Padmanabhan Janakiraman
Member
When you become Single after your partner leaves!!!
When you are over 65/75/80 live a life without worrying about your near and dear because, they do not bother about what you think or and what decisions you make.
Facing the future without a husband or wife can be scary. Many men and women have never lived alone.
Your siblings living in far off lands do not attach much importance to your wealth, in whatever form you have; they only wish for you live a healthy and peaceful life.
Live authentically, simply, and happily, and do what feels right for you. As long as you feel happy with yourself, nothing else matters.
Life with your partner is smooth as long as there are no health issues, take regular check ups, do daily morning walks, and have regular food habits.
When you become single after one of you departs, life looks empty, you may feel guilty for being the one who is still alive. At some point, you may even feel angry at your partner for leaving you. All of these feelings are normal.
For a while, family and friends may be around to assist you. But, there comes a time when you will have to face the change in your life.
Do not try to move and live with you son or daughter who are in far off lands that will put an additional burden on them.
( our Daughter living in UK, tried to keep us with them applying for citizenship etc, but we did not agree as i am undergoing treatment for my health issues in Chennai, My Wife Too.. We felt EAST or WEST , India is the BEST FOR MEDICAL CARE.)\
You may find fault with their normal behavior, and end up returning to India.
It will take time for the whole family to adjust to life without your partner; you may find that your relationship with your children and their relationships with each other have changed. Open, honest communication is important.
Also Health Care cost is too high in any western countries; India is the best for any medical emergencies.
Live where you live with your partner, so that you may feel the presence of the other; going and living with another family, another rented home, or living in Care home will make you miserable.
Keep a note of all the things and disclose to your Son- Daughter- Daughter in Law and son in law.
(We have written in a Note book , and written where we have kep Almerah, Key etc, Gas Connection Details, Advance amount Paid to house owner ,His address , etc etc and told about that to our daughter and son )
When you are ready, go through your husband’s or wife’s clothes and other personal items.
It may be hard to give away these belongings. Instead of parting with everything at once, you might make three piles: one to keep, one to give away, and one “not sure.” Ask your children or others to help. Think about setting aside items like a special piece of clothing, watch, or picture to give to your children or grandchildren as personal reminders of your partner.
Dispose of all many Deity Pictures, as no one take it after you depart.
Dispose of items in Loft which are staying over there for a long time without any use.
Keep money in your SB account, giving nomination to son/ daughter ; do not put money in Mutual Funds, Bonds etc as they are subject to market fluctations.
Do not keep many Bank Accounts, one is more than enough...
Write how simple your final rites are to be done and disclose that to your son/ daughter./ daughter in law and son in Law
If you wish to donate your eyes after you depart, let your siblings know about it much earlier.
Time will not move ; try to read, write in Social Forums, watch TV , play Games on internet like Chess.
WHICH I AM DOING NOW, NOT BOTHERED ABOUT CRITICISM ABOUT MY POSTS.
Watch children playing and how they communicate with each other; will bring your old memories..
Give Telephone numbers of your Son/ Daughter/ Daughter in law and son in law to your Neighbor, brother/Sister , and ask them to inform your close siblings.
Do not be alone, and keep a servant boy/ lady during nights; if you are sick, need assistance all the time, engage a trained nurse with you all the time; Money is matter, your siblings will take care of it.
Do not wish/ expect your close siblings to call and talk to you every day, they love you, but they may not have enough time to spare time and talk to you every day.
Take time to adjust your life without your partner.
It is easy to give advice, but difficult to follow that advice.
Every day is a God send Gift, Thank Him, and wait for your time to meet your partner in another world!!
Sharing my thoughts with you....
When you are over 65/75/80 live a life without worrying about your near and dear because, they do not bother about what you think or and what decisions you make.
Facing the future without a husband or wife can be scary. Many men and women have never lived alone.
Your siblings living in far off lands do not attach much importance to your wealth, in whatever form you have; they only wish for you live a healthy and peaceful life.
Live authentically, simply, and happily, and do what feels right for you. As long as you feel happy with yourself, nothing else matters.
Life with your partner is smooth as long as there are no health issues, take regular check ups, do daily morning walks, and have regular food habits.
When you become single after one of you departs, life looks empty, you may feel guilty for being the one who is still alive. At some point, you may even feel angry at your partner for leaving you. All of these feelings are normal.
For a while, family and friends may be around to assist you. But, there comes a time when you will have to face the change in your life.
Do not try to move and live with you son or daughter who are in far off lands that will put an additional burden on them.
( our Daughter living in UK, tried to keep us with them applying for citizenship etc, but we did not agree as i am undergoing treatment for my health issues in Chennai, My Wife Too.. We felt EAST or WEST , India is the BEST FOR MEDICAL CARE.)\
You may find fault with their normal behavior, and end up returning to India.
It will take time for the whole family to adjust to life without your partner; you may find that your relationship with your children and their relationships with each other have changed. Open, honest communication is important.
Also Health Care cost is too high in any western countries; India is the best for any medical emergencies.
Live where you live with your partner, so that you may feel the presence of the other; going and living with another family, another rented home, or living in Care home will make you miserable.
Keep a note of all the things and disclose to your Son- Daughter- Daughter in Law and son in law.
(We have written in a Note book , and written where we have kep Almerah, Key etc, Gas Connection Details, Advance amount Paid to house owner ,His address , etc etc and told about that to our daughter and son )
When you are ready, go through your husband’s or wife’s clothes and other personal items.
It may be hard to give away these belongings. Instead of parting with everything at once, you might make three piles: one to keep, one to give away, and one “not sure.” Ask your children or others to help. Think about setting aside items like a special piece of clothing, watch, or picture to give to your children or grandchildren as personal reminders of your partner.
Dispose of all many Deity Pictures, as no one take it after you depart.
Dispose of items in Loft which are staying over there for a long time without any use.
Keep money in your SB account, giving nomination to son/ daughter ; do not put money in Mutual Funds, Bonds etc as they are subject to market fluctations.
Do not keep many Bank Accounts, one is more than enough...
Write how simple your final rites are to be done and disclose that to your son/ daughter./ daughter in law and son in Law
If you wish to donate your eyes after you depart, let your siblings know about it much earlier.
Time will not move ; try to read, write in Social Forums, watch TV , play Games on internet like Chess.
WHICH I AM DOING NOW, NOT BOTHERED ABOUT CRITICISM ABOUT MY POSTS.
Watch children playing and how they communicate with each other; will bring your old memories..
Give Telephone numbers of your Son/ Daughter/ Daughter in law and son in law to your Neighbor, brother/Sister , and ask them to inform your close siblings.
Do not be alone, and keep a servant boy/ lady during nights; if you are sick, need assistance all the time, engage a trained nurse with you all the time; Money is matter, your siblings will take care of it.
Do not wish/ expect your close siblings to call and talk to you every day, they love you, but they may not have enough time to spare time and talk to you every day.
Take time to adjust your life without your partner.
It is easy to give advice, but difficult to follow that advice.
Every day is a God send Gift, Thank Him, and wait for your time to meet your partner in another world!!
Sharing my thoughts with you....
