Dear Sir,
No, I am not at all into thinking that you should be banned, and I won't do such a thing even if I had the power to do so. But, you might know, spirituality is like a young sapling that needs a lot of attention, time and devotion to grow. So be it Vaishnava, or Smarta or Shaiva, we should all be mindful of each others' spirituality and never let it get diminished by questioning of accepted Itihasas and other standards of works. There is no point in promoting 'atheism' in such a good forum as this!
It may of consequence to let you know that while I observed you and quite some others defending a view 'against Mahabharata', I have yet to come across a Vaishnava in this forum who does the same to Shaiva scriptures or deities. There are also incidences in Shaiva scriptures wherein Sri Vishnu is shown inferior such as in 'Arunachala Mahima' wherein Vishnu and Brahma could not see the head and feet of Shiva when he stood as a flame and it was showing how Shiva is superior to Vishnu. As a counter-argument to the accusations on Mahabharata, nobody criticized these in return! Some knowledgeable Vaishnava can, in essence, bring out a debate with these stories as a retaliation, is it not! Somehow I don't notice Vaishnavas doing that!
So anyway what I stated is not at all to challenge your kind self, I observed you demonstrate exemplary knowledge and within the short time I have been a member here, have grown tremendous respect for you for the same! So having given an explanation for what I meant to say earlier, I now say that I find your respectful and thoughtful message very, very pleasing to receive. So given these qualities in you, I am now given to believe you truly did not mean any harm! A very happy Deepavali to you and your family!
Sincere regards,
Jayashree
Smt. Jayasree,
I feel I will be not be incorrect in assuming that I may be of your father's age (My eldest son is 50 years old.). I have been an ordinary, run-of-the-mill smartha for almost 60 years of my life, when, after retirement and because of my interest in our hindu religion I started reading whatever books I could get hold of relating to this topic. Luckily, my son got for me a table-top PC back in 2000 and since google books could be read without much hassle then, I had the opportunity to read several books by several authors and view points. It was as a result of such reading that I came to know that there are many loopholes in our religion, but (viewing from an ordinary smaartha iyer's pov) we have been bringing up our successive generations by not showing them the week points but trying to build a grandiose structure with carefully ferreted out crumbs. Even the advaita of Shankara does not seem to have been truthfully followed.
If you go back to our archives and verify, you will find that my very first post was about Purushasooktam where the Shudra alone is depicted as "born from the feet of the (sacrificial) Purusha, whereas Braahmanas, Kshatriyas and Vaishyas "form" (aaseet, in Sanskrit), or "make up" (krtaH) giving a subtle indication that while the three upper castes, per se, form or make up the divine Purusha, the shudras were born and so remain unattached to that divine Purusha. The brahmins of old therefore held the view that intrinsically the three upper castes were different and at a higher level as compared to the Shudras. This very first post was non-conformist - both to the Vaishnavas and Smarthas, because both accept the Purushasookta as kind of gospel - and promptly two of my friends (one has quit permanently while the other is a very infrequent visitor nowadays) questioned my source. That, I think, will sum up from where I come, as they say nowadays!
I respectfully beg to differ from your idea that
"spirituality is like a young sapling that needs a lot of attention, time and devotion to grow". If spirituality, whatever it may mean, is to be grown or reared up under 'hothouse' conditions, then it will only end up as sham religiosity. I am not at all familiar with Vaishnava lore, but my impression is that none of the alwars or other great devotees were people who were brought up in the above way. Even if you look outside Vaishnavam, Purandaradasa, Kannappa Nayanar and Ramana Maharshi of recent times show a very different story; that is, spirituality is different from strict conformism to any one religion/schism or group, but it is something inborn and flowers spontaneously at the right time and circumstances. Hence, for grown-up people, like us, who desire to enrich their spirituality by not even going near anything contrary to what they have prejudged as the correct spirituality, the only course open is to avoid interaction with different people, and to join some monastery or hermitage of people with identical religious leanings, I feel.
Having said that, I have nothing to criticize Vishnu about because he is as much a smaartha deity as Vaishnava. Vishnu is also a vedic deva, but Rama and Krishna are
not vedic deities; they are puranic/itihaasic creations.
(Till about 50 years ago no smaartha Vaadhyaar would do any Homam (havan) for Rama, Krishna, Hanumaan, Dattaatreya, Murugan, Parvathy, etc., because all these are outside the purview of the vedic pantheon. It might have changed lately but I am not aware of the situation at present. Sudarsana homam was in vogue even in the olden days and when I asked my jyotisha guru who hailed from a vaadhyaar family and was well-versed in vaideekam also, he said that it (sudarsana homam) is partly Taantric and although the mantra has words like "krishnaaya, govindaaya, gopeejanavallabhaaya", subsequently it changes to "paraaya....etc." and ends up as "hum phat brahmane paramjyotishe swaahaa!" and thus the swaaha is addressed to brahmane paramjyotishe (the super resplendence of the brahman) and not to the krishnaaya etc. I felt it was not a very logically satisfying reply, but being very much elder and my guru, I did not want to put more questions.
There is a Chandikaa Homam and Chandi or Chandikaa is also a non-vedic goddess. I do not know the mantras employed in it nor the exact deity which is created by the aavaahana in that.) Therefore, unlike the vedic pantheon for whom we don't know the earlier history (Rigveda and its pantheon is the very starting point for our hinduism.) we have enough evidence to show that these puraanic deities are all later additions to the pantheon. Naturally, the circumstances and timing of admission of such new godheads comes up very often in this forum, because many people are unaware of the basic principles or history of our religion. Just as Rama, Krishna get discussed, we can have discussions about the inclusion of Murugan, Sivan, Parvathy, Durga, Saastha (Ayyappan); even the serpent worship can be discussed. But somebody has to raise the topic and someone knowledgeable (we had one lady member who was very well versed, but unfortunately she was made to quit.) to answer these doubts.
In my humble view our religion will thrive and prosper only if we allow much fresh air into it and permit our coming generations to question, get answers and practice those which they are convinced about. After all, in the KatHOpanishad, Nachiketa questions the action of his father, and although he fails to get an ultimate answer from Yama himself, we get a good Upanishad!
Finally, I will suggest to you two Tamil books:
இந்து மதம் எங்கே போகிறது?
சடங்குகளின் கதை!
Both are by Agnihotram Ramanuja Thathachariar. You will most probably not like the contents of the books but a careful reading will show to you that healthy questioning of religion or beliefs is not alien to Vaishnavas and this nonagenarian scholar and that too a Thaathaachariar by lineage does such questioning, though in a subtle way. He covers both smaarthas and Vaishnavas.