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Americans like answers in black and white, a cultural trait we confirmed last year when the biracial man running for President was routinely called "black".
The flattening of Barack Obama's complex racial background shouldn't have been surprising. Many multiracial historical figures in the U.S. have been reduced (or have reduced themselves) to a single aspect of their racial identities: Booker T. Washington, Tina Turner, and Greg Louganis are three examples. This phenomenon isn't entirely pernicious; it is at least partly rooted in our concern that growing up with a fractured identity is hard on kids. The psychologist J.D. Teicher summarized this view in a 1968 paper: "Although the burden of the Negro child is recognized as a heavy one, that of the Negro-White child is seen to be even heavier."
But new research says this old, problematized view of multiracial identity is outdated. In fact, a new paper in the Journal of Social Issues shows that multiracial adolescents who identify proudly as multiracial fare as well as — and, in many cases, better than — kids who identify with a single group, even if that group is considered high-status (like, say, Asians or whites). This finding was surprising because psychologists have argued for years that mixed-race kids will be better adjusted if they pick a single race as their own.

Are Mixed-Race Children Better Adjusted? - TIME

I know IC/IR is not similar in India, but it has been happening for longer time in western countries and there is study data on this subject.

But one prominent caseof IR produced the brilliant A.R. Rahman right in Tamil Nadu.
 
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It is commonly believed that children born from international marriages are more beautiful, healthier, stronger and smarter. Most weak and unhealthy genes get dropped out in fresh blood if no bad heredity is transmitted. However, let's set aside genealogy and inheritance, and discuss general factors that favor children of international marriages in their growth and development.
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First of all, most mixed children are really smart, educated and intelligent. A child grown up in a multicultural family understands traditions, cultures and other nations better; and therefore, easier adapts in any situation. Such a child also has a better learning ability due to an information-filled life. Mixed children become great diplomats, politics, psychologists, and succeed in various career fields thanks to their open-minded thinking and better adaptive ability in general. Children of an international marriage can speak different (at least two) languages. Studying languages generally has a positive influence on a human brain. Therefore, people that know and can freely speak several languages have better mental abilities, think faster, have higher IQs and run lower risk of developing an Alzheimer's disease. Besides, traveling to other countries and learning the language and the culture from the natives gives a great impulse for further development. Bringing more cultural awareness to children makes their life more sophisticated and helps their education. That is why, children whose parents come from different countries have very favorable environment for personal growth and future success.







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It basically goes back to the POV expressed by others in the thread. We can flog our self or pat our back, but may be we contributed a tiny fraction to the process. The problem is our thinking that we are the doer.

Gita Chapter 16 sloka 16 says

tatraivaḿ sati kartāram
ātmānaḿ kevalaḿ tu yaḥ
paśyaty akṛta-buddhitvān
na sa paśyati durmatiḥ

18.16 In fact, the agency of the individual self is subject to the consent of Supreme Self; such being the case, if the ‘individual self regards Itself as the agent,’ It is of wicked or perverse mind. For, It does not perceive the agent as It really is, since It possesses an ‘uncultivated understanding,’ namely, an understanding which does not reveal the real state of affairs.
Swami Chinmayananda Says:
Karmanye Vaadhika-raste, Maa Phaleshu Kadachana
Maa karma-phala-hetur-bhoorma, MaTe sangostwakarmini.
कर्मण्ये वाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन, मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भूर्मा ते संगोस्त्वकर्मणि ।


Single-pointed, divine-dedicated Karma without desire for the fruits shall bring about inner purification, which is a pre-condition for spiritual awakening. On the surface, it seems almost impossible to act in life without any expectation of results. However, in practice, one discovers after a lot of personal experience that this alone is the very secret of all real achievement.
Krishna is indeed advising Arjuna on the secret art of living an inspired life. To worry over and get anxious for the rewards of actions is to escape from the present moment and live in a future moment that is not yet born! Hence, the doer needs to conserve his mental energy so that it does not dissipate with anxiety created be the future expectation of the fruits of his action. Live in the present moment.
A real Karma Yogi is one who understands that

  1. his concern is with action alone
  2. he has no concern with results
  3. he should not entertain the motive of gaining a fixed (specific) fruit for a given action, and
  4. these ideas do not mean that he should sit back and seek inaction
When we have our children we try to do the best we can as parents. All our efforts may not succeed. Then again when a child is born it did not come with instructions. The help that grand parents, professionals, and friends give does make it easier, but there is no guarantee. To a large extent the child own karma, the DNA, and the environment plays major part. If the child is successful we as parents are proud, but if it is otherwise we just have to accept it.
 
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Now imagine the shock of the TB parent whose IC/IR kids suddenly starts underperforming in the school, colleges, & unable to hold any job, get fired everywhere while their cousins outperform & excel in the world.

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Dear JK,

This is gross generalization.

I am a product of a IC marriage and I do not think I have failed anywhere in my life..I do not want to brag or be accused of bragging but I can safely say I have done very well all my life mainly becos I am a fast learner...I can say the same about both my brothers too.

My pure breed cousins of both sides are also top scorers and are doing well in their lives.

So it has nothing got to do with caste when it comes to intelligence.

But there is one advantage being a product of an IC marriage..that is one tends to have a broader outlook in life...this in my opinion helps a lot in the long run.
 
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the flg is from one of my friends: - srinivasan

While many kids are lucky enough to become the best of friends with their siblings, it's common for brothers and sisters to fight. It's also common for them to swing back and forth between adoring and detesting one other! It can be frustrating and upsetting to watch your kids fight with one another.
The problem that often stems during childhood, if not dealt with in the right manner, can even carry on into adulthood. Thereafter they turn everything into an issue.
Most brothers and sisters experience some degree of jealousy or competition, and this can flare into squabbles and bickering. It's natural in childhood with changing needs, anxieties, and identities to effect how they relate to one another. Teenagers develop a sense of individuality and independence, and might resent interference in personal matters.
Each person has individual temperament. That includes mood, disposition, and adaptability — and this unique personality plays a big role in how well he or she gets along with others.

The way that parents resolve their own problems and disagreements sets a strong example for kids. If parents work through conflicts in a way that's respectful to both, their children will adopt those tactics when they run into problems with one another.

While it may be common for brothers and sisters to fight, it's certainly not pleasant for parents. Whenever possible, they should not get involved. Step in only if there's a danger of greater harm.
Encourage them to resolve the crisis themselves. However, when parents mediate, they should not focus on figuring out which child is to blame. It takes two to fight — anyone who is involved is partly responsible. Who started it becomes immaterial.

In a small percentage of families, the conflict between brothers and sisters is so severe that it disrupts their relationship. Parents helplessly watch the situation. It is at a very old age, siblings realize the fallacy of their quarrel. They try to make up during the last few years of their life. However, their parents, by that time, have left this world.










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