Shri Sangom Sir :
Thank you for your views.
No doubt, it is the best, if sradhdhams are performed in one's own house. Cooked by the kuta's wife herself.
According to the niyamangal for performing sradhdha, own house is the best or the rented place in which the kurta dwells or at a place for which the rent for performing the sradhdham is paid (sreshtam seriatum pls.).
All may not be having the facility to conduct sradhdhams in their place of living, due to various reasons. Mixture of other than brahmins in a store type accommodation, less space availability etc. When looking for a place to conduct sradhdhams, the role of places like Sankara Mutt etc. arise.
Your view that spending in one/two occasions a sizeable amount for the satisfaction of one's own pitrus need not be made a hue and cry - is well taken. After all they are our own pitrus.
Incidentally, the cost of performing one parvana sradhdham in Chennai, is Rs.3,000/- (all charges including brahmana dhakshinai, provisions, labour etc.). This is a considerable amount for a middle class family.
Not many women are in a position to do the sradhdha samayal, wearing madisar. Lot of poor brahmana mamis are available to fill this gap and they are ready to take the cooking part. These women should observe sradhdha madi. That is all. This option is the second best.
Karta should observe his niyamangal all thro this paksha, or atleast for a week or 3 days. Our sradhdhai and involvement in its conduct matter.
In my parents' days, my mother and all lady members of the family used to talk, almost all the time, about the annual sradhdhams (two or three in a year) in the family. Male members will be worrying - sthanam brahmanas to come in time, should not be raining that week, fuel to be kept in an easily flammable condition, the menu for the lunch, etc. That much sradhdhai was there. Infact, the karma 'sradhdham' got its name, because of the sradhdhai it involves.
Nowadays, sradhdhams can be performed with very least botheration. Infact, like conducting a small party.
Practice of observing Dharmasasthram is becoming near 'not possible' stage now and we have started relaxing Dharmasasthram to our convenience.
A spade is a spade, sir. Let us not 'it is something-else'.
Regards.
அவரவர் இச்சையில் எவை எவை உற்றவை
அவை தருவித்தருள் பெருமாளே!
Thank you for your views.
No doubt, it is the best, if sradhdhams are performed in one's own house. Cooked by the kuta's wife herself.
According to the niyamangal for performing sradhdha, own house is the best or the rented place in which the kurta dwells or at a place for which the rent for performing the sradhdham is paid (sreshtam seriatum pls.).
All may not be having the facility to conduct sradhdhams in their place of living, due to various reasons. Mixture of other than brahmins in a store type accommodation, less space availability etc. When looking for a place to conduct sradhdhams, the role of places like Sankara Mutt etc. arise.
Your view that spending in one/two occasions a sizeable amount for the satisfaction of one's own pitrus need not be made a hue and cry - is well taken. After all they are our own pitrus.
Incidentally, the cost of performing one parvana sradhdham in Chennai, is Rs.3,000/- (all charges including brahmana dhakshinai, provisions, labour etc.). This is a considerable amount for a middle class family.
Not many women are in a position to do the sradhdha samayal, wearing madisar. Lot of poor brahmana mamis are available to fill this gap and they are ready to take the cooking part. These women should observe sradhdha madi. That is all. This option is the second best.
Karta should observe his niyamangal all thro this paksha, or atleast for a week or 3 days. Our sradhdhai and involvement in its conduct matter.
In my parents' days, my mother and all lady members of the family used to talk, almost all the time, about the annual sradhdhams (two or three in a year) in the family. Male members will be worrying - sthanam brahmanas to come in time, should not be raining that week, fuel to be kept in an easily flammable condition, the menu for the lunch, etc. That much sradhdhai was there. Infact, the karma 'sradhdham' got its name, because of the sradhdhai it involves.
Nowadays, sradhdhams can be performed with very least botheration. Infact, like conducting a small party.
Practice of observing Dharmasasthram is becoming near 'not possible' stage now and we have started relaxing Dharmasasthram to our convenience.
A spade is a spade, sir. Let us not 'it is something-else'.
Regards.
அவரவர் இச்சையில் எவை எவை உற்றவை
அவை தருவித்தருள் பெருமாளே!
