Same gothram marriage

[pannvalan]

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Sagothram marriages

Sorry, Ravi. Don't feel perturbed. I posted mine, before I could see your reply to Happy Hindu.

You are welcome to express yourself freely in this forum. But, you might have noticed some of us don't continue our posts, after making ourselves adequately understood on any subject. (I crossed the stage in my life when I wished that I must have the last laugh on anything).

I don't have the tenacious nature to keep the debate going, without getting anything fruitful out of it. Probably, it is my mistake I expect others also to behave that way.

Now that you have cleared the misconceptions I had, I once again seek your pardon. I had no intention of hurting your fine feelings.

I wish you marry a girl of your choice, at the earliest.

 

[C RAVI]

Sri Pannvalan ji,

Please don't make me feel embarrassed by asking apology. As an elderly member of this site you have the full rights to express yourself the way you want to MY OPENIONS. I will feel happy that I got a chance to express my self clearly to any one who feel that I am self centered.

ALLAMEY NALLADHUKKU DHAAN

It is the basic human psychology and is universal for the society to consider some one's repeated botherations as that of achieving his/her own personal motive and not of social.

Cheers...

RAVI

 

[SuryaKasyapa]

Sri Ravi
Now that you have dispelled doubts of our honoured members ( about any chance of your choosing a sagothra bride ), I feel you need not not just harp on the single tune.
I feel that you have closed yourself in an invisible cage. Just by open proclamation by somebody that sagothra marriage is now permitted, will all TB bachelors and spinsters going to get married in the next muhurtham? Or do you know for sure how many marriage did not take place only because of sagotra alliance? Sri Ravi, it appears just to be a hypothetical argument. By eliminating just one gotram ( i.e your own or the candidate's)you have still members from many other gotrams.Still selection is there.

Agreeing that you(the candidate) gets only eligible alliance from opposite gender from only the same gotra, Myself and many similar minded pledge that we will approve of the marriage.If need be we shall be there with you for a civil marriage under relevant law.

Are you happy Sri Ravi/ Anything more needed for further confidence.

( I once again invite you to see my earlier post on the similar lines)

Greetings.

 

[C RAVI]

Sri SuryaKasyapa ji,

I don't understand as what makes you to think that I am struggling to achieve what I want for my personal life?

I don't understand as why you want to make me happy as an individual's wish?

I don't understand why are you taking so much efforts in your above single post to convince me in particular.

I have so many doubts as why people considers one's strong view points as that of one's wish - AANDAVA ARRAVADHU ENNIYA KAAPAATHA MATAALA. ENAKU VIDIVUKAALAM VARATHA, ENNAKKU UDHAVI SAIYA YAAROMEY MUNUKKU VARA VATALLA. AANDAVA ENNAKKU ORU NALLA VAZHI KAATU.

I humbly request all the members (again not just for me but for the sake of each member) not to thrust their feedback on any one's view points considering them as his/her personal struggle unless a member is seeking for personal solutions and not accepting the comments/advice/suggestions offered by others.

I strongly believe that my claims are not hypothetical. It's a fact. I have very clearly indicated repeatedly in my previous posts that parents should consider accepting saga-gothram marriages in cases of Love between boys and girls, unable to find a suitable match for a long time and a boy or girl is getting aged and any other case where no more rejections can be made.

Please don't give me any suggestions to benefit me in person until I request members to help me out from a problem.

And as per your general question -
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I feel that you have closed yourself in an invisible cage. Just by open proclamation by somebody that sagothra marriage is now permitted, will all TB bachelors and spinsters going to get married in the next muhurtham?
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- Please be noted that only the repeated discussions and arguments can lead to a change in the society in due course of time.

- I am not expecting any immediate conclusions from the society and that is utter illogical and impractical

- I can just express my views to the best of my capacity and can not expect the society to accept my points and bring changes once for all.

I re-iterate that I re-started this thread only to find more feedbacks on this system for my opinions as a Brahmin who have the right to think for the betterment of the society. If some of the elderly people think that I am perpetrating something against our rich culture, and would be a cause of social destructions, I am extremely sorry for that.

I once again humbly requests members to consider the topics under discussion as in general and not personal unless some one clearly indicates that he/she wants to achieve personal motive.


Cheers...

RAVI

 

[SuryaKasyapa]

Sri Ravi,

The word 'you' used after first two lines in my post should serve as a general pronoun to denote the protagonists of the view. That is why at some palces I have added for clarification- candidate-.

As a community member I have openly expressed my concurrence for the sagotra marriage as "Aapatdharama". I hope many members also will adopt a similar stand when really needed.

May be it will be just the order of the day late on...

 

[dudewarrior]

Help me out - Same Gothram Marriage

Dear all ,

I am a Tamil Bhramin and i have been in love with a Telugu Bhramin girl for the past 7 years ( I am 23 now). !!!

We both are in the United states and we are unfortunately of the same gothram . My side has accepted our marriage but there is a lot of resistance from her side. The only reason that they quote is the same gothram marriage. We belong to Srivasta gothram.

I have been doing a lot of research on this and found out the origin of gothram and With all due respect to our ancestors , i think this is misconceived by a lot of bhramins.

My question is Is it true that if you are marrying a girl of the same gothra but of a different community ( i.e telugu to tamil in my case) the gothra concept is not valid..

Secondly , the only reason that her parents state is that they would not be allowed to participate in any of the wedding ceremony , is that true??? i know that the kanya Dhanam part would not be done by them , but is it true that they would not be allowed to participate in any of the wedding ceremony ???

Any feedback would be very very helpful..

 

[nachi naga]

Dear all ,

I am a Tamil Bhramin and i have been in love with a Telugu Bhramin girl for the past 7 years ( I am 23 now). !!!

We both are in the United states and we are unfortunately of the same gothram . My side has accepted our marriage but there is a lot of resistance from her side. The only reason that they quote is the same gothram marriage. We belong to Srivasta gothram.

I have been doing a lot of research on this and found out the origin of gothram and With all due respect to our ancestors , i think this is misconceived by a lot of bhramins.

My question is Is it true that if you are marrying a girl of the same gothra but of a different community ( i.e telugu to tamil in my case) the gothra concept is not valid..

Secondly , the only reason that her parents state is that they would not be allowed to participate in any of the wedding ceremony , is that true??? i know that the kanya Dhanam part would not be done by them , but is it true that they would not be allowed to participate in any of the wedding ceremony ???

Any feedback would be very very helpful..

only language is diff.imo,its akin to marrying your cousin sister,removed many times in hirerarchy.just check blood group's compatibility,to avoid ,any defective birth of babies,otherwise you are good to go.as far as tradition are concerned,thats purely between families,so you need to be a man and assert just as your lover has to assert with her fmly,both of you,can get married.

 

[vtv_ram9002]

Same Gothram Marriage

Mr.Ravi is to be congratulated for opening the discussion on Same Gothram Marriages.
There has been a sea change on the matrimonial side. It is a fact that a few people have commercialised the matrimonial scene, created artificial scarcity of brides,and are encashing utilising this Demand -Supply Ratio.
Brahmin Boys ,who are unable to cope up with the present artificial scarcity and related high expectations of brides ,are slowly but steadily opting for intercaste marriages.
In such scenerio, there is nothing wrong in sagotram marriages !!