Dear Renuka,
It is correct view to think of online flirting as a form of adultery.
About 12 yrs ago, there was a rough patch in my career when I was unemployed for a brief gap. I was totally devastated at that time because I couldn't find another job (this was following 9/11 recession). Unfortunately at that time, my hubby was a different man and he chose not to be very supportive of me, as I had resigned voluntarily my previous job for pursuing studies in a hope to get some best employment opportunities. We exchanged frequent heated words and it was a very dull and trialsome period. Then one day I found this online Indian astrology site and I was hooked. There was a young man in there - a decent fellow who knew astrology pretty well. I learnt a lot of interesting pointers and celebrity charts from him. About 2 or 3 months like this passed by. Then suddenly there came a new member -- a man who lived in CA, USA who was a 3-time divorcee and spoke and acted like a 'porukki' and he started cyber-stalking me in that forum. He thought I was flirting with that 1st guy I was talking to (from whom I learnt many factors in astrology) and started posting vulgar remarks about me. Other times he was hostile trying to pick a fight with me, whatever I said. As I was totally addicted to that site (I used to post about 20 messages there each day), I couldn't keep without posting either. That site was unmoderated for the most part. And about 3 months went like this. And then that was the time I decided enough was enough, even if I could not find job in my field, let me take up some other low-paying job for the time being and get myself off of the internet and this womanizing abuser and I took some low-paying jobs. That was how I eventually came out of my internet addiction then. Since then I have been very careful in cyber-communicating, especially with men. So I totally agree with you, there is indeed a form of 'flirting' which is 'cyber-flirting' and this is definitely unacceptable, though it does not involve sex.
Dear JR,
You are absolutely right...one has to be very careful online.
But at the same time knowing what is out there in the cyber-world is also important so that we can warn our children of the danger that lurks.
For example in my Skype account I have been getting non stop friends request from guys who claim to be from the US army and post pics of themselves..mostly claim to be some Left.General!LOL
Then they keep sending messages even though I did not accept their request and they all have something in common that is they all claim to be stationed in Syria and their names are western names but the Skype ID sound very Muslim.
So I get a feeling these guys could be ISIS members...cos they have been influencing young girls/women/children here to join them..so they try to first act as if they are from the US army and post pics of handsome white males in uniform hoping some female will get excited and respond to them and then slowly introduce their twisted ideology.
Recently out here the Police managed to stop a 14 year old girl from boarding a flight to Turki to get to Syria and join ISIS to marry an ISIS member.
She got to know him from Facebook.
So right now most of us who are in our late 40's already know the ways of the world and wont be easily conned by these guys.
But whatever said and done..internet friendship is very much like real friendship when it comes to emotions..anger..etc.
Then we humans realize that we are mainly a mind based creature and thats all there is to being human.
BTW I have noted that most religious based forums have many perverts.
When I was in Facebook I used to be active in some religious based groups and you would be surprised to know that many perverts love religion!LOL
Anyway now I am not in FB..got bored of it.
