Pressure Of Marriage on Men

[renuka]

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Perfect pitch for another disagreement!

My conclusion is going to be my opening now. The entire thread converts the emotion LOVEE to something of a disease and is looking for another polish greek name. Disgusting, disappointing, discourse doctor dr.DINOSAURS; dotal disagreement.

Another thing i have noticed off-late is the so called LOST IN TRANSLATION. No-body has got a certificate to prove that they actually translated ADVAITA from its original meaning. when i mean original meaning it should include the politico economic aka social climate of the time the word was used and expanded.

So if you translate the arranged marriage thingi ( that is a disease for sure or else i wont call it thingi ) to present climate then it sits top on the head of a dinosaur that as you know is still alive, i mean as fossils with methane perfusing through intense earth.

Dear Sandhya,

I wonder if Dinosaurs are still alive somewhere in some other galaxy.

Sadly our scriptures never speak about Dinosaurs..even in any Purana they do not talk about a Dinosaur.

BTW I used to watch a Cartoon called Dinosaucers where there are good Dinosaurs and Bad Dinosaurs fighting it out in space.

The Bad Dinosaurs are headed by a T Rex and he has rather dumb assistants.

The dumb assistants call the T Rex Bossosauras becos he is their Boss.

It used to be very nice to watch and one starts to wonder may be Dinos are still alive somewhere in space.

I do not really believe anything really goes extinct.

BTW what has Dinosaurs got to do with men feeling pressure with regards to marriage?

Their feelings are fossilized and no one knows they exists?

 

[C RAVI]

Firstly even the existence of Lovvu is debatable!LOL

Really...its the nature of humans to bond with one another to feed the personal egos.

Who feeds our ego the best we love him/her the most!

Dear Renuka,

Luvving some one who feeds our ego is not the Lovvu actually. It's ego massaging and nothing else. People who love some one giving him/her ego massaging is really a stupid person, in my opinion.

A person seeking ego massaging and a person reciprocating it are only fooling themselves. Such lovvu should not be considered as the epitome of LOVE.

Such lovvu will sooner or later end in disaster. Unless, one of the couple is consciously aware of his/her practice of feeding other's ego for the sake of relationship/marriage to continue at any cost.

 

[tbs]

Quite True Renukaji

These youngsters have a lot to learn from wise old people of this forum.

what is stability and maturity requires experience of a kind many of them lack.

first love culminating in marriage can be a disaster,

failed love with arranged marriage later by efforts by parents is the solution to all the problems faced by youngsters.

these lead to a mature approach to love and marriage and in such arranged marriages both boy and girl realise actual separation from spouse is a blessing in disguise to be celebrated.lol

hi

really?..lol

 

[tbs]

Dear Renuka,

Luvving some one who feeds our ego is not the Lovvu actually. It's ego massaging and nothing else. People who love some one giving him/her ego massaging is really a stupid person, in my opinion.

A person seeking ego massaging and a person reciprocating it are only fooling themselves. Such lovvu should not be considered as the epitome of LOVE.

Such lovvu will sooner or later end in disaster. Unless, one of the couple is consciously aware of his/her practice of feeding other's ego for the sake of relationship/marriage to continue at any cost.

hi ravi,

nice to see again....welcome back...after a long silence...

 

[krish44]

Dear Renuka,

Luvving some one who feeds our ego is not the Lovvu actually. It's ego massaging and nothing else. People who love some one giving him/her ego massaging is really a stupid person, in my opinion.

A person seeking ego massaging and a person reciprocating it are only fooling themselves. Such lovvu should not be considered as the epitome of LOVE.

Such lovvu will sooner or later end in disaster. Unless, one of the couple is consciously aware of his/her practice of feeding other's ego for the sake of relationship/marriage to continue at any cost.

At the risk of being labelled stupid, or fool , nothing like ego boosting by ladies . we might even love a person on that basis.

some love relationships end in disaster ,not because of stopping of ego boosting by a lady.

most men require reassurance from ladies that they are the best in the world

I cannot imagine a world where ladies do not worship men.

Thats why men marry uneducated gharelu ladies .These will put pati devatha on a pedestal and keep karva chauth fast and imagine they are like their favourite Gods.

Raviji has missed out on such experiences ,I suspect.lol

Ask TBSji if you have any doubts regarding this.He is the best man to consult on such things.

 

[renuka]

Dear Renuka,

Luvving some one who feeds our ego is not the Lovvu actually. It's ego massaging and nothing else. People who love some one giving him/her ego massaging is really a stupid person, in my opinion.

A person seeking ego massaging and a person reciprocating it are only fooling themselves. Such lovvu should not be considered as the epitome of LOVE.

Such lovvu will sooner or later end in disaster. Unless, one of the couple is consciously aware of his/her practice of feeding other's ego for the sake of relationship/marriage to continue at any cost.

HIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII RAVIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII,

Long time no see!

How are you yaar?

Ok now lets get to the story of Lovvu.

I was talking about Lovvu feeding the ego and now you are saying about massaging the ego?LOL

Well Massaging sounds more interesting!LOL

But as long as the massaging is continued regularly both will be fooled into thinking its True LOVE.

So problem only arises when massaging stops..so new massaging techniques(I mean ego here) should be employed and if not possible they should leave it to the professional masseur (of the ego I mean)

 

[Raji Ram]

For a change... situation message: (specially for Ravi!) :decision:

Love pannunga sir, life nalla irrukum

 

[tbs]

At the risk of being labelled stupid, or fool , nothing like ego boosting by ladies . we might even love a person on that basis.

some love relationships end in disaster ,not because of stopping of ego boosting by a lady.

most men require reassurance from ladies that they are the best in the world

I cannot imagine a world where ladies do not worship men.

Thats why men marry uneducated gharelu ladies .These will put pati devatha on a pedestal and keep karva chauth fast and imagine they are like their favourite Gods.

Raviji has missed out on such experiences ,I suspect.lol

egardinAsk TBSji if you have any doubts rg this.He is the best man to consult on such things.

hi krish sir,

thanks.....just info...ravi knows abt me very welll....we have discussed this subject some yrs ago....

 

[vgane]

I know an inter racial couple..It was a love marriage..Both are earning handsomely....Now a vacancy was there in the husband's company and wife applied and got selected..Now she starts earning more than him in the same Company...This creates problems at home and husband resigns and takes up a new job with better pay & perks...So the males want to be one up over the females too..This is also a psychological urge..How true that we have Suryakanthi in all families ( the 1973 starrer where Muthuraman envies Ex CM JJL because of her earning power)

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Ganesh,

Famous personalities face the risk of hatred from their respective spouses! Some guys are NOT able to digest this

and even take extreme steps like suicide! :sad: We had one such case two years back and I hope you remember that!

 

[krish44]

Rajiramji

We shed tears for famous personalities.[ladies]

Most are not aware how they ill treat their men

Many Singers/ dancers/film stars/ other performing artists in limelight use their men for promoting their careers.

These men end up many times losing their hard earned money and years of their life building the career of their ladies.

In their ambition to make it to the top and staying there , these female personalities ill treat or leave their men and walk off .

Some men even get forced into taking their lives.

RK narayans Guide where the man ends up in jail and also becomes a Sadhu and Raj kapoorS ' mera naam joker" depicting a lady [ padmini] using the hero to climb to

the top as an actress and walking out on him are typical of life of many film personalities/performing artists

even in real life there are many instances of ladies using menfolk to fulfill their career ambitions and later on marginalising or discarding them.

 

[Raji Ram]

Wicked men and women exist, Krish Sir!

But it is rightly said, 'peN endrAl pEyum irangum!' :lol:

 

[V.Balasubramani]

in real life there are many instances of ladies using menfolk to fulfill their career ambitions and later on marginalising or discarding them.

In real life there are many mysterious deaths of celebrities (Ladies) at all over the world. Sample - mysterious deaths at Bollywood - Self explanatory!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S1AmgTuuH8Y

Krish Ji Any idea.....???

 

[renuka]

even in real life there are many instances of ladies using menfolk to fulfill their career ambitions and later on marginalising or discarding them.

Dear Krish ji,

These are the "dumb'' females who discard these males..the "smarter" ones do not ditch them..they simply store them in the recycle bin to be used as an when needed!LOL

Never empty the cache..Never "ditch" anyone..we never know when they might come in handy.

One has to learn to be a "collector" (Not the IAS sorts!LOL)

A "collector" is one who collects all her contacts and knows how to feed their egos that they do not realize that they are just being made use off.

But there is a risk being a "collector"..if the cat is out of the bag..she might end up dead!LOL

 

[krish44]

once people come into the lime limelight , they fail to realise the distinction between real life and make believe world of arc lights and apreciation . many slip into the

world of personal degradation drugs, sleeping pills and hard or adulterated liquor. These people use and misuse themselves and others around them until they slide down and die or go

into anonymity.

 

[V.Balasubramani]

once people come into the lime limelight , they fail to realise the distinction between real life and make believe world of arc lights and apreciation . many slip into the

world of personal degradation drugs, sleeping pills and hard or adulterated liquor. These people use and misuse themselves and others around them until they slide down and die or go

into anonymity.

This can be the most convenient cover up.

Can you declare solemnly that the above cases of deaths are due drug and alcohol only?

If that is the case, these cases would have been disposed of as 'suicide'.

There are lot of cases like this in real life. Exploit the women and pass the buck to drug, sleeping pills, alcohol, etc etc with the help of muscle and money power.

The advantage is the snail’s pace judiciary functioning.

They forget the proverb: 'தன் வினை தன்னை சுடும், ஓட்டை அப்பம் வீட்டை சுடும்’

The day will come when one has to necessarily pay the penalty for all the sins done against the weaker sex.

 

[renuka]

The day will come when one has to necessarily pay the penalty for all the sins done against the weaker sex.

Dear Sir,

These days the 'weaker sex" can be any gender..it depends whom is being victimized at a given situation.

Equal importance should be given to Pen Paavam and Aan Paavam.


I found this question online:


pothuva pen paavam pollathunu solluvoam;
appo aan paavathuku yepadi sollanum?
friends chinna doubt clear pannunga…

 

[V.Balasubramani]

Dear Sir,

These days the 'weaker sex" can be any gender..it depends whom is being victimized at a given situation.

Equal importance should be given to Pen Paavam and Aan Paavam.


I found this question online:


pothuva pen paavam pollathunu solluvoam;
appo aan paavathuku yepadi sollanum?
friends chinna doubt clear pannunga…

Doctor Mam,

It is either, but majority that counts!

 

[krish44]

the thread is about pressure of marriage on men and not some weepy post about abused females .

for abused ladies we can have a separate thread to which men will contribute in large numbers praising all women .lol

men glorify women in public and abuse them home . thats the accepted norm.lol

 

[SANDHYAV]

Most judges are not idiots. Assume you kill someone, and assume the society is smart enough to catch you and put you to court. The judge makes a REASONABLE judgement AND pronounces a VERDICT.

I know where you are coming from. Either you are watching SOLLUVATHELLAM UNMAI or you have stopped keeping abreast of the new statistics. Now you want to challenge this verdict and go public with the view MAKKAL THEERPU IS MAHESWARAN theerpu, you are going in cycles.

I challenge the poster with 44 in the end. ( the reason being i am amazed as to how overnight he became a veteran ). I challenge him for a special gift for his achievement, if he prints flowery language and not just quote silly solo examples.

Let us say a PRESSURE HAS BEEN put on the man in question. HOW LONG do you think it will last? What is the similarity to the person who commits suicide just like our late friend (apparently the media says his mother died and hence he did not have anyone to CHAT, the chap is insane if that is true, he is insane anyway coz he is dead).

I have a parallel question, why people don't respect DIVORCE verdict. Divorce by definition, is a complete division of sexual, family, financial, business contract. Are we AMERICANS not believing in evolution and follow diminution pathway and behave like that street BIT** with Big Brim. I was alluding to the canine vertebrate when i said *ITCH.

(PS; i will open another thread on Law IF my parallel question goes out of hand.)

 

[V.Balasubramani]

the thread is about pressure of marriage on men and not some weepy post about abused females .

for abused ladies we can have a separate thread to which men will contribute in large numbers praising all women .lol

men glorify women in public and abuse them home . thats the accepted norm.lol

It may be one's personal experience.

It cannot be generalized.

You stray out of the topic for every post and expect others to stick to the thread.

Funny thing.lol

Open you own Forum and set rules for others and not for self.

 

[Raji Ram]

..... These are the "dumb'' females who discard these males..the "smarter" ones do not ditch them..they simply store them in the recycle bin to be used as an when needed! .....

Yes, Renu! The smarter ones know the use of a good 'koojA thookki' !

I heard that the parents of the budding female artists in Carnatic music field
are searching for guys who will be = the husband of a famous singer! :fish2:

 

[renuka]

Yes, Renu! The smarter ones know the use of a good 'koojA thookki' !

Yes RR ji...Smart ones know how to do Pooja for the Koojas.

Koojas too enjoy the Pooja not knowing the smart one is only interested in Phala Shruti!LOL

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Krish Sir,

These are named 'Threads' because they can go in any direction!

No thread sticks to the topic and usually divert, sometimes tangentially too!

No to panic when the thread changes direction. You can always bring it back on track. :thumb:

P.S: Ultimately each thread gets the 'Brahma mudichchu', either by request from OP / being idle for three months.

 

[krish44]

Dear RRji
Comment noted.

Thanks