nimahns she adiviced nothing could be don't to retrieve her from nervous issues . She suggested to take care at home as long as possible . She is taking medicines for both Epilepsy and Psychotic issues as well. I am bit worried , how long is she going to suffer . As life is unpredictable i am taking care of her till now but some thing happened it will be very difficult for my 76 yr old mother. I am sure god won't push her to that extant . Lets see. sir she can read but because of her mood swings she could nt concentrate . All i do her to sit next to me and listen to all the slokas i recite daily for about 1 1/2 hrs. I push her to write Sri Ramajayam with chock in the floor and erase after writing. Rest left to God.

sir one more doubt. Please don't mind. I am planning to relocate to chennai. Is it right choice astrologically . I am pushing it for last two years . Do let me know if possible .

Again thank you very much from bottom of my heart for taking time to guide me .


Rajamanikantan

 

[paramathman]

are you with Lignite? where are you working? I think you have a home in Neyveli if you are an employee. Position in chennai with persons with health problem is very difficult. Land lords may be reluctant. Where iwll be your office. will it be near tambaram? Kindly tell me your date of birth since i lost it

 

[tbs]

Dear sir
Thank you very much for your valued comments . Yes She has a nervous problem since the age of 5 . She a actually fell on "Ammi kal"( that we used to use in villages for grinding chutney ) . she had high fever immediately folioed by paralytic attach which got cured and extended to epileptic . She is on Medication since then,, It all started in 1972 and it is still continuing.Have consulted and got treated at Appolo chennai, Nimhans Bangalore, AIIMs Delhi, Ganga Ram hospital Delhi.According to the last visits to Ganaga ram hospital with Ex director of Nimahns she adiviced nothing could be don't to retrieve her from nervous issues . She suggested to take care at home as long as possible . She is taking medicines for both Epilepsy and Psychotic issues as well. I am bit worried , how long is she going to suffer . As life is unpredictable i am taking care of her till now but some thing happened it will be very difficult for my 76 yr old mother. I am sure god won't push her to that extant . Lets see. sir she can read but because of her mood swings she could nt concentrate . All i do her to sit next to me and listen to all the slokas i recite daily for about 1 1/2 hrs. I push her to write Sri Ramajayam with chock in the floor and erase after writing. Rest left to God.

sir one more doubt. Please don't mind. I am planning to relocate to chennai. Is it right choice astrologically . I am pushing it for last two years . Do let me know if possible .

Again thank you very much from bottom of my heart for taking time to guide me .


Rajamanikantan

hi

some positive and some negative too...is it relocation from DELHI TO CHENNAI?.....firstly some positives....may be avaulable

and affordable OLD AGE HOME FOR BOTH...language/food/culture are fine....the negatives...much conservative system compare

to delhi...may be ANBU THOLLAI WILL BE MORE IN CHENNAI....finally purely personal choice...

 

[rajamanikantanv]

Dear TBs
Thank you very much for your inputs. Sir I am not interested to leave my mother and sister in a home. I have made up my mind to support them as long as possible. I am sure god will bless me with good health to take care of them. Secondly god is kind enough to bless with lovely friends with their support i am today and i am sure this would continue. Look at this thread i don't know any one but such a sweet friends who are adding and sharing their inputs . As we say kaliyugam god cannot come personally but surely he will depute people to take care of his people.
Thanks and Regards

 

[rajamanikantanv]

are you with Lignite? where are you working? I think you have a home in Neyveli if you are an employee. Position in chennai with persons with health problem is very difficult. Land lords may be reluctant. Where iwll be your office. will it be near tambaram? Kindly tell me your date of birth since i lost it

Dear Sir ,
Thank you very much for your reply. I am V.Rajamanikantan date of birth 5th August 1972. 3:30 pm , saturday .Sir at present i am in Delhi. I am not an employee . i do freelance work for documentary and corporate communications film. I chose to be a freelancer because to be at home to take care of my mother and sister. I do have a small house in chennai near Avadi , if at all i need to relocate. i just want to be curious astrologically it is favourable to me..

Thanks and regards