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Who Gives More Elder Care? Daughters or Sons?

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Oh, Renu!

I should say this is the best joke of the day! :D
RRJi
You are yet to understand Rji

pl do not dismiss it of as a joke

it is only a matter of feeling inside

we all play games with ourselves

we do not project many times what we really are deep down

projection of a modern mindset could be to counter the exacting needs of a profession needing close interactions with a wide spectrum of people of various backgrounds

who are very demanding and taking a toll on a person. one may put up a front to meet the needs of a profession and could want to be a peaceful conservative wife and

mother at home

recently there was a TV ad where the lady as the boss of husband in office tells him to work overtime to keep to the schedule .then she goes home to cook for him and

tells him return soon also as she is waiting for him as a wife. in this dual role she performs contradictory functions of highly demanding boss and dutiful wife at the same time

most of the so called modern working girls face this dilemma.

some under the excuse of raising children hang up after a few years of professional life

some others are hammered to the cross of double life ,thinking of children and husband at work place and thinking of job when they are home .

I pity both classes of women as there is no answer as to what they should be doing
 
Dear Renu,

The qualities you have are not branded as traditional!

They are the qualities of a satvic person.

Meaning of Satvic = True, virtuous!

Hence you are satvic ! :angel:
 
Dear Renu,

The qualities you have are not branded as traditional!

They are the qualities of a satvic person.

Meaning of Satvic = True, virtuous!

Hence you are satvic ! :angel:


Dear RR ji,

I do have my Rajas and Tamas side too!LOL

So you see that means I am "traditional" cos I have all 3 Gunas..Gunas date back to creation..Gunas are a Purana by itself..going by this logic..that means I am traditional and so is the rest of the world. There is nothing modern in the real sense!

I think I have confused you enough!LOL
 
Dear Krish Sir,

Renu herself has written often times that she did not want the ladies who come as her in-laws to be traditional, meaning that they

should not wear big pottu or insist her to wear a thAli! She does not want to tie up a saree unless it is a megaaaaaa function.

In usual tambram view these are not considered traditional! Hence my comment. Please don't consider it as any offense! :nono:

I consider Renu a satvic person with modern outlook! :cool:
 
Dear RR ji,

I do have my Rajas and Tamas side too!LOL

So you see that means I am "traditional" cos I have all 3 Gunas..Gunas date back to creation..Gunas are a Purana by itself..going by this logic..that means I am traditional and so is the rest of the world. There is nothing modern in the real sense!

I think I have confused you enough!LOL
Dear Renu,

I am not confused at all! Tradition has totally a different meaning, in the usual dictionary, which is not your definition.

So we need not go back to the day of creation to check for tradition! :spy:
 
Agreed Renu! YOU consider so !! :D

dear RR ji,

Let me try to convince you..a few years back when my maternal grandmum laying dying on her bed in the hospital(she died of old age some 93 I think)...she seemed to be dragging too long..everyone was wondering what was holding her back.

Then I thought she has been a Rama bhakta all her life..so when no one was around I recited Hanuman Chalisa for her and after I finished it she breathed her last peacefully.

So you see I am traditional.
 
dear RR ji,

Let me try to convince you..a few years back when my maternal grandmum laying dying on her bed in the hospital(she died of old age some 93 I think)...she seemed to be dragging too long..everyone was wondering what was holding her back.

Then I thought she has been a Rama bhakta all her life..so when no one was around I recited Hanuman Chalisa for her and after I finished it she breathed her last peacefully.

So you see I am traditional.
RRji
The post 34 above conclusively establishes Rji is very traditional and nothing else. lol
 
certainly daughters..but onlt to their parent...not to inlaws!!!!

There are exceptions ramkiji

our daughter in law treats us like her parents!!

I also know many such daughter in laws treats their in laws like their own parents

But they are probably very few !!
 
we are discussing only Daughter in laws and In Laws... what about Mother in laws seeing their daughter in laws as their own daughter ?
 
we are discussing only Daughter in laws and In Laws... what about Mother in laws seeing their daughter in laws as their own daughter ?

From my personal experience the answer is NO!

I feel the MIL DIL relationship is like Maya..that is you can never define it.

Both MIL DIL might get along well but deep down inside there is always an index of suspicion of each other even though well concealed.

A MIL who has daughters will never think of her DIL as a daughter and a MIL who has only sons will always feel that her son will be "taken away" by her DIL.

My final diagnosis is most females rarely tolerate each other.

I have noted than even sisters dont really 100% love each other..they only get together close when they is some juicy gossip to share.

So the best thing is for any female to do is try not to fit anyone else into roles we already know.Just like we let a husband be a husband and not try to make him a brother.


Let a MIL remain a MIL and let a DIL remain a DIL..it is almost impossible to think of a MIL as mother and a DIL as a daughter.

Believe me it never works.
 
renukaji

your final diagnosis is probably right, let me wait for Raji Madam's view as no two woman agree on anything!!!
 
renukaji

your final diagnosis is probably right, let me wait for Raji Madam's view as no two woman agree on anything!!!
PJsir
RRji might feel harassed and decide to bury herself in music videos or write some poems both better activities than MIL-DIL jhagdas

MIls and DILs make life hell for menfolk

when ladies enter even the virtual world ie cyber space in this avathar,it is best to move on to better topics. lol
 
renukaji

your final diagnosis is probably right, let me wait for Raji Madam's view as no two woman agree on anything!!!


Dear PJ sir,

True true..no 2 females agree on anything..I feel I am traditional but RR ji does not agree!LOL
 
Dear Krish Sir,

Lord Vinayaka kept me busy till our lunch time and hence the delay in entering forum today! :)

There are some ms i l who treat their ds i l as their own daughter and vice versa! :hug:

The star Ayilyam is supposed to harm the m i l but in my extended family a girl born in that star is taking care of

her m i l for nearly 35 years now and she also fights with her as a daughter!

P.S: There are exception in everything! :cool:

It is also a fact that most of the ms i l are terrified to act bad to the ds i l ! :fear:
 
Dear Krish Sir,

Lord Vinayaka kept me busy till our lunch time and hence the delay in entering forum today! :)

There are some ms i l who treat their ds i l as their own daughter and vice versa! :hug:

The star Ayilyam is supposed to harm the m i l but in my extended family a girl born in that star is taking care of

her m i l for nearly 35 years now and she also fights with her as a daughter!

P.S: There are exception in everything! :cool:

It is also a fact that most of the ms i l are terrified to act bad to the ds i l ! :fear:
You know RRji
My daughter s star is also ayilyum

when I was trying for a match for her in the conventional route , one lady said she would boldly risk [this is the expression she used] accepting my daughter if her

son liked her. later on the match did not work out for other reasons

matrimonial sites have lot of girls with stars such as Ayilyum and kettai which many do not accept. it is unfortunate that girls are not considered suitable because of

birth stars

later on when she got married the boys family did not mention the word horoscope . they went up in my estimation.

these days Mils and dils play games with each other. there is an undercurrent of mutual suspicion while there is bonhomie on the surface.

it is the boys who suffer caught between the devil and deep sea

wish you a happy ganesh chaturthi

you were getting missed in the morning
 
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