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Stay at home dads and husbands

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prasad1

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There’s a new “trend” in society of “stay at home dads”, or “house husbands”. Typically, we have always seen the man as the provider and woman as the nurturer. Research, biology and statistics have shown women to be far more “able and apt” in the role of the primary care giver. Perhaps that’s true because we are victims of our conditioning, and also victims of stereotyping, but what about new dynamics where men are also exploring their ability and desire to nurture and nest?

Change is always both welcome and met with resistance. A lot of people who I speak to think it’s unacceptable that a man sits at home while his wife goes to work. I feel they are not demeaning men by thinking so, they are demeaning the role of a housewife. If we scoff at a man who sits at home, we in effect are scoffing at every woman who is a sit at home mom and insinuating that her role is not on par in the family and that she does nothing of great significance or value.Stay at home dads and husbands - TOI Blogs

My wife still is working, and I am retired from regular "job". May be I do not qualify for this designation. LOL
 
Right, Prasad ji!

At one of my consulting jobs, I interacted with a woman programmer on a regular basis. From what she told me, she is the supposed 'bread-winner' of the family! She used to be slightly jealous at other double-income households! But what she said, it appeared 'she was having the cake and eating it too' -- for, her hubby who was 'at home' as a house-husband, was collecting disability for some disc-relocation problem in lower back. Thus he was making close to $2000/mo. And, he was there to take care of their little chidlen (2 of them) and driving them to school/back to home, etc. So this lady would work extra 2 hrs each day and be in the good books of the bosses! I told her, her life is heavenly! :)
 
In my long soul-searching moments, I have realized that society's emphasis on money and power is rather pathetic. To be useful member of the society, one needs to contribute productively in some form or other. One can also be a stay-at-home mom or dad and serve disabled elders, volunteer for the physically and mentally challenged, 'bring Lakshmi to the home' by cleaning it, cooking, serving, and do other household jobs too. Contentment is a product of making use of one's resources in the right way and having a balanced and thankful outlook towards things we possess already and this may not come by even for someone who is in the pinnacle of his/her success.
 
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