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Travails of a female Marketing Executive (Sushi)

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When I mention the word ‘Travails’ I know the imagination of readers may run amuck. But here I am not going to talk about eveteasing etc. I am going to shock you talking about ‘Nature’s call’ and how it becomes the real problem for a female marketing executive particularly when she is required to travel through interior villages visiting factories for marketing her products to achieve the target set for her.

Yes – this is going to be sort autobiography from my side – Till 1992 our organization, a central PSU was the monopoly agency for many minerals and metals and we the employees from peon to executives had a royal life – Many big industrial organizations used to stand in line for getting St. Steel, Sulphur, NF metals etc and though our organization was doing marketing of commodities, we never did any real marketing.

1992 – when liberalization was announced by Indian government and imports and exports of commodities were liberalized, it came as a great shock for us. We had to change our work pattern and many went on VRS too due to not able to cope up with the pressure of doing real marketing.

During 1993 I was made incharge of Sulphur Marketing which involved lots of travelling to sugar factories, viscose manufacturing units and cordite factory which used sulphur for manufacturing their products.

Our organization gave us five star treatment by providing us the best hotel accommodation, flight journeys or rail journeys by 2nd AC and ample daily allowance but still the targets set were quite high and it was real challenging - I really used to enjoy the challenges set forth but travelling to the interior parts of south India had its own problems especially when I visited the sugar factories which were situated very far from the main village due to the toxic discharge.

I used to stay in big hotel either in Tanjore, Trichy, Coimbatore etc and always used to take a bus to the sugar factory. Normally I used to to fix up an appointment with the MD or Marketing Manager from Chennai itself and used to get the travel directions too. I always preferred bus journey due to the safety it gave me instead of taking a car from the hotel because I always loved to be with the people too. Many villagers who travelled with me were so friendly and would tell me so many tales about the villages too.

Everything was fine till it was time for ‘Natures’ Call’ - Normally it took 3 to 4 hours to reach the sugar factory and after some nice marketing talks with the MD, I normally would look out for some rest room facility. I had never seen any woman MD or Marketing Officer and it was real difficult task for me to ask a male executive about rest room facility. Being from a top PSU, I was always given a Queen’s treatment with nice lunch or snacks and coffee, coconut water etc. But my eyes would always be searching for some female employees but most of sugar factories employed mostly men only.

Then finally, I would ask as to availability of toilet facility for me, I had always imagined the man in front of me blushing and that made my task more difficult. But as I knew I had again three to four hours journey back to hotel, I had no other alternative except to ask for toilet facility and many a times the MD would very graciously offer his own toilet to be used.

Once it so happened that there was only Marketing Manager to discuss and when I asked my usual toilet facility he was so apologetic and said that he also used the Men’s toilet in the factory. I knew I could not enter the Men’s toilet but then he solved my predicament by offering to take me to his home which was in the village and we had to travel 20 minutes in his bike, me holding my breath when the bike danced and jumped through the mud and stone filled road to the village.

All through the journey, I could see villagers looking amazingly at me because the sugar factory manager must be a very known person in that locality and a new lady in his bike could have created some riffles too. When we reached his home which was quite small and old, his wife was sitting on the outside verandah and I was afraid, seeing me she may get angry. But even if she had felt anger, she never showed it on her face, welcomed me with folding hands. They introduced their five children and I felt guilty I had not brought even a biscuit packets for them. Then the factory Manager took his wife inside and probably told her my requirement and she came all in laughs and took me to the back of the house. We had to pass through small small ‘nullas’ and reach the toilet space. It was not very clean but at that moment I felt like ‘Hrundi V Bakshi’ played by Peter Sellers in the movie ‘ The Party’ (The party was banned in India but the movie is real great – if anyone gets a DVD please see the movie and you will be laughing laughing – in our family, ‘Hrundi’ is the nick used when anyone is having urgent Nature’s call)

After my important work finished, I thanked them and said I just want to see the village and the wife accompanied me. We went to the only shop in the village and I purchased some pockets of biscuits and also some cheap ballpens and notebooks from the shop and gave it to the wife for giving it to the children. That moment, if it was possible I would have given my kingdom, if I had one to the factory managers family for the relief was that precious.

The journey back was pleasant with eating some biscuits on the way and after reaching hotel having a nice masala dosa and hot chockalate at the room itself. But leaving the above problem, I used to enjoy all my tours as I met lots of people and I could write also while in the hotel rooms even getting a hot coffee at 12 in the midnight.

Await the second episode of the his autobiography which will describe my travails in South Block Delhi as well as in Cordite Factory, Nilgiris.

But here again how I wish even in India we have rest rooms facility like they have even in Starbuck coffee shoppes in USA.

sushi
 
What an interesting and varied life you've lead! I can totally understand your concern over toilet facilities. When my sis and I had gone to our native village a couple of years ago to do some research on my family, we faced a similar problem.We stayed with my husband's cousin, and our biggest concern was that they had an Indian style bathroom (my sis is a bit arthritic) and the Western one was two "motta maadis' away and sprinkled liberally with rat poo, as it hadn't been used in years. We gave some excuse (without hurting our lovely, gracious hosts' feelings) and checked into a hotel.
Remember what the controversial minister Jairam Ramesh said about building toilets rather than temples?Well, we have to take his words not literally but the spirit of what he says is so true. I dread travelling on trains because of the unhygienic loo, and make sure I don't have too many liquids.
Thanks for a really interesting piece, and look forward to your next instalment! :-)
 
Padders thanks for sharing your experience too besides patiently reading mine. I love everything about Indian train journey particularly 2nd AC or First AC but as you say dread the toilet facility. But still I do travel a lot in the trains especially overnight journeys because it is most economical, Infact there is 50% discount for females above the age of 60 and this 50% discount is on the total fare not on base fare only like in flight journeys.

My next episode is going to be on how I benefited by the nature call.. soon ..
 
What an interesting and varied life you've lead! I can totally understand your concern over toilet facilities. When my sis and I had gone to our native village a couple of years ago to do some research on my family, we faced a similar problem.We stayed with my husband's cousin, and our biggest concern was that they had an Indian style bathroom (my sis is a bit arthritic) and the Western one was two "motta maadis' away and sprinkled liberally with rat poo, as it hadn't been used in years. We gave some excuse (without hurting our lovely, gracious hosts' feelings) and checked into a hotel.
Remember what the controversial minister Jairam Ramesh said about building toilets rather than temples?Well, we have to take his words not literally but the spirit of what he says is so true. I dread travelling on trains because of the unhygienic loo, and make sure I don't have too many liquids.
Thanks for a really interesting piece, and look forward to your next instalment! :-)

Yes I have travelled with women in India, and it is a nightmare. Why do we put up with it? In highways at least they have places for women. The trains still are pathetic, so are the villages, and some tourist spots. I sympathize with the ladies and gentlemen too.
 
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Now I have to come to the conclusion not only the world is round but even the networking sites are round and we tend to meet in this website or that website.

Nice to see you here TVK =

best enemy is better than the worst friend - I suppose
 
It is always a problem for women when they travel by Bus in Rural India; There is no proper restrooms for women even in Big Bus Stands; These Bus Groups stops the Bus where they get Free Lunch; they do not think about women passengers plight.
We always go by Car, and stop at a decent hotels where normally a toilet is there for women; but some Hotels have a common toilets for men and women and that puts Women in a big problem.

The Government and State Transport corporation must understand this plight of women Travelers and construct Suitable toilets with sufficient water facility.
 
PJ,

when 2/3 of the country do their business out in the open, the travails of a few elitists indulging in tourism, is bound to get little attention or relief.

we might all as well carry a bottle and a funnel/hose and hide under a bush or behind a building :)

and for females coming from abroad, they might bring one of these illustrated below...

f1.webp

f2.webp

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Dear PJ,

thanks for understanding - though my office management were magnanimous in providing ample daily allowance and even taxi fare where necessary, I normally took a bus journey with two reasons.

1) It was safer to travel in a bus than traveling alone in a car to the outskirts of a villages as sugar factories were situated normally away from the villages.

2) Basically I am a people's person and love being with people talking to them - villagers provided very interesting stories which i could use for my freelance writing to the tamil magazines.

Recently I travelled to Shirdi with my siblings and family by bus but the bus stopped in a nice daaba where more than the food, the rest rooms were more comforting.

Many times during train journeys we complain about unhygenic toilets but many times we ourselves also partly to be blamed for that -

thanks for your feedback.
 
Dear Kunjuppu,

I think you read Karl Marx - May be I am wrong but your speaking for the common people rather I would use downtrodden poor people who don't even have private rest rooms. I do agree in some respects with you but your
usage of the word 'elite' is not what the traveling marketing executive is supposed to be. They have to earn their
living for their family and they cannot say 'no' to their management too - they get equal pay like their male counterparts and hence are required to do the same job. But besides working like a man in the organization they need play double role as wife, mother, daughterinlaw etc etc at home. A male counterpart can go home throw away his laptop bag and lie on the settee stating that 'what a tiring day it was' but can the so called 'elite' female executive do that when she reaches home.- children will be waiting for her and hubby and in laws will be waiting for her to enter the kitchen.

Do you know even the the so called 'elite' female executive is travelling in the bus, her mind will be working on what is to be cooked for the next day, what homework the children need to do or how to apply for leave without getting to see the wrath of the boss -

It is not easy to be a female executive - Kunjappu - As you go higher, criticism increases that much more.

This is not to counter your views but to take the opportunity to bring forth the other side of the so called elite female executive who are very well dressed and show only the bright side to the outside world - they can only act like that and yes - acting - is the correct usage.

thanks for giving me one opportunity.
 
kunjuppu

i am using Depends whenever I travel by Car in India as well as in US.
It is also available for women.

It is advisable for any one who makes long journey by bus/ car in rural India to have few of them with them.

Depend For Men Maximum Absorbency Guards, Depend Underwear for Men, Incontinence Pads for Men

Depend for Women Underwear Maximum Absorbency, Large, 28 Count - Walmart.com

PJ,

the problem is there when you need to go #2.

Depend is not dependable then.

or, is it?
 
kunjuppu

lol... it can withhold that too for sometime!!! Large sturdy sizes are available !!

Only thing is that others who travel with you, would move Far away from you!!!
 
kunjuppu

lol... it can withhold that too for sometime!!! Large sturdy sizes are available !!

Only thing is that others who travel with you, would move Far away from you!!!

not much of a chance in a car..only way to relieve the fragrance, is to keep the windows open, i guess.
 
kunjuppu

others who travel with you in the car will curse you.

I had a big problem while traveling from Chicago to Heathrow ( UK) , 20 minutes before landing , seat Belt lights were switched on, and no one is allowed to get up and use Toilets till the Seat Belt Sign is again switched off; After landing , it took another Hour to find a parking Bay with the result, most of the people had very tough time controlling nature call.



The moment when finally the Aircraft Stopped and Seat belt lights were switched off, many people got up and blocked the way to toilets; With great difficulty when i reached the Toilet , already 5 passengers before me on the line; it was again a real painful waiting for me i ever underwent.


Even my safe guard depends gave way!!

I always keep extra pants, under garments. depends in the Pullman , for emergency use; that saved me my position later on.

Remember Unlike Chicago, Heathrow is having fewer toilets located far away from the arrival gate.
 
Remember Unlike Chicago, Heathrow is having fewer toilets located far away from the arrival gate.

yes. could never figure that out at heathrow. they had a few more, but of late, only two sets, at the two ends at terminal 3. which is the terminal i use often.

i think T4 and T5 may be a bit better? no?
 
In their hurry to exhibit their knowledge on dependable depends to be used on such situations , Shri PJ and Shri Kunjappu forgot to read the travails of female marketing executive little more attentively. In fact I am amazed at the knowledge exhibited by them that too with illustrations and JPGs - I feel they can achieve a Phd on this subject if they really try. But one thing they both forgot is this is a scene in Indian Village and not in Heathrow or somewhere on a foreign land.

They both I suppose would not have forgotten the days they lived in India and I am sure they both will thank me for the opportunity given my me to them for showing their technical knowledge on dependable depends, the odour or aroma as they can term it connected with such depends, the size specificationetc. But all said and done, I would like to ring to their knowledge one important factor ie

Most of the villages in India have only one or two daily buses coming and going and once you miss the bus, you really 'miss the bus' too. The bus journey from the city to the village takes around 3 to 4 hours with many stoppages during the journey but if you get down to relieve yourself with all the gadgets so beautifully !! illustratved by Mr. Kunjappu, the bus will leave you in the lurch (pun really internded) and go - the other bus in that direction may be only after 4 or 5 hours and till that time you have to wait with noone to give you company as the bus passesngers only come to the stop at the stipulated time.

So please, instead of trying to exhibit your technical knowledge, just try to understand the real difficulties faced by the female executives and try not to make fun of their plight.

thanks for all the pains taken by you..
 
Terminal 5; one has to walk walk and go on walking to reach connecting Gate in the same Terminal.

Better to have Wheel Chair Assistance in Heathrow.
 
It is always a problem for women when they travel by Bus in Rural India;

Tell me about it...how can I forget in 1993 I was travelling late night outstation with my mum in India and the bus stopped at some Hassan district and there was no toilet at all.

All men and women had to go to some nearby jungle area to pass urine.

So women stood guard for each other and to my horror I never realized some pigs were seated next to me in the jungle area!

I then came out running and told my mum that there are pigs in this area where everyone is pissing.

My mum refused to go there!LOL
 
Tell me about it...how can I forget in 1993 I was travelling late night outstation with my mum in India and the bus stopped at some Hassan district and there was no toilet at all.

All men and women had to go to some nearby jungle area to pass urine.

So women stood guard for each other and to my horror I never realized some pigs were seated next to me in the jungle area!

I then came out running and told my mum that there are pigs in this area where everyone is pissing.

My mum refused to go there!LOL

dear renus,

some pig went hungry that night, thanks to your mom and you :) i have heard human execrement and discharge, are food for some species of pigs :)
 
In their hurry to exhibit their knowledge on dependable depends to be used on such situations , Shri PJ and Shri Kunjappu forgot to read the travails of female marketing executive little more attentively. In fact I am amazed at the knowledge exhibited by them that too with illustrations and JPGs - I feel they can achieve a Phd on this subject if they really try. But one thing they both forgot is this is a scene in Indian Village and not in Heathrow or somewhere on a foreign land.

They both I suppose would not have forgotten the days they lived in India and I am sure they both will thank me for the opportunity given my me to them for showing their technical knowledge on dependable depends, the odour or aroma as they can term it connected with such depends, the size specificationetc. But all said and done, I would like to ring to their knowledge one important factor ie

Most of the villages in India have only one or two daily buses coming and going and once you miss the bus, you really 'miss the bus' too. The bus journey from the city to the village takes around 3 to 4 hours with many stoppages during the journey but if you get down to relieve yourself with all the gadgets so beautifully !! illustratved by Mr. Kunjappu, the bus will leave you in the lurch (pun really internded) and go - the other bus in that direction may be only after 4 or 5 hours and till that time you have to wait with noone to give you company as the bus passesngers only come to the stop at the stipulated time.

So please, instead of trying to exhibit your technical knowledge, just try to understand the real difficulties faced by the female executives and try not to make fun of their plight.

thanks for all the pains taken by you..

dear sushi,

you and countless others in your situation have my utmost sympathies. when i was young, i used to go to my maternal grand parents' town in north malabar where the toilet was just a bucket in the ground cleared every 3 days by humans.

the women who cleared this, were fairer and prettier than many in my household. i used to look forward to doing my business immediately after it was cleared, because that is the only occassion when the bucket was close to empty.


it was always about 2 or 3 women, accompanied by a man who came driving a bullock which pulled an old petrol tank into which this waste was dumped, and inturn into some land fill out of sight.

i have read that 2/3 of india still use this method or use the outside as their toilets.

btw i would imagine an executive would have the benefit of a car. after all, even a starting level salesman these days gets a mobike. no matter what, i agree with you that this is a major problem and the organizers have to be told in advance to provide sufficient facilities. that is the only way, i think, the discomfort can be mitigated, if not avoided or resolved altogether.

confucius apparently has said that going #1 is the biggest pleasure on earth, closely followed by #2. hopefully, you yourself, i pray, are not put into situation any more, to deprive you of your god given pleasures.

have a good day :)
 
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