Sunday Morning Reflections

[krish44]

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Another sunday morning

And a few extra minutes as everything [ mainly food is not timely for consumption] is late unlike normal days

A question . What makes a person simply hang up and give up responding to events around?

I have come across a few overwhelmed with problems simply stop responding and require help

I had a close relative who simply was reported to be in this condition ,he was unable to get up from bed and around 55 yrs at that time.he had stopped going to office and was not interested in having food even.

I took him to a govt hospital who took Xrays from head to foot - a whopping fifteen numbers . He was entitled to it as per govt rules .

I walked off with these and went to a retd army doctor- a renowned one with test reports

He noted down clinically all possible diseases and eliminated one by one by checks until he wrote down NDD.

He said -We call it in army Non Diagnosible Disease and threw us out

we went back to square one.

He went back to his bed and wrote down what all one needs to do after his demise for his wife and children with a promise from me that I will do it for him

He was left alone by me under these circumstances .

After a few days He made an appearance wearing vibhuthi on his head and body and said he was alright and went back to work

he died twenty five years later and he did not do any of the things he wanted to do for his wife or children

I did since I had made the commitment.lol

some are basically incompetent and do not like responsibilities .

they want others to take it on their behalf and be retired laid back senior citizen

are any of you like this?

 

[V.Balasubramani]

Krish Ji,

Life is not made up of bed of roses for many. One needs to struggle to come up.

It is quite challenging. One is expected to rise up to the occasion and to deliver the goods.

Having accepted the role of husband, father etc., one needs to fulfill his responsibilities in the family, Office, etc

Even if one suffers with disabilities of chronic ailment, one can always recover and do wonders. It is still possible.

Perseverance and will power are key words.

I know an Officer who was ailing with diseases linked with diabetes but never gave up his responsibilities despite several odds, bottlenecks, handicaps, hurdles etc. The days this Officer spent at reputed hospitals is more. He got excuse to run the Office from his home and took the opportunity and ensured progress and efficiency in all aspects including Office administration, motivating the staff for best performance during his tenure and thus distinguished himself from other able and active Officers

Some lack such personality as you said and tend to shirk their responsibilities on the disguise of curse, planetary positions in horoscope, age, illness, climate, etc.

The interesting thing is somehow such incompetent persons are easily blessed with a god father who assists them with all empathy.

What is required is will power.

Never give up. Try again should be the motto.

 

[krish44]

See VBji

some when they accept defeat in life, there is no sense in further flogging them. it will only drive them further downhill

there are some people who are basically incompetent and best left to themselves

I know some who are not good at any job inspite of good education who keep complaining of world around them

even in this forum some dysfunctional people curse others for their plight

they post hard luck stories .

they are all looking for saviors and annadatas who will get them out of their difficulties.

even if you put oppurtunities in front of them,they will not reach for it.

My approach for them is , pension them off and take over their assets and liabilities .

in many cases I have found later that they have been sitting on gold mines that they have not exploited . they are just incompetent

all cannot be only excellent . some are messy and not upto the mark.

ask ladies . they put up with very incompetent husbands for a lifetime and run their lives along with theirs.lol

 

[V.Balasubramani]

See VBji

even if you put oppurtunities in front of them,they will not reach for it.

Krish Ji,

I am just going thro the article on Jack Ma of Alibaba.

"Alibaba's Jack Ma: From 'crazy' to China's richest man

His rags-to-riches journey is just as spectacular. A scrawny Ma, just over 5 feet tall, was rejected by KFC and other employers in his hometown of Hangzhou in east China. He believed in the Internet's business potential when few other Chinese did. Outlandish ideas earned him the nickname "Crazy Jack Ma." No one thinks he's mad now, even when dressing in wild wigs and lipstick for his annual meeting where he serenades a stadium full of Alibaba employees."

This one is self-explanatory. It happens now and then, right from Steve Job of Apple to Bill Gates of Microsoft.

Talking about incompetent persons who miserably fail in their personal life to rise upto the occasion and discharge their duties and responsibilities is of no use. One can only pity them.

Such people are nothing but ‘திருஷ்டி பரிகாரம்’.

Unsuccessful in life is not a full stop. What is required is an urge, iron will, burning desire to continue the journey. If one lacks all these qualities despite goading, motivation, etc….they are helpless .lol


Source: Alibaba's Jack Ma: From 'crazy' to China's richest man

 

[krish44]

Adoor Gopalakrishnan , the well known malayali film maker made a film ' Elipathayam' -the rat trap.

the film was a about an aristocrat who stops responding to events around him.

he goes into a shell whenever there is a need for him to act . he also calls for other people to do something if at all to be done

everything falls apart around him. he shuts himself up refusing to responds like a rat in a trap

ultimately he has to be pulled out of his house to face the realities of life.

many are like this

people working for govt. are used to the idea of being status quo ists and wait for someone else above to decide and they would expect colleagues to act on it instead of

themselves.

even in home front they expect others to decide and act on their behalf. it is a kind of fear of acting because of risk of failure . they woud analyse ,tie themselves in knots

thinking of pros and cons and ultimately do nothing or wait for somebody else to do it.

these get by in life . there are people in all families who take over from them and see they are not miserable.

it is plain incompetence and inability to do even small things right.

these are good human beings . they are not crooks .they are incompetent and just that nothing more

 

[renuka]

Dear Krish ji,

How come its always Sunday mornings that you have deep reflections and become rather philosophical?

Could be the hang over of a Saturday night binge of alcohol?LOL

 

[krish44]

Dear Krish ji,

How come its always Sunday mornings that you have deep reflections and become rather philosophical?

Could be the hang over of a Saturday night binge of alcohol?LOL

the reason is in the first post at the top

the breakfast gets delayed for various reasons giving me more time to reflect on the state of the world and on human behaviour

a hungry stomach can make the best philosophical if not violent 'lol

 

[Raji Ram]

High time you give a good alarm clock to your cook and enable her to get up early, on Sunday! :clock:

 

[krish44]

RRji
my one maid went to south due to a personal emergency

she was kind enough to send her sambandhi [can you believe this kind of cooperation between sambandhis]to take care in her absence.

The new lady mixed up the priorities in house work and ended up delaying the breakfast.

one does not say anything to strangers who come to help like this.

I must have been born at the most auspicious time for the way I get treated.lol

 

[V.Balasubramani]

people working for govt. are used to the idea of being status quo ists and wait for someone else above to decide and they would expect colleagues to act on it instead of themselves.

Krish Ji,

As regards incompetent persons, I think it is an odd thought to help them every time as such act will ultimately make them as dependent on someone whenever they face problems. Instead, one can well motivate, train or teach them to handle such situation confidently as it is believed that every individual has immense potent, creativity and competence. What is lacking is the triggering thing which can be tried.

As regards unsuccessful persons, I think when the Almighty God closes one door, it is certain that he is going to open a better one shortly.

Help will come from some quarters.

But one cannot wait for help and sit quiet.

I can quote the following:

"Once the CEO of a leading airline company was asked this question by a journalist, “The market is very bad and the different companies in your industry are not able to survive these tough times. Under such difficult situations how come you have been able to save business grace?” To this, the chief executive officer replied in a story.

Once there was a hungry lion in the forest. It was sick for a few days and as usual had not been to the jungle on prowl. It was being fed by near and dear ones. One day it decided to find prey on its own. The most favorite food for the lion was ‘deer’. Knowing where the tastiest deer would be found, the lion sat behind the high rise leaves near the pond, anxiously waiting for its prey.

The young deer was sick and could not move into the forest in the past few days. The deer was tired of eating what the colleague deer’s would leave behind for it and as such it decided to go on its own into the forest and eat some lush green grass. After having a rich treat of variety of grass, the deer reached near the pond to quench its thirst. First dab and it could hear the whizzing of the lion. In no time the lion attacked this deer and jumped long enough to reach just very close to the deer. The roaring and thumping of the lion was enough to kill a faint hearted animal. By now the deer was already on its runway, crisscrossing the landscape of the forest. Twice it was just into the grip of the lion’s paws and jaws but somehow managed to wriggle out. The intimidating experiences of getting almost into the grip of the lion made the deer run all the more faster.

It was a pin drop silence everywhere in the forest and even the birds had stopped chirping. All other animals hid themselves into their respective safe zones. Each one of them was prepared to witness the frail deer getting butchered by the mighty lion. After making a few rounds into the crazy topography of the forest, something surprising happened. The deer gave a swift jerk and dozed itself into an unknown trajectory. It got successful in teasing the lion and running away into the thick woods. The lion lost and the deer won.

When the CEO finishes narrating this story, the journalist asked, “sir are you the deer?” Yes I am the deer and the recession (here referring to the bad situation in the market) is the lion. Both of them ran in the story but there was a difference in the purpose with which they are running. While the lion ran for food, the deer ran for life! When you run for life, you are bound to give your best and when you run for food you still are only close to your best performance!"

So keep running with the hope for better tomorrow.

The proverb is ‘Self help is the best help’

It is rightly said that "God helps those who help themselves"

Source: http://www.speakingtree.in/spiritua...improvement/run-like-a-deer-not-like-the-lion

 

[Raji Ram]

........... The new lady mixed up the priorities in house work and ended up delaying the breakfast. ............

When we depend on someone, we must learn to wait!! :bored:

 

[krish44]

When we depend on someone, we must learn to wait!! :bored:

RRji
It is often a temptation to become self reliant and take over the work one has ear marked for others.

One then thinks ahead and decides to not to move in.

delegation is always a tricky business.

many times others to whom we delegate may not be fully satisfactory. persistence and helping these to fulfill our jobs for a price will be a better solution

I do not look for perfection from servants

one has to give room for errors,lack of standards due to ignorance .

when servants first come to me , it is only a job.

but the way I handle them giving them freedom, space to perform besides taking active interest in their aspirations and fulfiling them if possible, they bond with me.

then they go out of the way and reciprocate.

my maid who went to south for a commitment there , saw to it I get a close relative of hers to take care of me in her absence

she was not obliged to do that.

what if there is a little wait?

 

[renuka]

Why wait when we can do it ourselves?

I remember once one of my father's friends a newly married couple had come to my parents house.Both were in their late 30's.

The women was telling my dad and I that she feels like going to Puttaparthi but till now she had not got the call from Baba yet.So she has not yet made an attempt to go.

Then my father told her "there is a time for everything..the time will come when you get a call to go"

I didnt find logic in that. I asked her ."when you are hungry..do you go to the restaurant to eat or do you wait for the restaurant to come to you?"

She booked her tickets the very next few days!

My father told me that the couple had gone to Puttaparthi!

So you see Krish ji..why wait?

Either get up and do it yourself or help the person who is trying to prepare your breakfast.

 

[Raji Ram]

........... I do not look for perfection from servants........

Why only from servants? In fact, the best way to enjoy life is to let others do the work in their own style!

My sister-in-law used to get work done by youngsters by saying, 'unakku therinja mAdhiri senjAlE pORum!'.

 

[Raji Ram]

Why wait when we can do it ourselves?......

That is what persons like you and me think, Renu!
Krish Sir is born in a very auspicious time and knows to wait till work is done! :couch2:

 

[krish44]

Why wait when we can do it ourselves?

I remember once one of my father's friends a newly married couple had come to my parents house.Both were in their late 30's.

The women was telling my dad and I that she feels like going to Puttaparthi but till now she had not got the call from Baba yet.So she has not yet made an attempt to go.

Then my father told her "there is a time for everything..the time will come when you get a call to go"

I didnt find logic in that. I asked her ."when you are hungry..do you go to the restaurant to eat or do you wait for the restaurant to come to you?"

She booked her tickets the very next few days!

My father told me that the couple had gone to Puttaparthi!

So you see Krish ji..why wait?

Either get up and do it yourself or help the person who is trying to prepare your breakfast.[/QUOTE

Helping the person in kitchen falls in wifes scope of work.

Not very wise to go near working ladies home offering to help and get a black eye.lol

I have my own tasks in the kitchen which I do every day .

I spend thirty minutes in the kitchen- [ much higher than national average of 19 minutes]. the tasks- filling fresh water in all vessels for cooking, replacing water bottles in

frig ., making coffee liquor for the day.non kitchen work -buy milk , pump water for tanks, and keep house ready for servant take over

In emergency , I can make make breakfast which I alone can eat and probably feed my enemies or dogs to consume.lol

 

[krish44]

That is what persons like you and me think, Renu!
Krish Sir is born in a very auspicious time and knows to wait till work is done! :couch2:

Pl do not be jealous young ladies.

I was elaborating only how to delegate work effectively and be fairly happy.

it is not a gender issue at all.

 

[Raji Ram]

Who is jealous? We only pity the person who can't even prepare his own breakfast

and wait for someone to prepare it and stay :hungry: for hours together!

 

[renuka]

Dear Krish ji,

What is there for anyone to be envious?

I feel sad that you actually had to wait for breakfast!LOL

 

[krish44]

dear renukaji., RajiRamji
It is wise to know what you are good at and what you are incapable of .

thats half the victory in life.

then do only what you are good at and locate others who can take over the other things you are unable to do well.

for decent living a combination of self help and taking help is a must

there is a price to pay in terms of time and money I agree.

but with own capability one can always make up for it elsewhere

all have different capabilities. if everyone started doing everything where would the world be.

one can excel in chosen areas and generate wealth and trade it for services one is not good at doing oneself.

this is the basis of all people opting for different professions and work.

why feel sad and pity?

 

[renuka]

why feel sad and pity?

Becos we cant help it!LOL

 

[krish44]

so sweet of you both .thanks

 

[renuka]

so sweet of you both .thanks

Nope..it was not sweet of me.

I was feeling sad and thought this:

Here is a man famished to the core,
Awaiting his maid to finish her chore,
He rather go hungry and not want his curry,
O' the poor human ever so growling, his belly.

 

[krish44]

Nope..it was not sweet of me.

I was feeling sad and thought this:

Here is a man famished to the core,
Awaiting his maid to finish her chore,
He rather go hungry and not want his curry,
O' the poor human ever so growling, his belly.

great poetry.

but a bit overdone in my case

a few minutes delay is not worth shedding tears

a lot of people sleep hungry as they cannot afford a second meal in the evening.

why make mountains out of a molehill?

I like your leg pulling though

You caught me on this one.lol

I should make up a better story next sunday.

I thought up of a simple one to justify my sunday posts.

I shall think up of a better reason next sunday