C RAVI
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Once existed this thread that had lots of explanations and justifications both in favor and against of Same Gothram Marriage...
I am proud to be a Brahmin....But many a times I feel sorry for it...Please excuse me if I am offending any one....But there are some hard facts that bothers all of us a lot....
I don't understand as why we Brahmins can't make our life simple by adopting practical approach to our lives???
We all know what is the bottom line of following "GOTHRAM" while making alliance. A boy and a girl from Same gothram constitutes brother-sister relationship.
And this formula is based on Rishis representing different Gothrams some thousand of years back.
I could not understand the logic behind formulating such a restriction based on past dated and ambiguous identity that restricts a Brahmin Boy to get into love and or getting into formal proposal with a Brahmin girl next door (who is no way related).
In order to strictly following this system, parents are delaying their Son / Daughter's marriage...
Unlike other religion we believe and strictly follow matching horoscope (in arrange marriages). We all know that this is the toughest part of the selection process.
If the expectations of a boy and a girl matches well, the horoscope may not be matching and the vice versa.
If at all surprisingly the expectations and horoscope matches all together, same Gothram identity would at last make everything useless and senseless. Ultimately the marriages get delayed.
Due to such unwanted system of same gothram marriage denial, girls and boys start making their own selection unmindful of partner's Religion and Cast...Else would deviate from the path of their chastity.
In Islam as we know there exist only two communities…1) SHIYA MUSLIMS & 2) SUNNA MUSLIMS. But there are no further classifications with-in each community….This makes their marriages easy. They can marry a girl / boy even from different county. For example a Tamil Muslim boy can marry a Srilankan Muslim girl and vice versa as long as both the party belong to the same community. Like wise a U.A.E. national can marry a girl from India who belongs to the same community......there are many alike.
My question is -
1) CAN'T SENIOR, LEARNED AND INFLUENCED BRAHMIN MEMBERS TAKE AN INITIATIVE TO CURB THE EXISTANCE OF SUCH A SYSTEM IN OUR SOCIETY?
2) CAN'T THIS SYSTEM BE PUT TO AN END BY EFFECTIVELY PROPOGANDING AMONG BRAHMIN COMMUNITIES THROUGH ANY OF THE EFFECTIVE MEDIAM SO THAT EVERY FAMILY WOULD ACCEPT THE CHANGE WITHOUT FEELING ASHAMED?
Unless we Brahmins take the initiative to open the "Pandora's Box" and be proactive to eradicate unwanted and baseless believes, the confusions, complications, embarrassments and the fear of losing Brahmins identity in due course of time will all be for ever.
Cheers..
RAVI
I am proud to be a Brahmin....But many a times I feel sorry for it...Please excuse me if I am offending any one....But there are some hard facts that bothers all of us a lot....
I don't understand as why we Brahmins can't make our life simple by adopting practical approach to our lives???
We all know what is the bottom line of following "GOTHRAM" while making alliance. A boy and a girl from Same gothram constitutes brother-sister relationship.
And this formula is based on Rishis representing different Gothrams some thousand of years back.
I could not understand the logic behind formulating such a restriction based on past dated and ambiguous identity that restricts a Brahmin Boy to get into love and or getting into formal proposal with a Brahmin girl next door (who is no way related).
In order to strictly following this system, parents are delaying their Son / Daughter's marriage...
Unlike other religion we believe and strictly follow matching horoscope (in arrange marriages). We all know that this is the toughest part of the selection process.
If the expectations of a boy and a girl matches well, the horoscope may not be matching and the vice versa.
If at all surprisingly the expectations and horoscope matches all together, same Gothram identity would at last make everything useless and senseless. Ultimately the marriages get delayed.
Due to such unwanted system of same gothram marriage denial, girls and boys start making their own selection unmindful of partner's Religion and Cast...Else would deviate from the path of their chastity.
In Islam as we know there exist only two communities…1) SHIYA MUSLIMS & 2) SUNNA MUSLIMS. But there are no further classifications with-in each community….This makes their marriages easy. They can marry a girl / boy even from different county. For example a Tamil Muslim boy can marry a Srilankan Muslim girl and vice versa as long as both the party belong to the same community. Like wise a U.A.E. national can marry a girl from India who belongs to the same community......there are many alike.
My question is -
1) CAN'T SENIOR, LEARNED AND INFLUENCED BRAHMIN MEMBERS TAKE AN INITIATIVE TO CURB THE EXISTANCE OF SUCH A SYSTEM IN OUR SOCIETY?
2) CAN'T THIS SYSTEM BE PUT TO AN END BY EFFECTIVELY PROPOGANDING AMONG BRAHMIN COMMUNITIES THROUGH ANY OF THE EFFECTIVE MEDIAM SO THAT EVERY FAMILY WOULD ACCEPT THE CHANGE WITHOUT FEELING ASHAMED?
Unless we Brahmins take the initiative to open the "Pandora's Box" and be proactive to eradicate unwanted and baseless believes, the confusions, complications, embarrassments and the fear of losing Brahmins identity in due course of time will all be for ever.
Cheers..
RAVI